Salt Play ~ Therapy & Fun

honest results visible : ' this ' by sawaab

honest results visible : ' this ' by sawaab

Last week sam was in Libya, Algeria etc and that really left us feeling abit low. I have let the kids completly enjoy the  initial outlet, the kids desperately wanted after the exams, last two to three weeks and now it has started to fade off. They are getting restless and need some form of constructive routine. As such we have been sleeping at the wee hours of the night/morning and having breakfast at lunch !!

 Playstation ~ computer games and Cartoons are the only agendas in their lives at the moment.  These kids have really had to bury their heads in alot many books this year and thats why I felt it was ok to let them just “Chill out”.

Hopefully they will be getting into a better schedule with activities and sports shortly. Till then, I am going to relax too.

Last week, we played with salt. The boys not only made signs and alphabets but they also enjoyed making things with it. I could see sawaab making improvements in his spelling, but unfortunetly there was little to no progress in Eman’s case, it saddened me to see, how desperately he tried and kept trying. There is immense zest in this little fellow to “try” and try he does only he constantly looks at my face for reactions.  He excels with just a little encouragement but perhaps I am the one who really needs to practise more patience with him.

All you need is a large tray, some salt and a few pieces like twigs, combs or plastic knives. It adds a whole lot of fun to an afternoon.

All you need is a large tray, some salt and a few pieces like twigs, combs or plastic knives. It adds a whole lot of fun to an afternoon.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

abba I miss u, by sawaab .. message for his father by sawaab

abba I miss u, by sawaab .. message for his father by sawaab

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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He has written his name : as emna where as it is Eman !

He has written his name : as emna where as it is Eman !

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

struggling to read and write

struggling to read and write

Bilal, taking it a step ahead. Blowing to make designs later using a straw too.

Bilal, taking it a step ahead. Blowing to make designs later using a straw too.

Hopefully we will be making salt dough tomorrow, and thats a whole new dimension of fun and experimentation.

Trash to Treasure – 2

Remember I told you in an earlier post, how people here in Dubai, dont mind dumping perfectly good and intact stuff out ! Well, here are another two of my latest finds. They are two paintings… thats right .. original pieces of someones work !!!!!

This one is an oil paint I think.  I like the way, the painting has a border of the same flower pot divided on the frame. Frame looks like Mdf and has a rough paint finish over it.  But it is a very beautiful painting and whats more, it is signed !

wud u want to dump it in the thrash ?

wud u want to dump it in the thrash ?

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

This one has a wooden frame and the painting is created to look aged with a couple of dark lines drawn in halves. And a little paint kinda scraped off on the right corner. Its beautiful, the little teddies have such cute expressions.

bunch of cute little puppies having some fun.

bunch of cute little teddies having some fun.

    

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Whats more, both frames and painitings are in excellent state without even a scratch !

Heres a close up.

the close up.

the close up.

Dubai is truly a land of oppurtunity ! So next time when your in Dubai , pass thru a trash bin, keep your eyes wide open. You never know, whats around that corner .. .. ..

How well do you play scrabble ?

Someone out there must be “deadly” at Scrabble.
(Wait till you see the last one)! 

 

PRESBYTERIAN
When you rearrange the letters:
BEST IN PRAYER

 

ASTRONOMER
When you rearrange the letters:
MOON STARER

 

DESPERATION

When you rearrange the letters:
A ROPE ENDS IT

 

THE EYES:  
When you rearrange the letters: 
THEY SEE

 

GEORGE BUSH:
When you rearrange the letters: 
HE BUGS GORE

 

THE MORSE CODE:
When you rearrange the letters: 
HERE COME DOTS

 

DORMITORY
When you rearrange the letters:
DIRTY ROOM

 

SLOT MACHINES:
When you rearrange the letters: 
CASH LOST IN ME

 
 

ANIMOSITY:
When you rearrange the letters:
IS NO AMITY

 
ELECTION RESULTS:
When you rearrange the letters: 
LIES – LET’S RECOUNT

 

SNOOZE ALARMS
When you rearrange the letters: 
ALAS! NO MORE Z ‘S

 

A DECIMAL POINT
When you rearrange the letters:
I’M A DOT IN PLACE

 

THE EARTHQUAKES
When you rearrange the letters:
THAT QUEER SHAKE

 

ELEVEN PLUS TWO
When you rearrange the letters:
TWELVE PLUS ONE

AND FOR THE GRAND FINALE:

 

MOTHER-IN-LAW:
When you rearrange the letters: 
WOMAN HITLER

Silly Questions

 

ummmm have been wondering .. .. ..

ummmm have been wondering .. .. ..

1. When dog food is new and improved tasting, who tests it? (to be given a thought)
 
  2. If the “black box” flight recorder is never damaged during a plane crash, why isn’t the whole airplane made out of that stuff? (very good thinking)
 
  3. Who copyrighted the copyright symbol? (who knows) 
      
  4. Can you cry under water? (let me try)
 
  5. Why do people say, “you’ve been working like adog” when dogs just sitaround all day? (I think they meant something else)
 
  6. Why are the numbers on a calculator and a phone reversed? (God knows)
 
  7. Do fish ever get thirsty? (let me ask and tell)
 
  8. Can you get cornered in a round room? (by oneseyes)
 
  9. Why do birds not fall out of trees when they sleep? (tonight I will stayand watch)
 
  10. If corn oil is made from corn, and vegetable oilis made from vegetables,then what is baby oil made from? (No comments)
 
  11. What should one call a male ladybird? (Nocomments)
 
  12. If a person suffered from amnesia and then was cured would they rememberthat they forgot? (can somebody help )
 
  13. Can you blow a balloon up under water? (yes u can)
 
  14. Why is it called a “building” when it is already built? (strange isn’t it)
 
  15. If you were traveling at the speed of sound and you turned on your radio would you be ! Able to hear it? (got to think scientifically)
 
  16. If you’re traveling at the speed of light and you turn your headlights on, what happens?
 
  17. Why is it called a TV set when theres only one? (very nice)
 
  18. Why do most cars have speedometers that go up to at least 130 when you legally can’t go that fast on any road?
 
  19. If drink & drive is not allowed why the hell they have parking in Bars?

Gujrati Funeral.

I received a mail from one of my English cousins and after having a real laugh at the hilarious little story that followed, I realized that although I am not biased towards any one religion, nationality or region, we are still quite bound in these prejeduices, we get influenced by media, even when we are saying one thing, deep rooted in our thoughts, are those of what we believe.

Gujrat is a state in the west wing of India. People are very humble, culturally inclined and traditional. (like in many other parts of India ) I completly enjoy their sense of colors. Personally, I have close friends and family friends from there, so it is easy for me to see where the joke is going !

Most Gujrati people have large or small scale businesses because they are extremly good at calculations and have an excellent business sense.  I think the joke here is talking about one of the many families settled in the US but still follows the same traditions of typical guju, as they are pettingly called. Gift giving is traditonal in India and in most cases, carried too far. One gives it to please others and at the same time it is expected as well from the other end. One makes a real fuss when not given a thought full gift when a relative returns !!

Here goes :

A family in Gujarat was puzzled when the coffin of their dead mother (Ba)
arrived from the US . It was sent
by one of the daughters.

 The dead body was very tightly squeezed inside the coffin, with no space left in
it when they opened the lid;
they found a letter on top addressed to her brothers and sisters:

 

 

Dear Chandrakantbhai, Arvindbhai, Smitaben and Varsha ,

 

 

I am sending Ba’s body to you, since it was her wish that she should be cremated
in the compound of our
ancestral home in GUJARAT .

 

 

Sorry, I could not come along as all of my paid leave is consumed.

 

 

You will find inside the coffin, under Ba’s body, cans of cheese, 10 packets of
Tobler chocolates and 8
packets of Badam (peanuts) please divide these among all of you.

 

 

On Ba’s feet you will find a new pair of Reebok shoes (size 10) for Mohan. There
are also 2 pairs of shoes
for Radha’s and Lakshmi’s sons. Hope the sizes are correct.

 

 

Ba is wearing 6 American T-Shirts. The large size is for Mohan.

 

 

Just distribute the rest among yourselves.

 

 The 2 new Jeans that Ba is wearing are for the boys.

 The Swiss watch that Reema wanted is on Ba’s left wrist. Shanta masi, Ba is
wearing the necklace, earrings
and ring that you asked for. Please take them off her.

 

 

The 6 white cotton socks that Ba is wearing must be divided among my nephews.

 

 

Please distribute all these fairly.
Love Smita.

 

 

PS : If anything more required let me know soon as Bapuji is also not feeling
too well now a days.

Chore Chart ~ Rule of the game.

In preparation for the holidays, we had done a few “rules list”. We had it printed and pasted. It is really the usual kinda list that helps children focus with what needs to be done instead of ‘expecting’ them to do the “right ” thing when they dont know whats to be done.

I have realized, often we ‘assume’ that the child will understand, but we forget that we take it for granted at age 35+ but the kids are still only 9 yrs and how much did we understand at that age ??  Children need to be given specific tasks.

SCENARIO 1:

Example, when I ask the boys to clean up their room. As much as they would really want to, they attentively go back in and start playing with the first toy that they are supposed to pick from the floor … and another 2 hours later, the same scenario is repeated !

THEREFORE SCENARIO 2:

However, when I yell out,

sawaab – all toys from the floor to be placed in the baskets .

Eman, all clothes in the laundry bin

Bilal, make all beds …

The effect is Immediate and extraordinary.

Sam always says the same thing to the boys, clean the lounge room and they look around thinking, the louge room already looks great.  However when they are given specific instructions, and assigned chores, it makes more sense, not to mention productivity hits great heights.

eg: Eman, pick all wrappers and throw in the trash bin

Bilal : tidy the dining table & do the cushions on the couch ..

Sawaab : Vaccum the carpet  

Voila .. we sit back and reap the many benefits of having a chore chart ..

Oh and by the way, I dont wear horns on my head, not that, ‘THAT’ stops my boys from hating me for it. Hey they do get their ice creams and playstation time after all that effort is put in !

Reading the Quran – Desktop !

Dear Brothers and Sisters,

Please refer to this site of :

          
http://www.quranflash.com/en/quranflash.html

 This software is amazing and free download. It has English and Arabic traslations. It can be placed as desktop too. Not to mention the numerous benefits of reading and listening to the Holy Quran. Immense effort has been put forward to make this software and it is clearly visible. Please spread this to all your Muslim friends and relatives and neigbours too.

May we all follow the righteous path of our beloved Prophet (May peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) . Ameen

 

A Complete Religion ~ Islam.

READ THIS DUAA FOR BETTER LIFE

Allahumma- inni-ala-Zikr-ika-wa Shuk-rika-wa-husni-ibad-atika.

There is no word as beautiful as Allah.
No example as beautiful as Rasulallah(SAW).
No lesson as beautiful as Islam
No song as melodious as Azan.
No charity as meaningful as Zakat.
No encyclopedia as perfect as Al-Quran.
No prayer as perfect as Namaz.
No diet as perfect as fasting.
No journey as perfect as Hajj.

It is said that when the angel of death is taking the rooh (soul) out of the body of who passes away….it is the most painful experience.

They say that when the dead awake on Qayaamat, the effect of the rooh being taken out will still be there.

Therefore, ALLAH has told us to recite the Ayatul-Kursi after every Farz salaat and it is stated that whoever recites this, their rooh will be taken out as you would take out a strand of hair from a pile of flour. How light would that feel, MashaAllah!

May Allah save us from any sort of pain and may He let us die with Imaan in our hearts and save us from the Azaab. Aameen.

A common “MISTAKE” that we do very often these days is that we talk during Azaan.  

The Holy Prophet(SAW) said, Stop doing everything during the Azaan, even reading the Quran, the person who talks during the Azaan will not be able to say the Kalimah-e-Shahadat on his/her death bed….
That is how severely wrong it is to disrespect the call of Azaan, which we take very casually. Please let us remind ourselves, our children, family members, relatives and muslim friends and neigbours of this fact.

Islam Teaches Simplicity.

“”” The simplicity of Islam. Be humble, be caring, be forgiving, be kind, be generous, When we have fear of Allah in our hearts, how can we go wrong ?? This message came from a dear sister and It had me thinking, ‘how many of my dear muslim brothers and sisters really follow the simplicity of Islam. We have also been influenced by the rat race, the constant ” wanting “, the materialistic world and then again, the fear that we will be left behind if we dont accept the changes of the modern society. Please read on and tell me which of the travellers questions are yours and then tell me if your going to follow or have you been following the simple answers given by the Holy Prophet ?  “” 

Oh and as for me ? .. I keep the  “fear of Allah”  in my heart and most of the times, everything falls in the place, the times when they dont, is the time when I get influenced by the worldly wants ” Never the less, I am trying and keep trying my best efforts. While I may not be perfect, I believe that trying my best to practise the religion I love so much and I am proud to be born a Muslim. I hope and pray to ALLAH that he will accept my best practises and will keep me from the hell fire, inshallah.

A traveler once came to the Masjid of Prophet Sallallahu-alayhe-wa-sallam (PBUH)and ask few questions. 


Q: Traveler: I do not want azaab to be written in my account.


A: Prophet: behave well with your parents
 

Q: Traveler: I want to be known amongst people as an intelligent person.
 

A: Prophet: fear Allah always.
 

Q: Traveler: I want to be counted amongst Allah’s favorites.
 

A: Prophet: recite Quran every morning and evening.
 

Q: Traveler: I want my heart to always be enlightened. (Roshan and munawer)
 

A: Prophet: never forget death
 

Q: Traveler: I never want to be away from Allah’s blessing.
 

A: Prophet: always treat fellow creatures well.
 

Q: Traveler: I never want to be harmed by my enemies.
 

A: Prophet: always have faith in only Allah.
 

Q: Traveler: I wish to live long.
 

A: Prophet: always do sil-e-rahm. (Goodness towards blood relations)
 

Q: Traveler: I want my sustenance to increase.
 

A: Prophet: always be in Wazoo.
 

Q: Traveler: I wish to stay free of Azaab in the grave.
 

A: Prophet: always wear pure (paak) clothes.
 

Q: Traveler: I never want to burn in hell.
 

A: Prophet: control your eyes and tongue.
 

Q: Traveler: how do I get my sins forgiven?
 

A: Prophet: always ask forgiveness from Allah with a lot of humility.
 

Q: Traveler: I want people to respect me always.
 

A: Prophet: never extend your hands of need at people.
 

Q: Traveler: I want to always be honored.
 

A: Prophet: never humiliate or put down anyone.
 

Q: Traveler: I don’t want to be squeezed by fishar-e-qabr. (Squeezing in the grave)
 

A: Prophet: recite Surah mulk often.

Surah’s of the Quran for specific benefits.

It is so unfortunate that we turn to any and every source of relief for our pains except the ONLY ONE that can heal permanently. Quran Pak has all the keys, all the answers to all our problems yet we prefer to take the ” worldly ” solution. May we all turn to these surahs in times of need and otherwise too. Ameen

SURAH’S OF THE QURAN

Surah Fatiha protects one from the anger of ALLAH!

Surah Yaseen From the thirst of the Day of Judgement!

Surah Waaqiah from poverty and starvation!

Surah Mulk from the punishment of the grave!

Surah Kauthar from the enemity of the enemy!

Surah Kaafiroon from kufr at the time of death!

Surah Ikhlaas from hypocrisy!

Surah Falaq from calamities!

Surah Naas from evil thoughts!

Quick Reminders of some Sunnahs of our Beloved Prophet PBUH.

These are just a few quick reminders of how our beloved prophet used to, and has asked us to, eat, drink, sleep, use restroom, etc amongst many other things.
 
Even if you are a muslim who was not taught some or any of these things in childhood, please use the below information to try and make a few changes to your life, perhaps thats the reason you bumped into my  blog in the first place.
 
Please dont get overwhelmed reading them and wondering how your going to follow all or any of these. Dear Brothers and sisters, take one step at a time. Take any one of the habbits and apply it to your daily routine, gradually apply another and so on so forth. Within a few months, or even years you will find it is easier to apply change gradually, rather than all too quickly and feeling frustrated and letting go.    I am still learning and still making a few changes myself.
 
For those of you who are not muslims, you may feel how difficult it must be for muslims to inculcate these sunnahs into their lives. believe me these are such simple practises, they just make life easy and constantly remind you to be humble. Infact not only do they have islamic significance but they all have been proven healthy scientifically.
 
Please feel free to send across any queries that you feel you have. 
  
May Allah swt guide you and may peace be with you. Ameen.
 
Quick Refresher
Sunnahs of Our Beloved Prophet Muhammad [PBUH
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Sunnahs of Eating:
x        Sit and eat on the floor.
x         Spread out a cloth on the floor first before eating.
x         Wash both hands up to the wrists.
x         Recite “Bismillah wa’la barakatillah’ aloud.
x         Eat with the right hand.
x         Eat from the side that is in front of you.
x         If a morsel of food falls down, pick it up, clean it and eat it.
x         Do not find fault with the food.
x         When eating, sit with either both knees on the ground or one knee raised or both knees raised.
x         Clean the plate and other utensils thoroughly after eating.
x         By doing this, the utensils make dua for one’s forgiveness.
x         Recite dua after eating. ( Al hamdu lillahi lazi atamana saqana wo jaalna minal musalamin )
x         After meals wash both the hands.
x         Eat with three fingers if possible.
x         One should not eat very hot food.
x         Do not blow on the food.
x         After eating one should lick his fingers.

 

Sunnahs of drinking:
x        
A Muslim should drink with the right hand. Shaytaan Drinks with the left hand.
x         Sit and drink.
x         Recite “Bismillah” before drinking.
x         After drinking say ” Alhamdullilah” .
x         Drink in 3 breaths removing the utensil from the mouth after each sip.
x         Do not drink directly from the jug or bottle. One should pour the contents into a glass first and then drink.

Sunnahs of Sleeping:
x         To sleep in the state of Wuzu.
x         To make the bed yourself.
x         Dust the bed thrice before retiring to bed.
x         One should change into some other clothes (e.g.pyjamas ) before going to sleep.
x         It is Sunnah to sleep immediately after Isha Salaah .
x         To apply surmah in both the eyes.
x         To brush the teeth with a miswaak.
x         To sleep on the right hand side.
x         To sleep with the right palm under the right cheek.
x         To keep the knees slightly bent when sleeping.
x         To sleep on a bed or to sleep on the floor are both sunnah.
x         To face Qiblah.if possible.
x         To recite Surah Mulk, before sleeping.
x         To recite Ayatul Kursi .
x         To recite Surah Ikhlaas, Surah Falaq and Surah Naas before sleeping 3 times and thereafter blow over the entire body thrice.
x         Recite Tasbeeh-e-Fathima before sleeping.( i.e. 33 X  Subhan Allah 33 X Alhamdulillah and 34 X Allahu Akbar ).
x        To recite the dua before sleeping. ( i.e. Be ismik allahumma amutu wo ahya )
x         To wake up for Tahajjud Salaah .
Sunnahs on Awakening:
x         On awakening rub the face and the eyes with the palms of the hands in order to remove the effects of sleep.
x         Thereafter recite the dua on awakening.
( i.e. Al hamdu lillahi allazi ahyana badama amatana wo ilaihunushur )
x         On awakening cleanse the mouth with a miswaak..  

Sunnahs when wearing clothes:

x         Rasulullah (S
.a.w.) loved white Clothing.
x         When putting on any garment Rasulallah (S.a.w..) always began with the right limb.
x         When removing any garment Rasullallah (S.a.w.) always removed the left limb first.
x         Males must wear the pants above the ankles. Females should ensure that their lower garment covers their ankles.
x         Males should wear a “topee” or turban. Females must wear scarves at all times.
x         When wearing shoes, first wear the right shoe then the left.
x         When removing them first remove the left and then The right.
Sunnahs of the Toilet :
x         Enter the toilet with your head covered.
x         To enter the toilet with shoes.
x         Recite the dua before entering the toilet.( i..e. Allahumma inni auzbeka minal qubs wal qabaes )
x         Enter with the left foot.
x         To sit and urinate. One should never urinate whilst Standing.
x         To leave the toilet with the right foot.
x         To recite the dua after coming out of the toilet ( i.e. Ghufranaka )
x         One should not face Qiblah or show his back towards the Qiblah.
x         Do not speak in the toilet.
x         Be very careful of the splashes of urine (being unmindful in this regard causes one to be punished in the grave).
x         After relieving oneself, to cleanse oneself using  water.
 

Sunnahs of the Home:

x         To recite the dua before entering the home.
x         To greet those that are in the house with ” Assalaamu Alaykum “. Even though it may be your own house.
x         To announce ones arrival by coughing, greeting, etc..  

Other Sunnahs of High Importance:
x         Using a miswaak is a great Sunnah of Rasulullah (S
.a.w.) One who makes miswaak when making wuzu and thereafter performs salaah will receive 70 times more reward. It will also enable one to easily recite the kalima at the time of death.
x         To take a Ghusl bath on a Friday.
x         To apply itar (applies to men only)..
x         To show mercy to those that are younger than you.
x         To respect your elders.
x         It is sunnah to ponder over Allah Ta’ala and His Creation.
x         For men to keep a beard that is one fist in length.
x         To visit a Muslim when he is sick.
x         To be good towards ones neighbour.
x         To meet a Muslim with a cheerful face.
x         To care for the poor and the needy..
x         To keep good relations with all your relatives.
x         To honour a guest even though he may not be of a  very high position.
x         To greet all Muslims by saying ” Assalaamu alaykum  wa rahmatullahi wa barakaatuhu” .
x         To keep the gaze on the ground whilst walking..
x         To speak softly and politely.
x         To command people to do good.
x         To forbid them from doing evil.
x         To carry ones shoes in the left hand.
x         To make wuzu at home before going to the Masjid..
x         To enter the Masjid with the right foot..
x         To leave the Masjid with the left foot.
x         To recite some portion of the Quran Shareef daily.
x         To be hospitable towards one’s guest…
x         To exchange gifts with one another.
x         To make dua to Allah Ta’ala for the fulfillment of one’s needs in what ever language one desires.
x         To consult with one’s parents, teachers or elders before doing any work.
x         To respect one’s parents. 
 

Kids rule !

FLIGHT CONVERSATION WITH A KID…

A stranger was seated next to a little girl on the airplane when the stranger turned to her and said, ‘Let’s talk. I’ve heard that flights go quicker if you strike up a conversation with your fellow passenger.’

The little girl, who had just opened her book, closed it slowly and said to the stranger, ‘What would you like to talk about?’

‘Oh, I don’t know,’ said the stranger. ‘How about nuclear power?’ and he smiles.

‘OK, ‘ she said. ‘That could be an interesting topic. But let me ask you a question first. A horse, a cow, and a deer all eat the same stuff – grass -Yet a deer excretes little pellets, while a cow turns out a flat patty, and a horse produces clumps of dried grass. Why do you suppose that is?’

The stranger, visibly surprised by the little girl’s intelligence, thinks about it and says, ‘Hmmm, I have no idea.’
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To which the little girl replies, ‘Do you really feel qualified to discuss nuclear power when you don’t know shit?

Schools ~ making the right choice.

Today was the last day for school. Bilal had his Maths exam. Sawaab and Eman were supposed to go for the field trip ie: movie at MOE, but they did not, coz Eman is down with tonsilitis.

I stand on cross roads. Cross roads in some serious decision making.  ” SCHOOLS ”

We know the school they are attending “D”  is not the right school for us for many a reasons but to put it as politely, it is becoz not only is it not safe, and that we are worried about the bullying both verbal and physical but also the fact that they are weak in discipline. 

The boys have been following the American Syllabus from the very begining however for the first time we are  considering sending them to a British school.  Not only is the fees in this particular school that we are looking at seriously,  shooting off the ceiling but it is a rather small school. Class room size is 24 students, they have an assistant in most classes and most importantly, they have a Learning Enhancement center.  They are  popular but not as much probably becoz they are a small school run thru two huge villas.  There is firm discipline.  Somehow, I am not one to be impressed with “features” & “faciliities” that schools market these days. I would primarily look for the teaching staff. How compassionate and childfriendly and qualified they are. Thats important to me. The syllabus is important to me. How that is imparted is important. 

I could keep them in “D” school  if I wished, but I know clearly it would be a waste. They have been exposed to some very nasty language  there. Been beaten up several times, and virtually nothing done about it, all in the name of “investigation is being done ” It is such a waste. Teachers fly in and fly out ever two to three months. The ones who are staying rarely seem to say hello ~ there’s always a frown on their faces.  

 Mrs C, is the only exception ofcourse, she has been such a blessing.  When we presented her with the gift basket as a parting gift, she was completly taken aback, she was so emotional.  She was the only positive spark in the school.  She really stood up for buddy, unfortunetly she came only in the third term and alot of the damage had already been done.    

We need teachers like her who dont just enter a class to do a job, they want to make a difference in the life of a child. Thats what true education is.

We approached one primary/secondary school and it was really shocking to see, how all the English ladies at the reception were out and out, not ready to talk to me and the registrar who HAD TO, well she did everything to convince me that the waitlist was sooooo long that it was absolutely pointless to even think of registering. Whats strange is that my husband’s english collegue just applied a day before and he is granted seats, but when we checked the next day, they had 25 students on the waitlist !!!! Over night the waitlist grew from nothing to 25 all becoz an indian kid was interested in the school. I knew what was going on and why bother let my children into a school that is not going to welcome them anyways.

Another school’s registrar looked at me as though, I had Swine Flu all over me !  she was so uncomfortable around us. 

How can you change concrete minds who have been bought up to think they are superior, white and the rest of the world is an inferior class. It is sheer racism and that too in an arab country !   

Some schools emphasis so much on making leaders out of children, some emphasis about the all round growth of children and some emphasis about how many facilities they have (swimming club, sports, drama etc ).

The winchester school in The Gardens near Ibn Batuta, another classic case of  having this really large hall for young kindergarteners with alot of toys, (few were even educational) and none of the kids were actually “allowed ” to play with them. It was a marketing stunt.

One  head teacher clearly said, ” why should we teach children Arabic from grade 1, when they are hardly going to use it anywhere except the arab world ?” I asked her why children in Bombay ( India ) have to as a compulsion learn Marathi which is a language which is spoken only in the state of Maharashtra. Atleast there are over 20 countries where arabic is spoken, how many states, let alone country, Marathi is spoken ? NONE  ! !

Not one school, so far has kept their share of their promise.  The fees here in Dubai has sky rocketed in the past 5 years. Whats even more weird is that the quality remains the same.

I read in one of the ” British” forums, about how these bunch of snobbish ladies were discussing that although they were going to stay in Dubai for a short stint, they had managed to “squeeze” the maximum benefits from the employer !  One commented that she had only dhs 20,000 from the company as education allowance and the other said they got 50% off whichever school they choose, and a third said that her husband had put his foot down that he needed all of his educational allowance taken care of by the employer, hence schools like Dubai American Academyor Gems World or Raffles or Repton or Greenfield, flourish.    

Probably thats why the KHDA ( knowledge and Human Devolopment Authority ) was formed ! To set a standard of guide lines for all schools to implement and follow. 

And to think of it that most of these schools did not even make it in the ” Good schools list ” !! How shameful.  

Indian schools are a different story all together.

The average teacher in Indian based schools are the homemakers who have too much time on hand and dont know what to do except indulge in the TV soaps !   The selection criteria for teachers, is a joke.  The class room atmosphere is repulsive.  We had teachers who used to sell sari’s and VCR movies in the staff room back in the 1980’s. The librarian was known for her knitting skills. We used to hold competitions on who could copy Mr Bora’s notes the fastest. He spoke at 120 words per minute. What we understood in his class is another story ! Most of the indian school kids take private tuitions. It is a norm rather than an exception. I ask why ? why dont the teachers do the job right in the school, so that the average student does not turn to tuitions ?? Naturally coz, the teacher walks into the class, “turn to page  number ……………, ” reads a whole lot or asks the one of the kids to do so and thats just about it. They dont want to impart knowledge, there is no concern for a student with marginal difficulties.  He has to fend for himself. Very few really stand out to make a difference. I cant blame them entirely, coz they too were schooled in such a matter, so how can anyone expect more from them, unless they have it in them to go that extra mile.  

The lebanese perspective :

Well, the only difference between a lebanese teacher and an indian teacher is that the lebanese teacher takes a break ever half an hour to fill her face with another coat of makeup. And ofcourse she spends an extra 2 hours in the morning deciding what and how to wear to school. And inspite of it, she manages to be a sad role model for the student. Not only the high headedness but the absolute indiffernce towards indian kids is simply outrageous. I can say that easily coz my boys went to Al Mawakeb school Al Barsha  for 3 years and they virtually suffered at the hands of   incompetent teachers and codirectors. One of the stupedist things I have ever done is believing that perhaps the error lies in my boys and perhaps tomorrow will be better.  Until, I decided enough was enough. They did 3 years with them – and not one single teacher could tell me that any or all of my boys had dyslexia. They kept pushing the boys year after year.  There were alittle over a dozen episodes after which I decided that my boys and I had had enough.

All the time, sam had convinced me, that all schools are the same and we would get the same treatment no matter which school we went to. Well, I am ready to take my chances but I WILL not stand and watch kids throwing abuse over my boys.   

Being Muslim is not easy even in Dubai, a muslim country and that too Indians, people have so many prejudices about us. I am not perfect and this world is not perfect and nobody said, life would be perfect, but as much as I can, I would like to make the right decisions for the boys without ever disorienting them. Bilal has changed 5 schools and he is in grade 5 going to 6.   How has he coped with it ?? Pretty well, I would say. But I really hope the next school we find, would be where they would be welcomed, understood, encouraged  and supported.

Am I asking for too much ???’

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