Connecting with Lightning @ Burj Dubai – world’s tallest building.

These are some spectacular photos taken of  the Burj Dubai, experiencing lightning. For nearly half an hour the phenomenon continued yesterday evening.  These view of the Burj here are breathtaking. The area around the Burj is called Downtown Dubai. The Dubai Mall with its fantastic indoor walk in Aquarium is also located in this mall. 
















































































































An adventure trip to the Sharjah Arabian Wildlife center.


snack break in the lawns of the desert park

What a fantastic day. I know alot of the Brit folks we meet in Dubai are almost always complaining about the weather in London. So as a ritual, this is around the time we get some healthy and much needed showers here in Dubai, as I hear,  a friend even experienced hail on Saturday. We have been cooped up in the house for sometime now. The spring holidays are being absolutely enjoyed. I have been resisting the temptation to ask the boys to do some handwriting so far !! copy-of-spring-holidays-sharjah-desert-park-049

 Well, in return for getting a dozen chores done on time, I treated the boys to the Desert Park in Sharjah.  Yeah, its nearly 70 – 80 Kms away from the Ranches, but I think it was well worth the effort. The Park is divided into four parts, the Botanical garden, the children’s farm, the arabian wildlife area and the sharjah museum. The museum was closed and invariably we did’nt have so much time to cover it either. The boys loved exploring the different scientific based gadets at the botanical garden, that was really very well done. There was just so much to see and experiment ! They really liked feeding the baby goats (foal).  The wildlife park just overwhelmed the boys, the cheetah, leopard, snakes, beatles, scorpions, bats and what not !  Children learn so much so effortlessly while watching first-hand, rather than drilling information into them.



It was so much fun discussing food chains and food webs in the wildlife park and fish aquariums. Nests of different birds found in the deserts and ofcourse the living conditions of different snakes.  

Amazing and beautiful
Amazing and beautiful
experimenting which resource provides more energy.
experimenting which resource provides more energy.

Young inquisitive minds

On the return the weather took a drastic turn.  The soothing drizzle turned into a heavy shower.


I just had to park the car at a distance on the side of the over bridge and take some photos !    All said and done, I completly enjoyed the rains, although I was really very alert driving considering the number of ambulances and rescue vehicles we saw, drive past us !! Well the silver lining is that the car looks washed and sparkling clean !!


 copied-spring-holidays-sharjah-desert-park-061Dinner at Raavi with samie was all but a completion to a perfectly fullfilling and lovely day.

Wicker Queen

One of the most common remarks, I am accustomed to getting by visiting friends and relatives is,  how my house has got highlights of wicker/cane made items dotted all around my home. It is true. 

I love wicker, the color, the feel, the texture and how it adds such a rustic look to any contemprary home.  If wicker gets you ticking, do let me know too.

I have at least 4 dozen baskets, all shapes, sizes, designs, woved with cloth and jute ..

My baskets are used in every possible way.

  • They are used to store cutlery in and large laddles and spatulas.
  • Table Napkins on the buffet table
  • Toiletries in the bathroom
  • Tissue rolls and handtowels in the washrooms
  • Stationery on the boys tables
  • Small and big toys in different sizes of baskets.
  • Soiled laundry in the upper bathrooms
  • Various uses of these baskets in my craft studio.  

We have had to find some of them, a new house in the “New Shed” ! Remember the new shed. dont ya’ll ?

this rack is just outside the craft studio. There are atleast 3dozen baskets still in the New shed.

this rack is just outside the craft studio. There are atleast 3dozen baskets still in the New shed.

This large basket houses scores of baby toys for when the little ones visit us. It is placed in the foyer.

This large basket houses scores of baby toys for when the little ones visit us. It is placed in the foyer.

This lovely basket is also standing in the foyer. It is ideal for storing all the sweaters in the winter. But otherwise it has blocks of toys in there.

This lovely basket is also standing in the foyer. It is ideal for storing all the sweaters in the winter. But otherwise it has blocks of toys in there.

placed in the lounge room, this helps give a casual look to the otherwise formal woodish setup.

placed in the lounge room, this helps give a casual look to the otherwise formal woodish setup.

Earth Hour ~ Making a tiny difference.

Lighting for a good cause.

Lighting for a good cause.

Today, like in many countries we too participated in the Earth Hour. From 8:30 PM to 9:30 PM the electricity in my home was switched off except for the fridge for obvious reasons.  I made the boys realize what a great contribution we are making trying to conserve a little of  this precious source. It felt really good.  The Walk at JBR infront of Hilton was one of the few places where we could join, in lighting a candle at the beach. While we were on our way out, we noticed the number of houses with all lights switched on and it really felt bad however, while passing thru Barsha we noticed almost all the villas had all of their fence lights (which are quite a few ) switched on, which was not the icing on the cake yet, just a yard ahead we noticed the DEWA Dubai Electricity and Water Authority’s Substation had all of their “FLOOD LIGHTS ON” in addition to their regular lights !!! Now that was saddening.  We parked close to the Meridien and ho boy,  was I nostalgic !!! It was a terribly long walk to Hilton but the walk was well worth it, I completly loved “The JBR Walk”   There was a very long stream of cars moving at turtle’s pace. 

Finally we reached the designated area. There was a large crowd already marvelling at the lighted candles in (almost) stark darkness. We too got a couple of lights and placed it appropriately .. huge crowd turned out here this evening.  DEWA had provided TShirts, battery operated candles and  bottles of mineral water too. All free of cost. 

 The rain pour had gotten heavier by now but the kids and  I completly enjoyed getting wet.  Ofcourse a meal at Hardees did us good.

 My husband rightly noted that,  the idea and thought behind the Earth Hour is really very good, but in principle, people would only just want to spend that one hour out of their homes in cars or drives or out shopping, which obviously means, that we are consuming another source of energy, while trying to save one. 

Again I feel DEWA (Dubai  Electricity and Water Authority) should be commended for putting up such a wonderful effort and arrangement BUT “Practise was you preach” was missing. Why did’nt they switch off only their flood lights for that one hour ? Saving the energy wasted from   5 – 6 flood lights with atleast 500 – 1000 voltage. Now that would have really made a difference, even if it was only a tiny difference.  It could have been done provided someone realized it.

 I think I should write to 7Days ~ the newspaper that does not particularly like to print my letters. But its worth a try.  What say ??

Smart boys ~ Growing up : growing wiser

In the past few months we had noticed the boys were begining to get very edgy and possessive. I presumed it had to do with growing up and being boys, but sam decided to give them a small talk and lay out a few rules before someone really got hurt. So one of those rules was :  Once we gave our brothers or friends, a gift, we dont ask it back. It shows dishonour and disrespect. The boys have held back on this rule for weeks now, which I am pleased to say has been very sucessful …………. Until ………… until two days back,  While folding the laundry in my bedroom,  I could clearly hear a very formal conversation between the three of them. (strange how they can speak so loud to each other and expect Mom wont hear it !! )

A little about my Actors :

Bilal : 9 yrs                Sawaab : 7yrs                 Eman : 6 yrs

Sawaab ” Eman,  That station ( presumeably the new traffic station I got them  — TO SHARE ) doesn’t only belong to you. Mama got it for everyone,”

Eman being very defence, ” oh ya ? Well Bilal said I could have it if I gave him my Action Man”

A moments pause, while Bilal decides how he justifies his stand, ” Look sawaab, Eman is small and he can play with it, what do we need it for anyways ? 

At this point let me advise you that the difference between Sawaab and Eman is just 11 months. Although sawaab is a more sporty kinda kid, he also has very similar toy tastes as Eman.

Eman trying to find a way to his advantage., ” Sawaab remember Abba said that we should not ask back a gift once we gave it ? ”

Sawaab found a brilliant clause in this, ” Yeah Eman, but that was about gifting it, but Bilal has not gifted it to you, he has traded it to you. In trading we can take back.  Besides, it belonged to all of us then how could Bilal give it to you ?”

Mother’s reaction : Stunned ! I leave my folding for a moment to think about what this little 7 year old just said !! This generation does not cease to amaze me !    Their intelligence and their spontaneity ! They have confidence and they know how to get the better half of the deal. 

The case never landed in my court for obvious reasons, Mom would cut off the whole deal and ask them all to share the toy.

But the clause to Abba’s rule was decided today. We dont take back a gift once given, BUT we CAN  if we are “TRADING TOYS ”

Naughty and nice

Naughty and nice


One or all of my boys are going to study Law or write the law !!!

They have just learnt the way to get out of a sticky situation by applying some witty clauses here !

This photo was taken at the Global village in December 2008 before the India trip. Sam bought them these guns, much to my disagreement. But then we do have a democracy rule in “such matters” and how could I win in a  1:4 ratio ?  Let them enjoy their treats.


Hurricane hit samama mansion first floor !

Hurricane hit samama mansion first floor !

Ofcourse the boys room is not very large but can easily accomodate the bunk beds and the car bed which has an additional bed underneath which can easily be slid open for sleepovers.  This is the state of the room every 15th day and then again, we go back to ” Mom hiting the ceiling and with screams that can be heard long past the ranches, the boys are forced into the clean up session.  Am I a MEAN mom ?? ABSOLUTELY !  











Rambo practise room

Rambo practise room


The car bed is Bilal’s. and quite easily and conveniently the toys slid pass into those on the floor or around his bed !! Ofcourse no one is to be blamed .. ” I did’nt do it ”  my kids play fair. They dont like their siblings bearing the wrath from their mother, so no name blaming just “I dont know who did it !!!! Well it stays that way or I just call the firefighters to save the boys from me.    





Pile of toys

Pile of toys


There are two Ikea racks placed on either side of the room and in parallel, there are two beds as well. These racks house the stacks and stacks of baskets, bins, buckets and trays of goody, delicious toys. Have you seen a room this flooded with Toys ??














The same wall

The same wall

This is the same wall as Bilals bed is on. On the left side are built in wardrobes and those cartons stacked there are my goody boxes, naturally all my surplus craft supplies ! 
















The otherside of the room

The otherside of the room


Any corner worth saving is always occupied instantly with toys that appear magically ! This hear is a play station / car track which lodged itself magically one fine day here !










It took nearly 3 weeks of intensive cleaning up during which the boys were completly fed up of “Go and clean up your room” line.

We dumped almost 6 TV CARTONS of toys for Charity ! which I am so relieved off .. Phew ! 

We have still got 3 cartons of toys in the shed which I will give them every month if they decide to get rid of more toys.

There are nearly 11 brand new remote control cars, given at several birthdays to them by my dad and sister which are also sitting in the shed.   

This story was not for the faint of the heart. My Boys are real fighters !




can you believe this ?? This is the same wall which has Bilal’s car bed !! Well, its not great but its a great start, especially since the boys have achieved all this mainly on their own efforts, ofcourse I was sitting a sipping my coffee at one of the only empty corners of the room, with a fly swatter in my hands ! Well, it worked, did’nt it ??!   











Sawaab and eman's bed

Sawaab and eman's bed


Ofcourse the beds need to be made and organized, just did’nt want you’ll to think that we are spic and span all the time, now would we ?? Isnt it lovely .. i am really  pleased with the hard work.














Regaining space

Regaining space


There is more space next to the beds.










Bilal's wall

Bilal's wall


He is an 8 1/2 year old who has his heart set on action figures, race cars, gun machines and building blocks. What do you think he’ll be when he grows up ?

A machineist ? Nah !

A technician ? Nah ! 

A scientist ?  Nah !

Silly you, almost every child these days like almost all of those toys. Its natural. He’ll be what he intends to be. A good human being with alot of talent and a solid gold heart, inshallah. 


A child's fantasy land

A child's fantasy land


No amount of toys can replace a childs imagination.  He still lives in a large and beautiful fantasy world .. ok so thats not Bilal’s world. Bilal’s world is about rescuing a fairy princess from bad military goons with a machine gun and medival sword. Actually I relive my childhood thru my boys toys. These pink castles are actually mine. they are so special to me. I am a dreamer just like Bilal those pink homes represent fond memories from my childhood where we could’nt afford those.

New researches and new theories

  • Giving teenage boys fish at least once a week boosts their intelligence, a study suggests.

Experts found 15-year-olds who ate fish regularly scored better on IQ tests when they reached 18 than those who rarely ate it. The more fish they ate, the better they did, the child health journal Acta Paediatricareports. The link held true even when the level of the boys’ education and their parents social status was taken into account.

‘A number of studies have already shown that fish can help neurodevelopment in infants, reduce the risk of impaired cognitive function from middle age onwards and benefit babies born to women who ate fish during pregnancy.

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  • The key to exam success could be as simple – and as cheap – as a glass of water.

Children who have a drink of water before sitting tests fare up to a third better, researchers have found.

The reason why isn’t clear, but it could be that information flows more smoothly between brain cells when they are well hydrated.

‘Children who had a drink of water performed significantly better on a number of tasks. Our findings suggest that consuming water benefits cognitive performance in children.’

It is possible that water improves the flow of information between brain cells, added Dr Edmonds.

Other possibilities include the water drinkers not being distracted by feeling thirsty.

Previous studies have shown that drinking water boosts the brainpower of adults.



Child cold remedies ‘don’t work and may cause harm’

by fiona Macrae

Medicines for the under-six

Most cough and cold mixtures do not work in children and may even cause side- effects such as allergic reactions and hallucinations, the medicines watchdog has warned.

A review of popular remedies, including Lemsip powders, Day Nurse and Sudafed, by the Medicines and Healthcare products Regulatory Agency found ‘no robust evidence that these medicines work’ in under-12s.

More than 60 popular medicines will now be marked with warnings that they must not be given to children under six and are not recommended for those aged between six and 12.

Cough and cold remedies have been linked to the deaths of at least five British children under two and around 100 serious cases of suspected side-effects.

The alert centres on 15 ingredients found in the medicines, many of which have been used by drug companies for years.

The MHRA said it was particularly concerned about children under six being given the drugs because they weighed less than older children, were more prone to infection and were less able to tell their parents about a medicine’s effectiveness.


Dr June Raine, MHRA’s director of vigilance and risk management of medicines, said: ‘Over-the-counter medicines used to treat coughs and colds have been used for many years.

‘However, they came into use when clinical trials were not required to demonstrate that they worked in children.

‘It is not right to assume safety and efficacy based on children being “small adults”. Children should have access to medicines that are acceptably safe and designed for their use.’

Although coughs and colds could be distressing, most young children get better by themselves within a few days, she added. Suitable treatments include paracetamol to keep a child’s temperature down and honey and lemon to ease a cough.

Martin Shalley, a consultant in emergency medicine at Birmingham Heartlands Hospital, said: ‘The names of these medicines are often confusing and often sound very innocuous; the dangers are only in the small print, and on top of that, there is no evidence any of these products do any good.’

The MHRA has also compiled a list of medicines that do work and are safe to use on children under six.

It includes Beechams Veno’s Honey and Lemon, Benylin Tickly Coughs, and CalCough TicklyCare Glycerin Lemon & Honey with Glucose.

The remaining remedies will not be pulled from the shelves, however, because they are still suitable for adults. Instead, they will be sold from behind the pharmacy counter only.

The changes in labelling will be phased in from later this year and should be completed by next March.

The Royal Pharmaceutical Society of Great Britain said it considered it ‘good practice’ to restrict some remedies for young children.

Wheels of Life

Have you ever wondered how important wheels are in our lives ? Today, our world revolves on a invisible wheel too, one that is responsible for day and night. One that decides who gets good rain and who is blessed with sunshine.

Wheels wheels everywhere, always moving, always in motion, always reminding about the circle of  life.


72 signs of Qayamat.

In my opinion, all those muslims who followed and practised Deen from the heart have really not much to loose due to the global recession, coz the root cause of all this is “Sood” ~ “Interest” And the Prophet sallahu alai hu wa salam had made it haram for all muslims in his last sermon. All those who have not plunged their wealth completly in rolling or Interest bound, have not been devastated by the recession. 

The following signs have been sighted 1400 years years back when people had not even heard of automobiles, buildings etc !! Amazing.

In my opinion, all those muslims who followed and practised Deen from the heart have really not much to loose due to the global recession, coz the root cause of all this is “Sood” ~ “Interest” And the Prophet sallahu alai hu wa salam had made it haram for all muslims in his last sermon. All those who have not plunged their wealth 

1.     People will leave prayer.

2.     People will usurp Ama’naat.

3.     Lying will become an Art.

4.     There will be murders on the slightest of disagreements

5.     Interest will become common.

6.     There will be very tall buildings

7      People will sell religion for the world.

8.     People will treat relatives badly

9      Justice will become a rarity

10    Lies will be considered truth

11.   Clothes will be of silk

12.   Persecution will become common

13.   Divorces will become common

14.   Sudden deaths will increase.

15.   The usurper of Ama’naat will be considered honest and honorable.

16.   The keeper of Ama’naat will be called an usurper of things given to him for safekeeping

17.   Liars will be thought of as honest

18.   Honest people will be thought of as liars

19.   False accusations will become the norm.

20.   It will be hot in spite of rain.

21.   Instead of wishing for children, people will pray that they not have children

22.   People from bad backgrounds and with bad upbringing will live a life of luxury (material, not peaceful).

23.   Good people, when they try to practice, will be cut off from the world

24.   Previously good people will also usurp Ama’naat.

25.   Leaders will become persecutors.

26.   Ulema and Qaris will commit adultery.

27.   People will wear clothes of animal skin.

28.   But their hearts will smell and will be dead.

29.   And will be bitter.

30.   Gold will become common.

31.   Demand for silver will increase.

32.   Sin will increase.

33.   Peace will become rare.

34.   Ayaats from the Quran will be decorated and calligraphy will become.

35.   Mosques will be decorated.

36.   And will have tall Minars.

37.   But hearts will be empty.

38.   Alcoholic drinks will be consumed.

39.   Punishments ordered by the Shariah will be revoked and will not longer be implemented.

40.   Women will order their mother around.

41.   People who are with naked feet, naked bodies and against religion will become kings.

42.   Women will trade along with men.

43.   Women will imitate men.

44.   Men will imitate women.

45.   People will swear by things other than Allah and the Quran.

46.   Even Muslims will be prepared to give false testimony, without being incited to it.

47.   Only people one knows will be greeted with the salaam.

48.   The knowledge of the Shariah will be used to earn worldly things.

49.   Acts, which earn the Akhirah, will be used to earn the world.

50.   Assets belonging to the nation will be considered and treated as personal treasures by the rulers.

51.   Ama’naat will be considered ones personal asset.

52.   Zakaat will be considered as a penalty.

53.   The lowest and the worst man in the nation will become its leader.

54.   People will not obey their fathers.

55.   And will mistreat their mothers.

56.   And will not hold back from harming their friends.

57.   And will obey their wives.

58.   And the voices of the men who commit adultery will be raised in mosques.

59.   Women who sing will be treated with great deference.

60.   Instruments of music will be kept with great care.

61.   Alcohol will be drunk on the highways.

62.   People will be proud of their acts of persecution.

63.   Justice will be sold in the courts.

64.   The number of men in the police force will increase.

65.   Instead of music, the Quran will be used to gain pleasure for its tune and style (qirat), not for what it preaches, its meaning or for rewards in the Akhirah.

66.   Animal fur will be used.

67.   The last of the Ummat will curse those before them (clearly seen today in people who call the Prophet’s companion’s names).

68.   Either Allah will send a Red Storm upon you.

69.   Or Earthquakes.

70.   Or your faces will be changed.

71.   Or a rain of rocks from the skies. Asteroids? Meteors.

72.   Lies will become a habit of the rulers and the rich.


The Prophet Muhammad Salallaho Alaihi Wa Alehi Wassallam also said:

1.     Alcohol will be called Sherbat and will be considered Halal.

2.     Interest will be called Trade and will be considered Halal.

3.     Brides will be called Gifts and will be considered Halal.

4.     Women will be naked in spite of wearing dresses.

This Hadith has baffled the Ulema for a very long time until now:

The three kind of naked women are:

1.     Those who wear see-through dresses.

2.     Those who wear tight dresses.

3.     Those whose dresses are so short and they expose the body.

          Women will have hair, like the hump of a camel. (This hadith too, bad baffled the Ulema for quite a long time till they saw current hairstyles. I believe it came into fashion about 5 years ago).


          Jihad is fast approaching every corner of the world. We have to reinforce our inner strength with the help of Allah s.w.t. by dzikr in abundance to always remember Allah s.w.t. to seek protection. Sincere in our action, salat, read Al Quran. These are the guiding principle of tabligh as practiced by our beloved Prophet Muhammad Salallaho Alaihi Wa Alehi Wassallam. Please spread the truth and Insha Allah our Muslim brothers and sisters are able to understand and practice the guiding principles, what ever way they can afford to uphold our believe of our Islam religion this world and hereafter.

Utilize Time Efficiently.

My dear friend Tahera sent me this email today and I felt it would be nice to share it with you’ll.  Time is probably the most important commodity that we have in our lives today and yet it is so easy to have it wasted on irrelevant  things. This small story is a reminder of how we idle around when we can use time productively for our  “Akhirat.” 



Since last night my young son has been unwell. When I got back   from Work this evening I decided to take him to hospital despite my exhaustion.

There were many waiting; perhaps we will be delayed by more than an hour. I took my number and sat down in the waiting room. There were many faces, young and old, but all silent. Some brothers  made use of the many booklets available in the waiting room.  

Some of those waiting had their eyes closed, while others were looking around. Most were bored. Once in a while the long silence was broken by a nurse calling out a number. Happiness appears on the one whose turn it is, and he gets up quickly; then silence returns.

A young man grabbed my attention. He was reading a pocket-sized Qur`an continuously; not raising his head even once. At first I did not thi! nk much about him. However, after one hour of waiting my casual glances turned into a deep reflection about his lifestyle and how he utilizes his time.  One hour of life wasted! Instead of making benefit of that hour, it was just a boring wait. Then the call for prayer was made. We went to prayer in the hospital’s Masjid. I tried to pray close to the man who was reading the Qur’an earlier in the waiting room.  

After the prayer I walked with him. I informed him of how impressed I was of him and how he tries to benefit from his time. He told me that most of our time is wasted without any benefit. These are days that go from our lives without being conscious of them or regretting their waste. He said that he started carrying the pocket-sized Qur`an around when a friend encouraged him to make full use of his time. He told me that in the time other people waste he gets to read much more of the Qur`an than he gets to read either at home or in the masjid. Moreover, besides the reward of reading the Qur`an,&nb! sp;  this habit saves him from boredom and stress.  

He added that he has now been waiting for one and a half hours. Then he asked, when will you find one and a half hours to read the Qur`an? I reflected; How much time do we waste? How many moments of our lives pass by, and yet we do not account for how they passed by? Indeed, how many months pass by and we do not read the Qur`an? I came to respect my companion, and I discovered that I am to stand for account and that time is not in my hand;  
 so what am I waiting for?  

My thoughts were interrupted by the nurse calling out my number; I went to the doctor. But I want to achieve something now. After I left the hospital I quickly went to the bookshop and bought a pocket-sized Qur`an. I decided to be mindful of how I spend the time.
If this information is beneficial to you, then please do forward it to your friends and relatives.

Our Prophet (SAW) said; ‘Whoever guides or directs to good, then he   gets the same amount of blessing (reward) as the one who does it’
The Prophet (SAW) also said ‘Pass on knowledge from me even if it is only one verse’

Octomom, Fritzl .. what is the world coming to !

Octo Mom !

Octo Mom !

Ever so often, certain really really scary and abnormal headlines take the center space  of the tabloids and newspapers .. and one can only but wonder how something so absurd could happen ..  not that the newspapers report anything normal anyways, but these days I am really in shock  about certain issues :

One of the most horendous story’s I have briefly heard about is that of  the 73 year old Austrian father, Fritzl who had kept his daughter locked in the cellar for 24 years and had abused her for so many long years. It really makes me sick in the stomach to think of this man and the unfortunate girl, now 42.  Nothing could be as worse as her situation and to give birth to her father’s  children that too in the cellar !  He did not provide for any hot water, heating, no sunlight or air.  This is simply insane.  It is complete violation of a person’s worth. This poor lady is going to bear this  scar all her life,  or whatever is remaining of it.  One of the babies died at birth and he convieniently put the baby in a broiler !!!  I dont think this can be happening ~ He is a real life monster. He has got to have a demon inside him. I really cant imagine how she will ever come out of it !! It must be devastating for her, to say the least.

I read yesterday that the father admitted, he is guilty !! Dah !!! I mean, He is really a psychiatric deformed case but what was the mother doing all along ??  24 years is a long time and she gave birth to seven children during that time. It is unbelievable.  My heart goes out to this poor lady who has seen nothing but emotional and physical torment.  I understand, not every family can be normal and contain the minimum sanity but this really is beyond anything I have ever heard.

Having said that, Nadia Suleman is another weird case. She has 6 or 7 children by IVF then again goes in for IVF  ocuplets !! I mean what was she thinking ?? She is another mental sick case, she needs to be admitted to an institution. Those poor children ! She is not married, has no job, No money, mom’s house, where is stays with all her children,  is going to be evicted .!!!!!!!!!!!!  When do these people stop being so selfish ~ thinking only about themselves, greedy ~ wanting all this press coverage and self centered ~ why have so many children when you cant take care of any of them.  I really saddens me to think, how people manupulate organizations and media to gain mileage out of their situation. Again, I think, the children are the victims.  How is she going to care for the 2 or 3 autistic children in all these children. Its simply not possible.  But of course ~  help is at hand, all those charity organizations ! I mean, dont they realize this is exactly what she wanted in the first place ! why dont the social services do something about the children ??? I really wish something was done before she went for the IVF. The greedy doctor could have been stopped.

Children are a blessing, each one of them, they are to be nurtured with care and attention and love. Not merely raised like animals. How will she be able to feed them, educate them, cloth them, and even more importantly discipline them ?? Who is to blame ? Her mom, her dad, herself, or her doctor ???????? I think all of them hold equal responsibility for messing up so many tender and young lives, who dont even have a voice to speak for themselves. All this in the name of choices and rights !!  Shame.    

Do check this site for some very interesting views on Nadya’s story.

Discover yourself


I have been with Facebook for the last year and a half, I confess I am a major addict ! Need to open fb and know who’s saying what about my pics or who’s feeling whatever. One thing peculiar I found here is strangely enough, most people, are almost always, trying to discover or rediscover themselves. Hence these quizes, what stone are you, what flower are you, what music are you, what !@!@# are you…………. If you go to the quiz section, you will be surprised by the types of quizes they have. But I think its becoz they have tapped  into human phsycology. Not only are we keen to know ourselves better but we also want someone or something to tell us that we “good”, “liked”, “Charming” or whatever positive adjective can be used there !

The other day, I posted Jeremy’s article which stated that people talk more on or to the computer than to people do to eachother.  I felt I needed to add to that.  Internet is a “mostly secure” world. A large proportion of the users dont leave their identity or contact details, they have an alias. Most of us dont even have our pics posted, for fear of being misused. In such a case, it is so easy to talk to people, pass comments on people, discuss problems without being judged, becoz your just a username. Thats who we become .. another username. A blog becomes our daily diary and we can pen  type all our feelings without the fear of being “Judged” We talk to the computer becoz unfriendly comments can be unapproved easily with/without confrontations, unlike how it happens in the real world. Internet has turned into a safe haven coz its a real world within an unreal world.

We yearn for  acceptance .. Theres plenty here. The ‘disapprovals’ go in the ” junk box “

Life is not like that. People we meet and are friends with are not like that. They may have something to say that does leave an impact on how or what we feel. We dont really have the option of sending it to the junk box. We learn to take it with a pinch of salt. AND THEN,,,, we write a long post about it on our blog. 

The Choice between career and family ..

Read this thought provoking article and felt I just had to share it with you’ll. 

The Choice

EVERY moment in life, we are faced with a choice.

Which should command our preference–the demands of our job or the duties to our family?

If there is a board meeting today at the same hours that our son graduates from school, where should we go — to the boardroom or to the graduation ceremony?

If we have to make a very important presentation tomorrow, so as to advance our career, but our wife says she has to see the doctor on a suspicion of cancer, which appointment should we keep?

These are the daily battles of conscience we have to wage, trying to keep a balance between our responsibility to earn a living and our opportunity to live a life.  And our choices invariably reveal who we really are.   Our preferences indicate our true character.  Our priorities are the best indicators of our real identity.

What profits success?

I know that many of you out there would go for career on the pretension that after all, you are doing all these for the family.

Many of you, dear readers, would rather become outstanding employees, model personnel instead of being doting fathers or loving husbands.

Many of you would opt to perform exceedingly well in the office even if you work 12 to 16 hours a day, going home only to change clothes or catch a few hours of sleep.

But what for? At the end of the day, what have you accomplished?

What profits a highly successful professional or wealthy businessman if ultimately, he loses his family, wrecks his marriage or dishonors the name he will leave to his children?

What has a rich man accomplished if he has built a fortune and founded conglomerates of highly profitable companies and yet drives his own wife to vices or infidelity, his children to drugs and delinquency and himself to spiritual decay and total burnout?

What matters most?

Look around you. The evidence is overwhelming and irreversible.
Families are shattered.
Marriages are broken.
Lives are reduced to utter emptiness.

Even as man advances in wealth and success, he deteriorates on the basic standards of joy, peace and serenity. As we all compete and struggle for power and possessions, we often neglect what really matters most. In our insatiable mania for supremacy over the rest, we often forget the most important things in life.

I will respect your choice. But as for me, my priorities are clear. Between career and family, I will always go for family.

I can forego that board meeting and earn the ire of my boss or make a bad impression on my peers. But I shall not inflict a lifetime trauma on my son by sending him alone to graduate without his dad. I can forget that business presentation and lose a valued client or waste a career promotion, but I cannot
leave my wife alone in her moments of anxiety.


Why should a well-known public figure commit suicide given all his fame and fortune? Can his wealth and wisdom compensate for ruptures in his relationships?

Why should a wife of a famous politician commit adultery with the family driver? Is it lust or vain fixation for the pleasures of the flesh? Or is it the pain of being neglected and ignored by the husband she used to adore?

Why should a son cut his wrist or a daughter drink poison despite all the luxuries and pleasures they are showered with?

Can money replace love?
Can pleasure take the place of affections?

In this age of top line technology and convenience gadgets, why are humans talking to computers rather than with each other?
Why are we retrenching people and replacing them with robots and machines?

Why have we lost the simple joys of nurturing relationships with bank tellers because we have replaced them with ATMs?

Why, with all our cells, e-mails, Internets, websites or the endemic texting, are we no longer communicating?
Why are family members no longer talking to each other?

The ultimate hell?

To succeed in career and fail in the family is, to me, the ultimate hell.

John Grisham, that famous author of legal fictions wrote “The Testament,” which tells of a highly successful industrialist who made billions of dollars but lost his family.

In the first 10 pages of the novel, he jumped to his death from his multi-story building in front of his self-centered children.
By his will, he disinherited all of them and bequeathed his entire estate to an illegitimate daughter who refused to accept it.

That is the ultimate irony; those who lusted for money lost it.
Those who were given all the money refused it.

In all his dozen masterpieces, Grisham tells us about the importance of family. “A Time to Kill” tells of a father who went to jail for killing his daughter’s rapists.

Indeed, we who are simple folks should learn from the mistakes of others. We should straighten our lives and put our priorities in order.

I don’t know about you.

But as for me and my house, our credo is: There is no success in a career that can make up for a failure in the family.

By Atty. Josepus Jeminiz

Get organized ~ Beat the clutter ~ A shed in need : a shed indeed.

Like I said earlier, this year has to be about setting right our priorties, getting organized, and working around it to achieve the goals  .. No not trying. Trying almost makes it sound like an excuse even before making the effort. So with the Study  ” a  l   m   o   s   t ” done with the new shelves and new paper holder shelves, Samie ordered for the new Larger shed from Interplast. Now not only is this larger, it is 10″ x 8″, it is far more expensive too, but the silver lining is that they aggreed to have it installed the very next day !!!!!! Wow, could’nt have asked for more better news. So the boys came on thursday and have done a pretty neat job. check it out :

Finally its here .. ..

Finally its here .. ..

For all those of you who think, the second shed could have been avoided, plz look further :

Tons of RC cars packed, stuff stuff and more stuff.

Tons of RC cars packed, stuff stuff and more stuff.


no derth of stuff in our courtyard !

Now you know why the 2nd shed was a"MUST"

In the making..

In the making..


Saturday night we started out with the spring cleaning. It seemed like it took forever, but after heaps and heaps of stuff had been disposed .. I actually felt so redeemed !!!!!!! It really felt good although I was bone tired. Sam did all the hard work while I just kept guiding him what to place where. It’s always fantastic team work between the both of us ..

Still we have a pile of toy boxes and cartons that need to be filtered before I pack some into the shed. Well thats for another week end or maybe even a week day. With that off our backs, we’ll now start re-organizing the furniture in the courtyard.

Both of us deserve a well earned pat on the back !


The life giver

The life giver

The Boy and The Tree

A long time ago, there was a huge apple tree. A little boy loved to come and play around it everyday. He climbed to the  tree top, ate the apples, took a nap under the shadow… 
He loved the tree and the tree loved to play with him.

Time went by…
The little boy grew up, and he no longer played around the tree everyday. One day, the boy came back to the tree with a sad look on his face. “Come and play with me,” the tree asked the boy. “I am no longer a kid, I don’t play around trees anymore.” 
The boy replied, “I want toys. I need money to buy them.”
“Sorry, I don’t have money…but you can pick all my apples and sell them so you will have money.” 

The boy was so excited. He grabbed all the apples on the tree and left happily. The boy didn’t come back after he picked the apples. The tree was sad.

One day, the boy returned and the tree was so excited. “Come and play with me,” the tree said.
“I don’t have time to play. I have to work for my family. We need a house for shelter. Can you help me?”
“Sorry, I don’t have a house, but you can chop off my branches to build your house.” 

So the boy cut all the branches off the tree and left happily.
The tree was glad to see him happy but the boy didn’t come back afterward. The tree was again lonely and sad.

One hot summer day, the boy returned and the tree was delighted. “Come and play with me!” the tree said.
“I am sad and getting old. I want to go sailing to relax myself. Can you give me a boat?” “Use my trunk to build your boat. You can sail far away and be happy.” So the boy cut the tree truck to make a boat. He went sailing and didn’t come back for a long time.

Finally, the boy returned after he had been gone for so many years. “Sorry, my boy. But I don’t have anything for you anymore. No more apples for you…” the tree said.

“I don’t have teeth to bite,” the boy replied.

“No more trunk for you to climb on.”

“I am too old for that now” the boy said. “I really can’t give you anything … the only thing left is my dying roots,” the tree said with sadness.

“I don’t need much now, just a place to rest. I am tired after all these years,” the boy replied.

“Good! Old tree roots are the best place to lean on and rest. Come sit down with me and rest.” The boy sat down and the tree was glad and smiled with tears…….


This is the story of everyone. 

The tree is our parent. When we were young, we loved to play with Mom and Dad… When we grew up, we left them… We only came to them when we needed something or when we were in trouble. 

No matter what, parents will always be there and give you  everything they can to make you happy. 

It may seem as if the way the boy treats the “tree” in the story is cruel, but many of us take our parents for granted in the same way. 

Never forget how important your parents are and try not to take them for granted…they may not be around forever.