Topless in Dubai !

There is a local newspaper here, called 7 Days. It is distributed free of charge. Till some time last year, we too, used to get it delivered to our home free of charge, until, I discovered the most interesting thing in that newspaper is the “letter to editor, which is used as a tool by the foreign expats to vent out against so many mundane issues .. virtually anything will do ! 

One thing I never understand is the western people who come to work in Dubai !!  While they are in which ever western country that they come from, they have already heard hoards of stories about Dubai in the positive light. They are excieted, get a job and want to stay here. Yet as soon as they land up in Dubai, they start their whinning about EVERYTHING, wanting to make Dubai, a western country.

They forget this is a muslim arab country. The law is Shariah. The culture is Arabic and the Religion is Islam.

Imagine the audacity of a tiny portion of western ladies, wanting to go topless on the beach !!! Not only for the arab world, but in my opinion, for any part of the world, I think, it is utterly ridiculous and obsence ! I would not want to visit the public beaches with my 9 and 7 year old boys knowing they will be exposed to such indecency.  Thank God, these women are far inbetween the very minority of the foreign population. 

At Mall of Emirates.

At Mall of Emirates.

This photo was taken at Mall of the Emirates where they have a dress code !! It is pasted on every entrance yet women like her challenge it !   Can someone please explain how small can this woman’s shorts really get ? 

This is one of the reasons, we have stopped going to Mercato Mall.  The crowd is a mix of older school students baring all their skin in minimalistic clothes. Behaving absolutely non-lady like. And they feel they are looked upon for such behaviour !!  Why are they inviting trouble ??  

Indecent proposal

Indecent proposal

 Whats really sad is that this girl does not have any respect for her arab friend, or else she would have worn something appropriate, looking less of a  _ _ _ _  indecent girl.

I too am a firm believer that women should be given independence and recognized for their capabilities. But I also believe that women tend to be their own worst enemy. They tend to push the limits with everything.. What are the chances of a girl wearing a typically small dress and passing a goup of boys who are going to enjoy the view and propably pass a comment or two ??  Well. thats it,  first they cause temptation and then they say, oh but I didnt mean for it to happen and he molested  me… ofcourse I am not talking about the majority of girls who have been caught up in some looney guys obsession or timely lust but I am talking about the ones, who went looking for trouble !

Here in the arab world,  rape and molestation is surely heard of but it is far and between R A R E !!  Thank God, for the harsh punishments they have for such crimes. Still these crimes do take place.

I wish people would love what they get when they come to Dubai:  freedom and security. How often do we hear of cars or homes being robbed ? VERY VERY RARE !  Infact there is “shock” if something like that happens.  Women can easily hail a cab or even commute at wee hours of the night, without ever having to fear some weirdo ! This is a safe place. You have the freedom, to wear what you want, speak as you would like, interact with a very multicultural crowd and learn so many customs of people of different regions and yet there are people who constantly whine and want to change things …. why are certain roads dug up ? why is the roads and transport authority switching the road system to placing names of the road/streets ? I mean really People whine about everything. If they dont like the city so much they should leave .. but that they wont becoz they already realize how good it feels to stay in the country where a chunk of your salary is not shared with the govt inform of taxes, this is the country of  the sun and the beautiful beaches and they enjoy modern amneties, malls, roads, freedom and security and ofcourse they also realize that they are only pushing the system to find out how much more can they try and change our good ole arab ways to the western ways of never being satisfied with anything.

While I have mentioned Western, I include australians, south africans, new zealanders etc and although geographically incorrect, even Indians !

Kate Rameez

Cheap therapy

The Cheap Therapy Soulbooster Word is FORGET.

Remember to forget.
Forget the stuff that’s weighing you down.
Forget the things that dim your natural brilliance.
Forget grudges and resentments.  Holding onto either is like taking poison and waiting for the other person to die.

Forget limits.  Remember possibilites.
Forget fear.  Remember faith and courage.
Forget old rules.  Remember new dreams.

Forget what anyone (including you!) has told you about your being too ugly, too pretty,  too dumb,  too smart, too fat, too skinny, too anything that slows you  down or zaps your confidence.

Forget what’s-his-name or what’s-her-name. What good is remembering them doing? So who needs ’em?!

Forget anything that’s taking away space in your brain, heart and memory from what’s important.
And the next time someone shakes their finger at you as if to say, “Didn’t I tell you that you should..?” Smile and say, “Oooooooooooooops,

 I forgot

Beautiful Quotes

I just realized that there are more quotes on my blog than photos, my own ramblings and Silly jokes all put together. So this is yet another one of those “uote blogs” that I just “had to” share with you .. here goes :

Patience…patience is a necessary ingredient of genius.  Benjamin Disraeli

Opportunity…Some go through a forest and see no firewood.  English proverb

Experience…Experience is not what happens to you;  it is what you do with what happens to you.  Aldus Huxley

Empowerment…Never doubt that a small group of thoughtful citizens can change the world.  Indeed, it is the only thing that ever has.  Margaret Mead

Adaptability…Today, loving change, tumult, even chaos is a prerequisite for survival, let alone success. Thomas J. Peters

Inovation…Do not seek to follow in the footsteps of the men of old; seek what they sought.  Basho from ‘Little Zen Companion”

Renewal…Out of every crisis comes a chance to be reborn.  Nena O’Neil

Imagination…When the spirit does not work with the hand, there is no art.  Leonardo Da Vinci

Spirit…If wrinkles must be written upon our brow, let them not be written upon the heart; the spirit should not grow old.  James A. Garfield

Inspirational Quotes.

 

The happiest of people don’t necessarily have the best of everything; they just make the most of everything that comes along their way.” — Anonymous

Never approach a bull from the front, a horse from the rear, or a fool from any direction.

Don’t squat with your spurs on.

Don’t judge people by their relatives.

Behind every successful rancher is a wife who works in town.

When you lose, don’t lose the lesson.

Talk slowly, think quickly.

Remember that silence is sometimes the best answer.

Live a good, honorable life. Then when you get older and think back, you’ll enjoy it a second time.

Don’t interfere with something that ain’t botherin’ you none.

Timing has a lot to do with the outcome of a rain dance.

It’s better to be a has-been that a never-was.

The easiest way to eat crow is while it’s still warm.  The colder it gets, the harder it is to swaller.

If you find yourself in a hole, the first thing to do is stop diggin’.

If it don’t seem like it’s worth the effort, it probably ain’t.

It don’t take a genius to spot a goat in a flock of sheep.

Sometimes you get and sometimes you get got.

The biggest troublemaker you’ll probably ever have to deal with watches you shave his face in the mirror every morning.

Never ask a barber if you need a haircut.

If you get to thinkin’ you’re a person of some influence, try orderin’ somebody else’s dog around.

Don’t worry about bitin’ off more’n you can chew; your mouth is probably a whole lot bigger’n you think.

Always drink upstream from the herd.

Generally, you ain’t learnin’ nothing when your mouth’s a-jawin’.

Tellin’ a man to git lost and makin’ him do it are two entirely different propositions.

If you’re ridin’ ahead of the herd, take a look back every now and then to make sure it’s still there with ya.

Good judgment comes from experience, and a lotta that comes from bad judgment.

When you give a personal lesson in meanness to a critter or to a person, don’t be surprised if they learn their lesson.

When you’re throwin’ your weight around, be ready to have it thrown around by somebody else.

Lettin’ the cat outta the bag is a whole lot easier than puttin’ it back.

Always take a good look at what you’re about to eat. It’s not so important to know what it is, but it’s sure crucial to know what it was.

The quickest way to double your money is to fold it over and put it back into your pocket.

You can’t tell how good a man or a watermelon is ’til they get thumped. (Character shows up best when tested.)

Never miss a good chance to shut up.

If lawyers are disbarred and clergymen are defrocked, shouldn’t it follow that cowboys would be deranged?

Inscription on Mr. Wayne’s headstone:
“Tomorrow is the most important thing in life. Comes into us at midnight very clean. It’s perfect when it arrives and it puts itself in our hands. It hopes we’ve learnt something from yesterday.”

 

 

More wise quotes by wise men/women

Energy and persistence conquer all things. ”
~ Benjamin Franklin

“If I can stop one heart from breaking, I shall not live in vain. ”
~ Emily Dickinson

“Do not follow where the path may lead.  Go instead where there is no path and leave a trail. ”
~ Ralph Waldo Emerson

“Don’t judge each day by the harvest you reap, but by the seeds you plant.”
~Robert Louis Stevenson

“If you’re going through hell, keep going. ”
~ Sir Winston Churchill

“Your talent is God’s gift to you. What you do with it is your gift back to God. ”
~ Leo Buscaglia

“In three words I can sum up everything I’ve learned about life:  It goes on. ”
~ Robert Frost

“No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.”
~ Eleanor Roosevelt

“It is never too late to be what you might have been.”
~ George Eliot

“The future depends on what we do in the present.”
~ Mahatma Gandhi

“To be seventy years young is sometimes far more cheerful and hopeful than to be forty years old.”
~ Oliver Wendell Holmes

“What we think or what we believe is, in the end, of little consequence.  The only thing of consequence is what we do.”   ~ John Ruskin

Iftaar in Ramadan, opening the fast.

Last two days the humidity has gone so high ! Its unbearable to leave the comfort of the airconditioner.  And so the drill has already set in .. Packing meals, school runs, homework and yeah, getting exhausted by Iftaar. 

For my dear Non muslim friends, iftaar is the time at dusk when we open our fast. Iftah in arabic means  “to Open” All Muslims, all over the world will open their fast with a glass of water and three dates.  However what follows is different for every community.

Every year I promise myself that we wont have any deep fried snacks for iftaar and within the first two fasts, this resolution evaporates high in thin air ! Why ? Coz we Indian/Pak Muslims love to have something savory and fried for breaking our fast !!! These days its just three dishes for iftaar. Bhajias or Phulkees are fritters. Could be potato, onions, chillies, cauliflower or even eggs, rolled in a paste of chickpea paste. I have a special recipe for fruit chaat, which is a family secret, but it is the Ratatoiulle of every party ! And ofcourse some water melon is a Must. Fruits are always encouraged, they are light and nutrious, So is yoghurt or Laban.  Apart from these there, are occasional samoosas or tuna kebabs or cutlets or chick pea chaat.  Thats precisely the reason why dinner is very late, ie after Sam comes back from Taravih prayer.   However the arabs have a different tradition, they open their fast with very light snacks followed almost immediately after Magreb prayer by their meal. I have always fancied that way and we have infact tried it out several times, but somehow, my craving gets the better of me by midnight ! 

The other day, we were discussing how in some homes in Old Delhi, people still have full fledge meals for Imsak or Sehri. That is the time just before dawn, before fajr, when we start our fast after eating something light. We have been having oatmeal poridge or some cornflakes and both of us are content, however one sehri we had left over Curry, and Gawd the acidity it caused ! All said and done, Ramadan is the best time to eat healthy and stay healthy provided we dont start eating the wrong kinds of food, during the time, we can eat.   

Would you like to share how you open your fast in the different parts of the world ?

Oops ! Not my cuppa tea !

Exercise Sayings

Aerobics: a series of strenuous exercises which help convert fats, sugars, and starch into aches, pains and cramps.

Commit to be fit.

Eat right. Stay fit. Die anyway.

Fifty years ago people finished a days work and needed rest. Today they need exercise.

Grandma started walking for her health when she was 60. She’s now 97 and we don’t know where the heck she is!

I get enough exercise just pushing my luck.

I get my exercise from spectator sports!

I get plenty of exercise: jumping to conclusions, pushing my luck, and dodging deadlines!

I had to quit jogging for health reasons: my thighs were rubbing together so much my underpants caught on fire!

I have flabby thighs; but fortunately my stomach covers them.

I have to exercise early in the morning before my brain figures out what I am doing.

I might as well exercise; I’m in a bad mood anyway!

I really don’t think I need buns of steel. I’d be happy with buns of cinnamon. Ellen DeGeneres

I took up jogging to hear heavy breathing again!

If God had intended for us to touch our toes, He’d have put them on our knees.

If it wasn’t for my superior willpower, I might be exercising right now!

If it weren’t for the fact that the TV set and the refrigerator are so far apart, I wouldn’t get any exercise at all!

If you are going to try cross country skiing, start with a small country.

I’m belly building – not body building!

I’m in shape – Round is a shape, isn’t it?

I’m not into working out. My philosophy: No pain, no pain. Carol Liefer

Jog a mile – adds a minute to your life – at 85, spend an additional 5 months in a nursing home at $5,000 per month.

Jogging is good for your heart, but it makes your feet mad!

The advantage of exercising every day is that you die healthier.

The best remedy for a short temper is a long walk. Jacqueline Schiff

The more you sweat in training, the less you bleed in battle.

Whenever, I think about exercise, I lie down ’til the thought passes.

The Mechanic vs The Doctor

A mechanic was removing the cylinder heads from the motor of a car when he spotted the famous heart surgeon in his shop, who was standing off to the side, waiting for the service manager to come to take a look at his car.

The mechanic shouted across the garage,”Hello Doctor!! Please come over here for a minute.”

The famous surgeon, a bit surprised, walked over to the mechanic.

The mechanic straightened up, wiped his hands on a rag and asked argumentatively, “So doctor, look at this. I also open hearts, take valves out, grind ’em, put in new parts, and when I finish this will work as a new one. So how come you get the big money, when you and me is doing basically the same work? ”

The doctor leaned over and whispered to the mechanic…..

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He said: “Try to do it when the engine is running”.

The Gift.

Laugh for the Day:
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There was a little old lady who was nearly blind, and she had three sons who wanted to prove which
 one was the best to her.
 
Son #1 bought her a 15-room mansion, thinking this would surely be the best that any of them could
 offer her.
 
Son #2 bought her a beautiful Mercedes with a chauffeur included, thinking this would surely win 
her approval.
 
Son #3 had to do something even better, so he bought her a parrot that he had been training for 
15 years to memorize the entire Bible.  You could ask the parrot any verse in the Bible, and he
could quote it word for word.  What a gift that would be.
 
Well, the old lady went to the first son and said, "Son, the house is just gorgeous, but it's
really much too big for me. I only live in one room, and it's too large to clean and take care of.  I really don't need the house, but thank you anyway."
 
Then she confronted her second son with, "Son, the car is beautiful.  It has everything you could 
ever want on it, but I don't drive and really don't like the chauffeur, so please return the car."
 
Next, she went to Son #3 and said, "Son, I just want to thank you for your most thoughtful gift. 

That chicken was delicious.”

A good september day

For my regular visitors who are wondering where I have been past 3 days ? Well, I have fantastic news, well fantastic for me atleast, so finally the boys have all been enrolled in dass and I am very confident about the school, after the orientation which was yesterday, the principal’s speech was really good, to the point and you could understand what the school stands for.  I am really feeling so relieved to hand my boys to teachers whom I could see were atleast being genuine. Well that said, I dont think I should judge too soon, only time will tell.  I get my interview CD tomorrow. I had done my first TV interview with City 7, of which I will get the CD tomorrow, any of you wishing to see it please write in comments and let me know.

Ramadan Fasts are going very well so far, inspite the excruiciatingly high temperatures outside. Last two days we had iftaars out, so today it will be bhajias and fruit chaat.

Tomorrow is first day of school and I find myself terribly behind schedule for labelling and organizing and packing school bags, uniforms, shoes, and lunch bags.

But the good news is that I have gone back to sleeping by 11:00 PM and up early. Thats a relief.

The Holy Month of R a m a d a n

Too much stress on food and drink
For some people, the entire month of Ramadaan revolves around food. They spend the ENTIRE day planning, cooking, shopping and thinking about only food, instead of concentrating on Salaah, Qur’aan and other acts of worship. All they can think of is FOOD. So much so that they turn the month of ‘fasting’ into the month of ‘feasting’.
Come Iftaar time, their table is a sight to see, with the multitudes and varieties of food, sweets and drinks. They are missing the very purpose of fasting, and thus, increase in their greed and desires instead of learning to control them. It is also a kind of waste & extravagance. ‘and eat and drink but waste not by extravagance, certainly He (Allaah) likes not Al-Musrifoon (those who waste by extravagance)’ [al-A’raaf :31]
Some of the sisters (either by their own choice or forced by their husbands) are cooking ALL day and ALL night, so that by the end of the day, they are too tired to even pray Ishaa, let alone pray Taraweeh, Tahajjud or read Quraan, etc.
Some people stuff themselves at Suhoor until they are ready to burst, because they think this is the way to not feel hungry during the day and some people eat at Iftaar, like there is no tomorrow, trying to ‘make up for the food missed.’ However, this is completely against the Sunnah. Moderation is the key to everything. ‘The son of Adam does not fill any vessel worse than his stomach; for the son of Adam a few mouthfuls are sufficient to keep his back straight. If you must fill it, then one-third for food, one-third for drink and one-third for air.’ (Tirmidhi, Ibn Maajah. Classed as saheeh by al-Albaani).

Spending all day cooking

Eating too much

The Prophet (pbuh) said:

Too much food distracts a person from many deeds of obedience and worship, makes him lazy and also makes the heart heedless. It was said to Imam Ahm ad: Does a man find any softness and humility in his heart when he is full? He said, I do not think so.
Some people spend their entire day (or a major part of it) ‘sleeping away their fast’. Is this what is really required of us during this noble month? These people also are missing the purpose of fasting and are slaves to their desires of comfort and ease. They cannot ‘bear’ to be awake and face a little hunger or exert a little self-control.
For a fasting person to spend most of the day asleep is nothing but, negligence on his part.
Other people waste away their day playing video games, or worse still, watching TV, movies or even listening to music. Subhaan Allaah! Trying to obey Allaah by DISOBEYING him!
Some of us fast but do not give up lying, cursing, fighting, backbiting, etc. and some of us fast but do not give up cheating, stealing, dealin g in haraam, buying lotto tickets, selling alcohol, fornication, etc. and we think we are sooooo good.
The Prophet (pbuh) said: ‘Whoever does not give up false speech and acting upon it, and ignorance, Allaah has no need of him giving up his food and drink.’ (Bukhaari)
‘There should be no harming or reciprocating harm.’
This is especially true during fasting and it invalidates the fast. (Fatwa -Ibn ‘Uthaymeen)
The Prophet (pbuh) said: ‘Eat suhoor for in suhoor there is blessing.'(Bukhaari, Muslim).
And he (pbuh) said: ‘The thing that differentiates between our fasting and the fasting of the People of the Book is eating suhoor.’ (Muslim) Shaykh Ibn ‘Uthaymeen said: This is a kind of bid’ah (innovation) which has no basis in the Sunnah. Rather the Sunnah is to do the opposite. Allaah allows us to eat until dawn:
‘and eat and drink until the white thread (light) of dawn appears to you distinct from the black thread (darkness of night)’ [al-Baqarah 2:187]
And the Prophet (pbuh) said: ‘….eat and drink until you hear the adhaan of Ibn Umm Maktoom, for he does not give the adhaan until dawn comes.’

Sleeping all day

Wasting time

Fasting but not giving up evil

The Prophet (pbuh) said:

Skipping Suhoor

Stopping Suhoor at ‘Imsaak’Some people stop eating Suhoor 10-15 minutes earlier than the time of Fajr to observe ‘Imsaak’.

This ‘imsaak’ which some of the people do is an addition to that which Allaah has enjoined, so it is false. It is a kin d of extremism in religion, and the Prophet (pbuh) said: ‘Those who go to extremes are doomed, those who go to extremes are doomed, those who go to extremes are doomed.’ (Muslim) Very Important
Some people are too scared to fast if they miss Suhoor. However, this is a kind of cowardice and love of ease. What is the big deal if you missed a few morsels of food? It’s not like you will die. Remember, obedience to Allaah overcomes everything.
Saying the intention to fast ‘out loud’ or saying a specific dua to start fasting
The intention is an action of the heart. The Muslim should resolve in his heart that he is going to fast tomorrow. It is not prescribed for him by the Shari’ah to say out loud, ‘I intend to fast’, ‘I will fast tomorrow’ or other phrases that have been innovated by some people. All he needs to do is to resolve in his heart that he is going to fast tomorrow.

Not fasting if they missed Suhoor –

Also, there is no specific dua to be recited at the time of starting the fast in the correct Sunnah. Whatever ‘dua’ you may see on some papers or Ramadaan calendars is a Bid’ah.
Some people wait until the adhaan finishes or even several minutes after that, just to be ‘on the safe side’. However, the Sunnah is to hasten to break the fast, which means breaking fast right after the sun has set. This is what the Messenger of Allaah (pbuh) used to do. (Muslim)
The Prophet (pbuh) said: ‘The people will continue to do well so long as they hasten to break the fast.’ (Bukhaari, Muslim)

Delaying breaking fast

Aa’ishah said:

Determine to the best of your ability, the accuracy of your clock, calendar, etc. and then have tawakkul on Allaah and break your fast exactly on time.
The prayer of the fasting person is guaranteed to be accepted at the time of breaking fast. ‘Three prayers are not rejected: the prayer of a father, the prayer of a fasting person, and the prayer of a traveler.’ (al-Bayhaqi, saheeh by al-Albaani).

Missing the golden chance of having your Dua accepted

The Prophet (pbuh) said:

Instead of sitting down and making Dua at this precious time, some people forego this beautiful chance, and are too busy talking, setting the food, filling their plates and glasses, etc. Food is more important to them than the chance to have their sins forgiven or the fulfillment of their Duas.
The fasting of one who does not pray WILL NOT BE ACCEPTED.
This is because not praying constitutes kufr as the Prophet (pbuh) said: ‘Between a man and shirk and kufr there stands his giving up prayer.’ (Muslim)

Fasting but not praying

In fact, NONE of his good deeds will be accepted; rather, they are all annulled.
‘Whoever does not pray ‘Asr, his good deeds will be annulled.’ (Bukhaari)
Not wearing the Hijaab is a major sin as it is obligatory for Muslim women
. (Surah Nur, Surah Ahzaab). So fasting and not wearing hijaab certainly takes away enormously from the rewards of fasting, even if does not invalidate it.
Exams or work is NOT one of the excuses allowed by the Shari’ah to not fast. You can do your studying and revision at night if it is too hard to do that during the day. Also remember that pleasing and obeying Allaah is much more important than ‘good grades’.
DO NOT make the mistake of fasting with the intention to diet. That is one of the biggest mistakes some of us make (esp. sisters). Fasting is an act of worship and can only be for the sake of Allah alone. Mixing it with the int ention of dieting is a form of Shirk.
There is no specific number of rak’ahs for Taraweeh prayer, rather it is permissible to do a little or a lot. Both 8 and 20 are okay.
Shaykh Ibn ‘Uthaymeen said: ‘No one should be denounced for praying eleven or twenty-three (raka’ah), because the matter is broader in scope than that, praise be to Allaah.’
Some people pray ONLY on the 27th to seek Lailat ul-Qadr, neglecting all other odd nights, although the Prophet (pbuh) said: ‘Seek Lailat ul-Qadr among the odd numbered nights of the last ten nights of Ramadaan.’ (Bukhaari, Muslim).

Fasting and not wearing Hijaab

Not fasting because of exams or work

Mixing fasting and dieting

Fighting over the number of Raka’ah of Taraweeh

Praying ONLY on the night of the 27th

Is this school for me ?

what a constructive weekend that was ! But I suppose That is just ME. can work best under pressure. I knew this last week would be terribly busy but to think of it that we could pack so many chores in just two days and achieve it ! Wow .. its such a good feeling of having completed all of them. AND that too, draging the poor boys everywhere with us.

So I am finding some direction for the school thingy that has been sitting on my chest for the last 7 months ! All the while we had one particular school in mind but we so concerned with some of vibes that I had been getting. It so happens that, when I just got fed up of the whole thing and said we’ll put them back to the old/previous school, we decided to check up on a school I had checked 3 years back and as it turns out, they do have teachers who understand the concept of dyslexia and although they are not trained to teach in special ways, they can assist coz the class room size is quite small, only 13 kids per class, which ofcourse is good for us. So we have that appointment and assesment today which will decide if this is the school for us. I am very nervous coz I think this might be the last hope for US, and to think of it that the boys have not touched their books in the last 3 months !!! Suddenly I found myself asking the boys oral maths sums and thank God I got a few right answers ! I will post some information about dyslexia in my next post for all those parents who are wondering what is this term.

Today was the first day of Ramadan, inshallah. To all the Muslim brothers and Sisters out there, Ramadan Mubarak. Please remember the gates of hell are closed this entire month, Shaitaan (Satan) is chained. It will be easier to control our ill desires, tempers and temptations this month. Please remember the Merit of salaat in this month. Please remember that this is the most loved and crucial month to our Rasool Sal alah wa alai hi wa salam. Please remember that we all are examples for the rest of the world and where Islam is so wrongly looked upon, we all have to change the misconceptions by setting good examples by ourselves. Inshallah.