Words of Wisdom from the Qur’an

Islam is such a simple and beautiful religion yet there are people who feel intimidated by this religion, perhaps they feel they may have to change so much of their own or their society’s beliefs and habbits, just in order to accept that such a religion and such a community is happily thriving in this world, The western media has depicted this religion with a torn image, one where little children are taught to fight with guns, women degraded and suffocating within heavy veils, cruel looking men who are constantly plotting against the western world.  

In all truth, In all my life I have never come across “ANYONE” who actually experienced anything like that.

I have a British friend who spends more time of the year in Yemen with her “adopted” extended Muslim family than she does with her own family back in England.  She is comfortable amongst simple minded, educated Muslim folks who are just minding their own business and practising their own religion. They love her for who she is and accept her as family. Ofcourse she is a special human being all together but there are several people like her all over the world who really like the “True” muslims. 

Every muslim follows the teaching of the Quran and the sayings and practises of the Prophet Muhammed (Pbuh) which is called Sunnah.   It pains me to see how the western Media has distorted the image of Islam. Please read on and think, I MEAN REALLY THINK, DO YOU THINK, A RELIGION THAT PREACHES THE BELOW, COULD IN ANY WAY BE An “E v i l Religion. 

Dubai is an example of how tolerant Muslims really are. Here is a rare balance between the islamic culture and the western expats following their own ways of life.  A muslim girl cannot wear a hijab to school in france but a western women can wear just about anything (and most of the time they do take advantage of that “anything”) in Dubai !! I mean, talk about Freedom !!! Why do they find a clause around my religion just to show that it supresses women. We wear Hijab because we like it… we are not forced into it ! It is MY FREEDOM to wear or not to wear ! HIJAB is MY IDENTITY, how dare anybody refuse me my right ! But are the authorities in France reasonable ? Hardly  ! and it shows !!!  

A sardar is allowed to wear his turban no matter which part of the world he goes to but if a Muslim woman wears a hijab, she is looked up as being supressed and backward, or if a Muslim man wears a beard and cap, he is looked up with suspicion and hate.

When a foreigner ( any country any religion ) does an act of crime, he is called by his nationality not his religion. When was the last time anyone heard that a christian boy went on a killing spree in xyz school ??? But it is so often that we hear of “Islamic Terrorist” nabbed in xyz area of London. Why do they target Islam ???      

Like Dr Zakir Nair said, if an insane man drove a reputed branded car into the wall and had an accident, whom do you blame the car or the driver ?? Islam is the car and a Muslim is the driver. If one or a bunch of them goof up, why blame the religion ??        

I thought, I’d share with you some of the Words of wisdom from the Qur’an for some of my net friends and visitors. 

Hear are the Words or Wisdom from the Quran :

1. Respect and honour all human beings irrespective of their religion, color, race, sex, language, status, property, birth, profession/job and so on

2. Talk straight, to the point, without any ambiguity or deception

3. Choose best words to speak and say them in the best possible way
[17/53, 2/83]

4. Do not shout. Speak politely keeping your voice low.

5. Always speak the truth. Shun words that are deceitful and ostentatious

6. Do not confound truth with falsehood

7. Say with your mouth what is in your heart

8. Speak in a civilized manner in a language that is recognised by the society and is commonly used

9. When you voice an opinion, be just, even if it is against a relative

10. Do not be a bragging boaster

11. Do not talk, listen or do anything vain
[23/3, 28/55]

12. Do not participate in any paltry. If you pass near a futile play, then pass by with dignity

13. Do not verge upon any immodesty or lewdness whether surreptitious or overt

14. If, unintentionally, any misconduct occurs by you, then correct yourself expeditiously

15. Do not be contemptuous or arrogant with people

16. Do not walk haughtily or with conceit
[17/37, 31/18]

17. Be moderate in thy pace

18. Walk with humility and sedateness

19. Keep your gazes lowered devoid of any lecherous leers and salacious stares
[24/30-31, 40/19].

20. If you do not have complete knowledge about anything, better keep your mouth shut. You might think that speaking about something without full knowledge is a trivial matter. But it might have grave consequences

21. When you hear something malicious about someone, keep a favorable view about him/her until you attain full knowledge about the matter. Consider others innocent until they are proven guilty with solid and truthful evidence

22. Ascertain the truth of any news, lest you smite someone in ignorance and afterwards repent of what you did

23. Do not follow blindly any information of which you have no direct knowledge.
(Using your faculties of perception and conception) you must verify it for yourself. In the Court of your Lord, you will be held accountable for your hearing, sight, and the faculty of reasoning

24. Never think that you have reached the final stage of knowledge and nobody knows more than yourself. Remember! Above everyone endowed with knowledge is another endowed with more knowledge [12/76].

Even the Prophet [p.b.u.h] was asked to keep praying, “O My sustainer! Advance me in knowledge.”

25. The believers are but a single Brotherhood. Live like members of one family, brothers and sisters unto one another

26. Do not make mockery of others or ridicule others

27. Do not defame others

28. Do not insult others by nicknames

29. Avoid suspicion and guesswork. Suspicion and guesswork might deplete
your communal energy

30. Spy not upon one another

31. Do not backbite one another

32. When you meet each other, offer good wishes and blessings for safety.
One who conveys to you a message of safety and security and also when a courteous greeting is offered to you, meet it with a greeting still more courteous or (at least) of equal courtesy

33. When you enter your own home or the home of somebody else, compliment the inmates

34. Do not enter houses other than your own until you have sought permission; and then greet the inmates and wish them a life of blessing, purity and pleasure

35. Treat kindly ” Your parents ” Relatives ” The orphans ” And those who have been left alone in the society

36. Take care of ” The needy, ” The disabled ” Those whose hard earned income is insufficient to meet their needs ” And those whose businesses have stalled ” And those who have lost their jobs.

37. Treat kindly ” Your related neighbours, and unrelated neighbours ” Companions by your side in public gatherings, or public transportation..

38. Be generous to the needy wayfarer, the homeless son of the street, and the one who reaches you in a destitute condition

39. Be nice to people who work under your care.

40. Do not follow up what you have given to others to afflict them with reminders of your generosity

41. Do not expect a return for your good behaviour, not even thanks

42. Cooperate with one another in good deeds and do not cooperate with others in evil and bad matters

43. Do not try to impress people on account of self-proclaimed virtues

44. You should enjoin right conduct on others but mend your own ways first. Actions speak louder than words. You must first practice good deeds yourself, then preach

45. Correct yourself and your families first [before trying to correct others]

46. Pardon gracefully if anyone among you who commits a bad deed out of ignorance, and then repents and amends
[6/54, 3/134]

47. Divert and sublimate your anger and potentially virulent emotions to creative energy, and become a source of tranquility and comfort to people

48. Call people to the Way of your Lord with wisdom and beautiful exhortation. Reason with them most decently

49. Leave to themselves those who do not give any importance to the Divine code and have adopted and consider it as mere play and amusement

50. Sit not in the company of those who ridicule Divine Law unless they engage in some other conversation

52. In your collective life, make rooms for others

53. When invited to dine, Go at the appointed time. Do not arrive too early to wait for the preparation of meal or linger after eating to engage in bootless babble.
Such things may cause inconvenience to the host

54. Eat and drink [what is lawful] in moderation

55. Do not squander your wealth senselessly

56. Fulfil your promises and commitments

57. Keep yourself clean, pure
[9/108, 4/43, 5/6].

58. Dress-up in agreeable attire and adorn yourself with exquisite character from inside out

59. Seek your provision only by fair endeavour
[29/17, 2/188]

60. Do not devour the wealth and property of others unjustly, nor bribe the officials or the judges to deprive others of their possessions

51. Do not be jealous of those who are blessed [4/54]

Kids and Crayons

Very interesting list of tried and tested solutions for crayon marks on the wall.  I suggest you could have this list printed and pasted or placed on the fridge with a magnet for the time young Johnny or little claire decides to show her talents on the walls.  


21 Tips For Removing Crayon Marks From Walls

  1. Toothpaste (regular paste–not gel). This one’s my first pick always (good old regular Crest), it also helps  clean up permanent marker stains pretty easily.
  2. Art gum Eraser – gently rub on marks in a circular motion, can also try a regular pencil eraser. Done carefully, this might be an option for wallpaper stains.
  3. Baking Soda – make a paste with water and use it to gently scrub the mark. You could also just sprinkle baking soda on a damp sponge and rub.
  4. Baby Oil – apply directly to crayon stains then rub off.
  5. Mayonnaise – Glob some on the stain and scrub a bit in a circular motion, then wipe off.
  6. Shaving Cream – apply to markings, rub in, then wipe off.
  7. WD-40 – spray some on the marks and rub off. Wash walls with hot soapy water once the crayon has been removed.
  8. Turpentine – dab some on a damp cloth and scrub into stain to remove crayon.
  9. Lighter Fluid – apply as you would turpentine
  10. Goo Goo – Same directions as for turpentine
  11. Ammonia – soak a section of cloth in household ammonia and scrub markings. You may also luck out with an ammonia based cleaner like Windex and a hot soapy cloth.
  12. Vinegar – soak a toothbrush in white vinegar and scrub marks off.
  13. Heat – Take a hair dryer to the crayon stain and allow it to heat the wax. Wipe heated crayon wax off with a hot, soapy cloth. You could try a clothes iron as well (no steam), just make sure it’s on a low heat setting so it won’t scorch the paint. Place a few paper towels between the wall and the iron.
  14. Hand Lotion – rub directly into crayon and wipe off.
  15. Powdered Dishwasher Detergent – make a paste with water and gently scrub area. Some detergents contain bleach so be careful on wallpaper.
  16. Powdered Household Cleaners – such as Ajax or Comet. Mix with some water or sprinkle on a damp sponge then scrub gently.
  17. Non-stick Cooking Spray – just spray it on then wipe off the marks. Not the best solution for wallpaper since this could leave a grease stain.
  18. Hairspray – spray generously on walls then scrub off the crayon.
  19. Mr. Clean Magic Eraser – go gently, you don’t want to rub off any paint.
  20. Rubbing Alcohol – Saturate part of a clean cloth then rub stains.
  21. Moist Baby Wipe Towelettes – Rub them directly on the crayon stains and scrub markings off. The homemade baby wipes should work too!

A parent’s regret.

I Wish

aalady20ironsI was so busy through the day, I didn’t take the time to play.

When you brought your games to me, I told you “Not now,” and quietly,

I cleaned the house, I’d iron and cook, but when you’d bring your story book, And ask me to sit and read to you, I’d say, “I have too much to do”.

I’d tuck you in your bed at night, you’d say your prayers, I’d dim the light.

Too quickly I’d pass through the door, I should have stayed a minute more.

Life’s much too short, each year flies past, my little boy grew up so fast.

No longer playing by my side, for me to nurture and to guide.

The books and toys are packed away, no longer are there games to play.

No precious bedtime prayers to hear, that all belongs to yester-year.

My days once busy now are calm, the hours empty and too long.

I wish I could go back and do, all the things you asked me to.

At the time you don’t realize it, but raising your child is the best time of your life!


The Boys Room.

The toughest part about cleaning up a room is …………” to maintain that cleanliness.” ” THAT” is an enormous task.

The boys room seems to be looking somewhat presentable still. I know every time I pass by the room, I can hear a loud thud and running about, assuming the boys are quickly gathering up their precious junk treasures from the floor, carpet, tables and almost every possible corner of the room. Still, I must say, its not too bad. Occasionally I’ll spot a bunch of clothes lying around in the corner behind the bunk bed and “YES” COMPLETLY  LOOSE IT ON THE BOYS ! 

 I have a major problem with clothes on the  floor. It just ticks me off very badly. Here is a photo I took last week. Must say it hasnt been the same but its not too bad either.

Bilals car bed

Bilals car bed

This ikea play desk is generally used to pile up soiled clothes !!

This ikea play desk is generally used to pile up soiled clothes !!

Pretty neat .. isnt it ?

Pretty neat .. isnt it ?

One day in my son’s classroom.

Bilal’s new class teacher had requested me to help her out for the Science fair coming up in a couple of weeks so I was glad that this may be a good opportunity to get to know his teacher and his friends.

Ms C  is probably the best thing that happened to the school. She’s terrific and coming from me, thats something.  Unfortunetly after 5 school changes, my experience with teachers has not been a very good one. But that I will leave for a later post.

Coming back to the school projects, there were three projects and my “expertise” was only needed for the bulletine board, which was relatively easy. The labels were computer printed, trimmed by the students, laminated and hopefully I will have them framed on the bb on my next visit next monday. 

The three projects included a Volcano, an underwater Volcano and a plant being influenced to classical music.

There are  three groups. The boys did the volcano naturally. The boys drew a picture of the volcano and I almost cried to see the shape. I bet my french neigbour’s  nursery-going- little daughter Romane could do a better drawing. I gave the class a small description and drawing of what the volcano should look like and asked them to do one which they felt good-with, also adding  some elements in.  The boys did well, relatively.  Bilal amazed me as usual. He really is in another league all together.

I got the first group of the girls to do a crayon water resist painting of the underwater scene. The girls were trying it for the first time which I was surprised about ! I mean, these are  fifth graders !!  They should have had more experience with water colors.  

The second group of girls did a drawing of the potted plant. we cut out the outline of the drawing after it was done and later pasted it on a contrasting colored sheet. We made a frame of it, after the girls wrote their names on it.  And now all the three projects are ready for being pasted on the  bb.

If you think all is done .. think again. We have to first have all the writing material, research stuff writen out then that has to be decided how and where will we place all the drawings and the write ups.  And finally tying all the ends of both the arms of the bb. It wont be a snap-out project but I think I completely enjoyed myself living back to my days teaching in school.

I will be visiting the class on Monday to finally complete the three bb’s.

Some observations : 

As a Art and Craft teacher, experience has taught me that children in art class, tend to become more relaxed and noisy. They get pepped up so  much so that they almost become unruly.  I knew I should expect the boys to be naughty here too , but these boys were realy running out of control ! I mean foul language and ill behaviour.

Ms C    has recently joined the class as class teacher and so I know she is doing a very good job at keeping the boys out of trouble and involved with studies.  Infact I have really seen behavioural improvements in one or two children.

She really does go out of her way to encourage the students and get them motivated.

The girls as expected, move around in twos, threes or fours.  Unfortunetly between mood swings and girlie talks, there’s really no creative spark I could see in anyone of them.

One important observation I made is that :

Bilal doesnt fit in anywhere here. Definetly not with the boys and surely not the girls.

This lost chap hangs around close to the wall, and just observes everybody with a smile on his face as though he is somehow a part of their group and is enjoying them.

It breaks my heart.

The other day he said, ” Mom, am I a virus ?”

When I probed him, he said, that when the teacher decided to make groups for the project, each group shoved him away asking him to join the other group. Nobody wanted  him in their group.

It is a very difficult thing for a mother to face such a situation without getting emotional. But I have been thru exactly similar situations and I knew for years there was no one to whom I could talk to and explain how I felt, atleast my son could talk to me.  I told him the one thing that had really sparked me long ago.

 ” You”re a league apart ” 

What mattered more ? that my son was not knocking other kids with his fists and knee ? that he was not using F’s and B’s constantly ? that he was not poking fun at others ? that he was being polite and courteous ? that he was soft spoken and sharing his stationery even when nobody was returning it ? there was one child who even used Bilal’s water bottle to kick it around as a football.  

I know “bully” when I see it.

In the end Ms C who had taken two girl students to the principals office and later, two boy  students to the principals office, said to me what havoc the class can play some times ! I agreed.

She said she encourages Bilal to join the other boys. But although he would want to join them, something holds him back. Probably he fears he doesnt want to “become” like them.

“I am glad he is not like them”.  

I just trust everything in Ms C’s hands and left, hoping and praying. 

bilal is standing by the window on the right end.

bilal is standing by the window on the right end.

wandering around in class, bilal in the left end

wandering around in class, bilal in the left end

Just wanting acceptance.

Just wanting acceptance.


If there is one thing that I LOVE to watch on the net, its gotta be makeovers ,, room makeovers, art project makeovers, pieces of furniture makeovers, things like that.  There’s a strange kind of excietment I feel just before going to the “After” picture. The pictures itself are so inspiring. One link I have found recently is :


I mean they come up with such creative ways to enhance old pieces of furniture or random crockery and stuff. Now these are things that really have me wanting to try something new as well. I will keep adding new links if and as I find them.

















Recession Humor

Ali Baba and the forty thieves are now Ali Baba thirty thieves.  Ten were laid off! 

Batman and Robin are now Batman and Pedro. Batman fired  Robin and hired Pedro because Pedro was willing to work twice the hours at the same rate!!

Iron man is now “air-pooling” with Superman to save fuel costs ?!!

A director decided to award a prize of $1000 for the best idea for saving the company money during the recession. It was won by a young executive who suggested reducing the prize money to $100.

Women are finally marrying for love….and not money!

The only “deposits” being made on a Ferrari are the ones made by birds flying over them.

Q: With the current market turmoil, what’s the easiest way to make a small fortune?
A: Start off with a large one.

Q: What’s the difference between an investment banker and a large pizza?
A: A large pizza can feed a family of four.

Q: Why have Dubai real estate agents stopped looking out of the window in the morning?
A: Because otherwise they’d have nothing to do in the afternoon.

Q: What’s the difference between an American and a Zimbabwean?
A: In a few weeks……. …….nothing.

Q What’s the difference between a bond and a bond trader?
=0 AA. A bond matures.

Q. Did you hear Goldman Sachs has a new cafeteria?
A. It is called the Warren buffet.

Q: What is the Capital of Iceland?
A: About 70 cents.

Update on the Japanese Banking Crisis:

According to our inside contacts, the Japanese banking crisis shows no signs of ameliorating. If anything, it is getting worse.

Following last week’s news that Origami Bank had folded, we are hearing that Sumo Bank has gone belly up and Bonsai Bank plans to cut back some of its branches. Karaoke Bank is going for a song. Meanwhile, shares in Kamikaze Bank have nose-dived and 500 employees at Karate Bank got chopped. Analysts report that there is something
fishy goin g on at Sushi Bank and some staff there fear they may get a raw deal.

A concerned customer asked his stock broker if the recent market decline and volatility worried him. The broker told him that he has been sleeping like a baby.
“Really?!?” replied the customer.
“Absolutely,” said the broker,
“I sleep for about an hour, wake up, and then cry for about an hour.”

Recession Bumper Sticker:
The recession is worse than a divorce.  You lose half your fortune and still have your wife.

The Difference between Communism & Capitalism

In communism we nationalise the banks and then push them to bankruptcy. In capitalism we push the banks to bankruptcy and then nationalise them.

A priest, a rabbi, and a mortgage broker were all caught in a shipwreck.  Sharks were soon circling around. The sharks eat the priest. The rabbi starts  praying fervently, but to no avail, as the sharks eat him as well. The mortgage  broker is really getting worried, as a shark is coming for him. But, instead, the shark puts him on its back, carries him to shore, and lets him off. The mortgage broker asks, “How come you didn’t eat me too ?”

And the shark replied, “Professional Courtesy!”