In preparation for the holidays, we had done a few “rules list”. We had it printed and pasted. It is really the usual kinda list that helps children focus with what needs to be done instead of ‘expecting’ them to do the “right ” thing when they dont know whats to be done.
I have realized, often we ‘assume’ that the child will understand, but we forget that we take it for granted at age 35+ but the kids are still only 9 yrs and how much did we understand at that age ?? Children need to be given specific tasks.
Example, when I ask the boys to clean up their room. As much as they would really want to, they attentively go back in and start playing with the first toy that they are supposed to pick from the floor … and another 2 hours later, the same scenario is repeated !
THEREFORE SCENARIO 2:
However, when I yell out,
sawaab – all toys from the floor to be placed in the baskets .
Eman, all clothes in the laundry bin
Bilal, make all beds …
The effect is Immediate and extraordinary.
Sam always says the same thing to the boys, clean the lounge room and they look around thinking, the louge room already looks great. However when they are given specific instructions, and assigned chores, it makes more sense, not to mention productivity hits great heights.
eg: Eman, pick all wrappers and throw in the trash bin
Bilal : tidy the dining table & do the cushions on the couch ..
Sawaab : Vaccum the carpet
Voila .. we sit back and reap the many benefits of having a chore chart ..
Oh and by the way, I dont wear horns on my head, not that, ‘THAT’ stops my boys from hating me for it. Hey they do get their ice creams and playstation time after all that effort is put in !