Trade in Proposal/Marriage.


Abu Huraira (Allah be pleased with him) reported that Allah’s Messenger (may peace be upon him) prohibited Shighar. Ibn Numair added: Shighar means that a person should say to the other person: Give me the hand of your daughter in marriage and I will (in return) marry my daughter to you; or marry me your sister, and I will marry my sister to you. (Muslim Book 8, Number 3299)

 What an interesting Hadith Masha’Allah 🙂

It has been stated so many times that the Prophet never spoke unnecessarily but when he spoke he was careful in what he said and there was a definete reason to why he said what he said.  Subhanallah. 

Please know that the below is my point of view on this matter and not quoted by any scholar.

I found this concept of trade in marriage unusal but not unheard of, especially in India and Pakistan, where it is still practised although not often. In my point of view, it can become quite a complicated issue before and after the marriage. Therefore best avoided.

For obvious reasons such as if one marriage is not working out they treat the other couple the same …i.e. forced to divorce and the reason will be the other couple did not work out. Even if they are not forced to divorce, imagine how uncomfortable and awkward a wife feels if she sees her sister in law brooding in her household due to the misunderstandings/hardships/incompatibilities caused by her own brother !!!

If the rasool has prohibited this trade in, then so be it. Hope it helps us to wake up and advise our neighbours, relatives and muslim friends that this should not be practised if they are,  due to ignorance. Please advise your near ones.

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