It was narrated from ‘Uqbah ibn ‘Aamir al-Juhani that a group of people came to the Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him), and he accepted the allegiance of nine and refrained from accepting the allegiance of one. They said: “O Messenger of Allaah, you accepted the allegiance of nine and not this one.” He said: “He is wearing an amulet.” He put his hand in and took it off, then he accepted his allegiance, and said: “Whoever uses an amulet has committed shirk (has associated partners with Allaah).” Narrated by Ahmad, 16969. This hadeeth was classed as saheeh by Shaykh al-Albaani in al-Silsilah al-Saheehah, 492
Ibn Qayyim Al-Jawziyyah has listed ten things we waste. Take a look and see how right he is. (May Allah ta’ala bless his soul )
1. Our Knowledge .
Wasted by not taking action with it.
2. Our Actions:
Wasted by committing them without sincerity.
3. Our Wealth:
Wasted by using on things that will not bring us ajr. We waste our money, our status, our authority, on things which have no benefit in this life or in akhirah.
4. Our Hearts:
Wasted because they are empty from the love of Allah, and the feeling of longing to go to Him, and a feeling of peace and contentment. In it’s place, our hearts are filled with something or someone else.
5. Our Bodies:
Wasted because we don’t use them in ibadah and service ofAllah.
6. Our Love:
Our emotional love is misdirected, not towards Allah but towards something/someone else.
7. Our Time:
Wasted, not used properly, to compensate for that which had passed, by doing what is righteous to make up for past deeds.
8. Our Intellect:
Wasted on things that are not beneficial, that are detremental to society and the individual, not in contemplation or reflection.
9. Our Service:
Wasted in service of someone who will not bring us closer to Allah, or benefit in dunyaa.
10. Our Dhikr:
Wasted, because it does not effect us or our hearts.
Rather than let the doom and gloom bring you down, focus on the positive. Life’s simple pleasures which we take for granted. Little things like .. .. .. .. .. .. ..
- finding forgotten money in a pocket
- the joy of free refills at a restaurants
- being able to fix a faulty electronic equipment with a smack.
- When u stay somewhere with a really good shower
- When your pet notices your in a bad mood and comes to see you
- when a friend returns something borrowed so long ago you forgot you owned it
- when you push the button for the elevator and its already there
- getting something handwritten in the mail
- packing a picnic and heading off for some outdoor action without paying a dime
- when you pull up to red light and the guy infront of you nudges up a bit so you can make a right turn.
- leaving a comment on someones blog
- getting a comment
My dear Brothers and Sisters,
The Holy Prophet Mohammed (Peace be upon him & his progeny) said:
1) Four things that make the body sick:
a) Excessive talk
b) Excessive sleep
c) Excessive eating and
d) Excessive sex.
2) Four things that destroys the body:
b) Sorrow (Sadness/Grief)
d) Staying up late (in the night)
3) Four things that dry the face & take away its happiness:
b) Being disrespectful / impudent (insisting on something wrong knowingly)
c) Arguing without knowledge
d) Excessive immorality (doing something wrong without fear)
4) Four things that increases the wetness of face & its happiness:
c) Generosity (being kind)
d) To be helpful to others without he/she asking for that.
5) Four things that stop the Rizq (Sustenance)
a) Sleeping in the morning (from Fajr to Sunrise – an hour before and after sunrise)
b) Praying less
c) Laziness / Idleness
d) Treachery / Dishonesty
6) Four things that bring / increase the Rizq (Sustenance).
a) Staying up in the night for prayers. (Getting up in mid or late night for prayers)
b) Excessive Repentance
c) Regular Charity
d) Remembrance of Allah.
The Holy Prophet (Peace be upon him & his progeny) also said to communicate to others even if you listen one Verse (Ayah) & this one verse will stand on the day of Judgment for intercession.
Feel free to cut and paste the above to your brothers and sisters so that they too and you as well may benefit from these verses, inshallah.
Jazak Allah Khairan
we have two gorgeous cats in the house, one black stray throws his weight in our courtyard and one tabby the persistent Spike aka Laddoo, has adopted our garage !! Thats four cats in all. Of all the villas in the community, this little injured birdie had to find a spot to nurse her injuries in our garage ! If only Spike was not as lazy as garfield !!
The boys found Tweety close to the shoe stand, where upon, I noticed one of her legs was pulled back ~ probably hit something like a wall or branch. She was’nt moving but she seemed to be in shock. I managed to feed her some water and Keeping her in the house for a while meant all the cats were locked up away from her. We were nearly ready to leave for all the Saturday outdoor chores when this episode started, still Sam suggested we show tweety over to the wet, which was a good, 25 kms away from our original destination. Who would’ave thought we’d spend so much time and travel to get little tweety to some medical help. But I am so glad I did !
An hour later, we placed her in the 2 kg yoghurt tub and took her over to Al Barsha Clinic for pets.
To my amazement, when I handed the bucket to the nurse which she took so reluctantly, this little fiesty birdie actually took flight. The nurses examined her and said she was probably hit, under shock, took some time to recover and is ready to fly back home.
10 Minutes later, we placed her on the branch in front of Al Mawakeb school. She did’nt fly away immediately. Probably examining the sourrounding, infact she just sat there for what seemed eternity !!! In my mind, she was saying “thank you” as she sat there, long after we had left. She had been spared one good, solid day of life !
A day to celebrate her freedom … a day to rejoice her life .. a day to having come so close to the claws of a young but lazy cat called spike aka laddoo .. .. .. ..
Nature has provided strength to every living thing, be it the ants, earthworm, fish or the elephant .. we all struggle for our survival. The Almighty had placed strength in that little bird too, strength to rest, recooperate and gather more strength and then fly back.
Being a mother means to forever let your heart live outside your body (within your child).
A child’s hurt is a mother’s trauma. She bears the pain even if it is not apparent on her face. My mother too is feeling terribly hopeless and helpless with my recent predictament. Cancer in the family cannot just be an ordeal but a test of faith. Sam and I look at this phase in our lives as a test of our faith. We are blessed in every way with happiness, comfort and respect. What more can one ask for !
I have found myself consoling more people who react in a very restless way often searching for a reason to blame the matter on someone or something, when they have been informed about my state ( Human Nature). I wish there was something better I could tell them all. But I tell them to pray for my husband, his operation and his speedy recovery.
My faith in Allah has been strong always but perhaps stronger now. I believe the cancer will spare us, it is a way for us to understand and make changes in our lifestyle. We needed a very hard jolt and nothing compares to the word “Cancer”
For the first time, today, Sam went for a walk in the morning after Fajr. If you know Sam, you know that “that” Was an impossible task in his agenda ! But he is making changes. I am making changes. For the last few months, I have switched to packing salads for him for lunch. He has lost weigth although not considerable amount but still, it is a begining.
Last night mom called up for the nth time this week and sounded very lost. Perhaps becoz I finally told her that Sam’s tumor is malignant. She feels she is already loosing Sam … Indians are people full of opinions .. Some doctor who has not even seen sam’s CT report advised her that the cancer would spread all over so that I should get him over to India to have him operated immediately.
I wrote back to her in the night, explaining briefly how she should remain strong for us. Without sounding rude, I somehow managed to bring some humor into my letter and let her understand how much I counted on Allah and her spiritual support.
This is my letter to Mom.
Hope u read my sms last night and left all your worries in Allah swt’s lap.
Although I thought my operation would be like all the others before, I have realized one thing, that I tire easily. It takes alot of effort to get things done now. Even small things like washing dishes, cooking etc. Who knows, maybe it is the effect of the operation. Afterall I am not growing any younger either.
Leave all that, here is my latest neck picture. Dont worry about the scar, it is an asthetic glue stitich so that It will sit in line with the crease on my neck. It wont be apparent after some months. Right now I am enjoying pulling out the dead skin from my stitch area … yummy !!!
If you compare my before op pic to the one now, you’ll be surprised to notice that the neck area is more swollen now than before the operation. But i think its all only the swelling. It will subside eventually.
Mom, Worry is a negative feeling. We should not worry about tomorrow. We should only live happily and completly today. Today is what matters, tomorrow has already been decided by fate. So a well-lived today will make all the difference in Life.
“Allaah burdens not a person beyond his scope” [al-Baqarah 2:286]
Allah swt does not give anyone of us, more weight than what we can carry. And He has chosen me to carry a slightly larger weight right now and what matters right now is what this quote says :
It’s not the load that breaks you down; it’s the way you carry it. Lena Horne
I am grateful to Allah Swt for all the blessings he bestowed upon me for all these years. I have a wonderful husband, 3 fantastic boys, a good home and happiness and respect all around me. If the road ahead is going to be bumpy, I should not forget how smooth the road has been so far. Remember FootPrints ?? I know if the road is going to be bumpy, Allah swt will carry me IN HIS ARMS Thru it. Thats my aqeedah. He is with me, Sam and our boys. Inshallah, everything will be alright. Its just a stepping stone not a boulder in the path.
Keep your spirit strong, it hurts to hear you cry on the phone and it does break me down too. So keep your spirit high. I know its difficult for you coz you are my mother and I know, everyday, I thank Allah swt that this is all happening to us and not to anyone of my boys, becoz then I would NEVER be able to tolerate it.
So it must be hard on you too. But Prayers are the best healers. A mothers’ prayer is a powerful tool. Use it wisely for Sam.
Thanks for reading my mail.
Somewhere in February, I realized I had started binging alot. It did’nt seem right that I was cracking down on Modern Bakery’s laddoos or was completly spellbound by the Boston Kreme DD. I believe that until I dont hit rock bottom, I wont make changes. Little do we know what is enstore … one minute we think we have everything planned up and the next minute , one telephone call can change the entire course of your life.
I have been so restless this entire year .. just waiting for something to happen, well if nothing happened, then I tried to make it happen. Towards March, We had seen a couple of villa’s already and We decided that if we could try, we would get the kids admitted to a school in town and rent a place somewhere in mirdiff and probably rent out our own villa at the Ranches. Generally these kind of things fall in my lap and I love working and organizing such things. Once Sam gave me his consent. I started packing the excess stuff in the studio, preparing cartons of toys for the garage sale, clearing up pieces of art that I felt could save some space in the house etc..
Things had still not run in full swing, becoz I had not jumped into the school admission scenario. I have no idea why I wasnt hoping around as I would have wanted to, except for some larger force was at work. I convinced myself the kids needed time to prepare for the assesments.
Meanwhile on a busy friday night somewhere early march, I discovered a lump in the right side of my neck. Initially I dismissed it thinking it had to be one of my tooth infections … then I assumed it had to do with something related to the hearing loss I had experienced in my right ear just 8 months back. Then I felt it could be something related to the allergy and subsequent severe rash I had by the DermiCool Powder that I had used while in India, to relieve me of some sweat.
What was peculier was that it was large enough to prutrude thru my neck and yet not pain at all. There was absolutely zero pain in it. I suppose we all love to live in denial or then indulge in self obsession !! Becoz it did not pain, i didnt have to turn to any medication and becoz it caused alittle discomfort, it kept playing on my mind. I decided to give it a week or 10 days … perhaps it may be some sinus caused inflamation of my lymph nodes !! who knows !!!!!
Well 10 days later and the little lump on my neck had travelled right till behind my right ear. And still no sign of pain. It almost felt like a large protruding swelling or a flab of double chin. Finally Sam put his foot down when I told him about some muscular pain in my right arm. We emerged at the Emergency at American Hospital. Dr Akbar prescribed some antibacterial for the rash and suggested it could be a reaction to the rash that some lymph node had inflammed.
He suggested consulting Dr Tarabishi which I did in a week. Dr Tarabishi had seen me earlier for my ear injury. He did several examinations including passing a camera thru my nose !! and aspirating two places on the gland too.
He prescribed 2000 mg of Augmentine each day for 10 days !! His guess was that if it was some infection, it would clear itself. There was a very small chance of a tumor … which at that stage seemed out of the question.
15 days later, and Mr lumpy had made himself very comfortable in my neck. Thank God for my hijaab or else I would have really been embarrassed with the humungous size. At this stage I could sense the Doctor getting alittle annoyed with not being able to figure this thing out.
He asked me to get admitted of a byopsy and CT scan on 7th. The idea of having general anesthesia after 8 years was not well received by me. I had hoped and by this stage, started praying that this unwelcomed lump would just disappear but it was here to stay.
Just around this time ….. The cancer in Sam’s Kidney was diagnosed.
Two people in one household having a tumor at the same time !! Unheard of !!! It almost seemed like a dream, I was really hoping someone would wake me up and I’d finally say, “thank God, it was an awful nightmare.”
It was not to happen.
That friday before 7th April, I called Bhaiyya and broke down to him. In my weekest hour, I found solace talking to Bhaiyya. From then on, I kept him informed about all the devolopments… His humility and selflessness are amazing. If I have found anyone resemble my Sam in my family or otherwise, it has to be my brother. I trust his judgement completly and really hold on to his advise.
Alot happened between then and now.
On 7th, I was supposed to be at the hospital by 12 for the CT Scan but at 11 for the admission. For whatever reason just about everything that could have gone wrong with the hospital had managed to go wrong. Everything was failing … everything was a complete chaos.
I was completly irritated, anxious and frustrated. I dropped the kids at the hospital and Sam picked them and dropped them at Kidzania. Finally he joined me after the CT Scan was completed.
My CT was done just 2 hours before my operation … The doctor had decided in the OT that they would remove all the mass and tissue. I believe they had carried out the frozen test and thereafter it was taken out.
The operation started at 15:00 hrs and took 3 hours to complete. I came around at 20:00 hrs and felt as though nothing had changed except some strangely uncomfortable feeling in my neck.
I remember sham and Arif kept saying why my cut had been so large for a simple biopsy. Strangely enough I was hungry. I was so desperate for something to eat !! and EAT, I did !!!!! Infact I ordered for an extra sandwich meal at 23:00 hrs !~!~!!!!!! I never slept all night ….. happiness and anxiety kept me awake.
Following day, Dr Osama had informed me that the tumor was benign and apart of the tissue sample was sent to the pathology for investigation. To think of it !!! what were the chances of a tumor ?? 2 % !!!! Well, that was one story with a good ending.
I was already waiting for Sam to take me to Abu Dhabi so that we could discuss his case with Sheikh Khalifa Medical City that afternoon. That never happened coz Sam arrived late. We had a meal and reached home. Finally I got my beauty sleep only to wake up the following morning with what felt like a large tyre around my neck. The swelling was so large that it almost scard me to see my reflection in the mirror. Poor Sam, what he has to put up with !! 5 days later, the swelling is subsiding … I am enjoying pulling off the dead skin around the area of the incesion. Infact I get a real kick pulling the dead skin off the entire stitched area.
Inspite of all my strength, I find myself dragging me around. Its hard to gather up strength and get chores done. I tire easily. For someone as active as myself, it is a very sinking feeling not being able to achieve 100 % all the time. But one thing this entire episode has taught me is to enjoy every minute and put more time with my boys.
Sometimes we take our lives for granted and then we need wake up calls like these that can set us straight.
In ancient times, a king had a boulder placed on a roadway. Then he hid himself and watched to see if anyone would remove the huge rock. Some of the king’s wealthiest merchants and courtiers came by and simply walked around it.
Many loudly blamed the king for not keeping the roads clear, but none did anything about getting the big stone out of the way. Then a peasant came along carrying a load of vegetables. On approaching the boulder, the peasant laid down his burden and tried to move the stone to the side of the road. After much pushing and straining, he finally succeeded. As the peasant picked up his load of vegetables, he noticed a purse lying in the road where the boulder had been. The purse contained many gold coins and a note from the king indicating that the gold was for the person who removed the boulder from the roadway. The peasant learned what many others never understand.
Every obstacle presents an opportunity to improve one’s condition.
Last November, we visited India to attend my nephew’s marriage. After my marriage ie 12 years, We were going to see “ALL” my relatives. In between all the fun and frolic, I could sense how fortunate we were to be so happily in love. Sam and I were the talk of town. Plump and made for each other !!
Came back and posted some of the marriage pics in FB where a huge number of my friends, family and relatives hang out. Perhaps it was a mistake that I posted that pic but I know now that If it was a mistake, It is one, I have to live with for the rest of my life.
Sam has had high blood pressure for the last 7 months. He has been taking medication to keep it on an average scale. On one visit to American Hospital Dubai early February for a repeat medication, the doctor suggested an MRI of the renal artery. If you know sam, you know that sam, immediately decides that doctors love to mint money with a huge bunch of tests .. so inspite of all his whinning. He had the MRI done. What followed was to change our lives forever.
The renal artery seemed fine but his right kidney has a tumor about 10 cm large !! After several sonographies, xrays, and CT scan’s the doctors explained how serious his state is but ( hate that word *BUT*) The only solution to the tumor is removal of the entire kidney. This is a very critical operation with a very high risk rate, therefore American Hospital Dubai has refused this operation. However they have advised that we take Sam’s case to any Kidney specialist Center where there would be a team of doctors to carry out the operation. Sam has never been operated upon. Naturally he is curious and anxious. His left kidney has a mild stenoces. Although the cancer has not spread out of the kidney, they can see some signs of it in his lungs !!
Ofcourse our initial reaction was that of disbelief. He is healthy, if anything, overweight. Never complains about sickness. It took sometime for this harsh reality to seep in. For the first week or so, I kept hoping that there was an error in the report or then just kept searching for the silver lining. Sam has been spending alot of time with the boys. It is difficult to think of my world without Sam. He is that orbit around which I revolve. He is one of the nicest people I know of. I am so dependent on him. One of the first thoughts that ran thru my mind was ” what will happen to me ?” Silly why I lost hope so early in our battle. … then gradually I composed myself. I am a hardcore optimist, so it dawns late but it does dawn for sure. There is always a silver lining. Our love story is not going to end here. We have to have many more years of bliss and joys. We are going to grow old together. We will see our sons getting married. I will sit and watch all the videos and photos that we have shot of the boys’ childhood in our retirement with Sam and we will have a blast recalling all the incidences. Sam is not going to leave me and I am not going to let Sam leave me. Not now, Not like this. I will fight for him. I will keep fighting for him. I will beg Allah swt for my samie. I will beg him to spare his life.
In the heart of the matter we all know, that we are visitors in this world and have a larger home to return to in the here after and no matter how much we feel we are preparing for it, we are really not at all prepared.
It seems difficult to be practical at such times, but its like we shift the gears of our motors to act accordingly.
We have been struggling with decisions …. if we should have this operation done here in Dubai or should we take him to India … ( just as everybody has been advising us ) how would the logistics of all this work ??? We Indians are very emotional and get into “Panic” mode very easily. Although we managed to keep it in wraps for a month … when we did disclose it to our near and dear family members, all hell broke looose. Too many opinions, too many judgements, too much chaos, just too much panic to handle.
Sam has been one of the best gifts Allah swt has blessed me with. The mere thought of loosing him makes me feel week in the knees. He is too precious, too nice, too dear, too loving, …….. too mine. I would do anything to keep him alive.
And yet I find myself at Allah’s mercy, begging him for help as I would for any ailment for my family. The Almighty has been so generous to us … so forgiving and so merciful, I have complete faith that a solution will follow.
One line I have always believed for as long as I can remember is : ” If Allah can get you to it, He can get you through it.”
For all those of you reading this, please pray for my samie. He is truly a special individual. There is no one who passes by him that is not touched by his compassion and generosity. Please keep my samie in your prayers.
A little boy went into a store, reached for a soda carton and pulled it over to the telephone. He climbed onto the carton so that he could reach the buttons on the phone and proceeded to punch in seven digits. The store owner observed and listened to the conversation.
The boy asked, “Maam, Can you give me the job of cutting your lawn?” The woman replied, “I already have someone to cut my lawn.”
“I will cut your lawn for half the price of the person who cuts your lawn now.” replied the boy. The woman responded that she was very satisfied with the person who was presently cutting her lawn.
The little boy was even more perseverant and said, “I’ll even sweep your curb and your sidewalk, so on Sunday you will have the prettiest lawn in all of Palm beach, Florida.” Again the woman answered in the negative.
With a smile on his face, the little boy replaced the receiver.
The store owner, who was listening to this conversation, walked over to the boy and said, “Son… I like your attitude; I like that positive spirit and would like to offer you a job.”
The little boy replied, “No thanks, I was just checking my performance on the job I already have. I am the one who is working for the lady I was talking to!”
Last night I was sitting on the sofa watching TV when I heard my wife’s’ voice from the kitchen.
“What would you like for dinner my Love? Chicken, beef or lamb?”
I said, “Thank you, I’ll have chicken.”
She replied “You’re having soup, asshole. I was talking to the cat!”
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A man was in his death bed and called his wife. With a weak voice he said:
– Honey, come closer, I need to…, confess something!
-No, no!!, answered the woman, relax and keep quiet. You should make no efforts…
– But I need to die in peace! I must confess!
– The thing is, I went out… with your sister… your mother…, and even your best friend!
– I know, I know. Now be quiet and let the poison work.
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When her friends hired a stripper for her birthday,commediant Mary Pfeiffer realised how much she had changed. The guy started taking his clothes off and asked:
– What are you thinking, love?
– That I’ve been married for too long, because the first thing that came to my mind was “You’re going to get these clothes off the floor won’t you?”
At a time when my family is undergoing alot of changes and a whole lot of trama, my cousin in canada, who was unaware of my state of affairs, sent me this mail. It is simple and full of wisdom. Its strange how sometimes, when your in a particular situation, a particular quote fits your situation exactly and you can relate so rightly to it. In this particular incident every quote for probably written for me !!!
Take a 10 – 30 minute walk every day and while you walk, SMILE
· Sit in silence for at least 10 minutes each day
· When you wake up in the morning complete the following statement….
o My purpose is to _______________ today.
· Live with the 3 E’s: Energy , Enthusiasm and Empathy
o And the 3 F’s: Faith, Family and Friends
· Spend more time with people over the age of 70 and under the age of 6
· Dream more while you are awake
· Try to make at least 3 people smile each day
· Realize that life is a school and you are here to learn, pass all the tests, problems are simply part of the curriculum that appear and fade away like algebra class, but the lessons you learn will last a lifetime.
· Smile and laugh more, it will keep the energy vampires away.
- Life isn’t fair, but it is still good.
· Life is to short to waste time hating anyone.
· Don’t take yourself so seriously. No one else does.
· You don’t have to win every argument. Agree to disagree.
· Make peace with your past, so it won’t mess the present.
· Don’t compare your life with others, you have no idea what their journey is all about.
· Burn the candles, use the nice sheets, don’t save it for a special occasion, today is special.
· No one is in charge of your happiness except you. Forgive everyone for everything.
· What other people think of you is none of your business.
· Time heals everything. Give time, time.
· However good or bad a situation is, it will change. Your job won’t take care of you when you are sick. Your friends will stay in touch.
· Get rid of everything that isn’t useful, beautiful or joyful.
· Believe. The best is yet to come.
· No matter how you feel, get up, dress up, and show up.
· Do the right thing.
· Call your family often.
· Each night before you go to bed, complete the following statement….
o I am thankful for……
o Today I accomplished……
· Remember that you are too blessed to be stressed.
· Enjoy the ride. Remember this is not Disney World and you certainly don’t want to fast pass. Make the most of it and enjoy the ride!