Mr Ratan Tata said ….

Three beautiful thoughts from Mr. Ratan Tata

1. None can destroy iron, but its own rust can!
Likewise, none can destroy a person, but his own mindset can.

2. Ups and downs in life are very important to keep us going, because a straight line even in an E.C.G. means we are not alive.

3. F-E-A-R : has two meanings :
I. Forgot Everything And Run
II. Face Everything And Rise!!

A great lesson on Stress.

A young lady confidently walked around the room while leading and explaining stress management to an audience with a raised glass of water. Everyone knew she was going to ask the ultimate question, ‘half empty or half full?’…. She fooled them all …. “How heavy is this glass of water?” she inquired with a smile. Answers called-out ranged from 8 oz. To 20 oz. She replied , “The absolute weight doesn’t matter. It depends on how long I hold it. If I hold it for a minute, that’s not a problem. If I hold it for an hour, I’ll have an ache in my right arm. If I hold it for a day, you’ll have to call an ambulance. In each case it’s the same weight, but the longer I hold it, the heavier it becomes.
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“She continued, “and that’s the way it is with stress. If we carry our burdens all the time, sooner or later, as the burden becomes increasingly heavy, we won’t be able to carry on.” “As with the glass of water, you have to put it down for a while and rest before holding it again. When we’re refreshed, we can carry on with the burden – holding stress longer and better each time practiced. So, as early in the evening as you can, put all your burdens down. Don’t carry them through the evening and into the night… Pick them up tomorrow.”

Humans and Frogs.

frogs

Human Beings and frogs are the two creatures in nature who have tremendous power to adjust.
Put a frog in a vessel of water and start heating the water. As the …temperature of the water rises, the frog is able to adjust its body temperature accordingly. The frog keeps on adjusting with increase in temperature. Just when the water is about to reach boiling point, the frog is not able to adjust anymore. At that point the frog decides to jump out. The frog tries to jump but is unable to do so, because it lost all its strength in adjusting with the water temperature. Very soon the frog dies.
What killed the frog? Many of us would say the boiling water. But the truth is what killed the frog was its own inability to decide when it had to jump out.
We all need to adjust with people and situations, but we need to be sure when we need to adjust and when we need to face. There are times when we need to face the situation and take the appropriate action. If we allow people to exploit us physically, emotionally or financially, they will continue to do so. We have to decide when to jump. Let us jump while we still have the strength!

Are you a WINNER or a LOSER ?

Personally I dont like the term “Loser “. Its a heavily loaded term full of negativeity. I doubt any one likes to be teased as being a loser. Although I understand from my own kids that its one of the “in” terms to use, when teasing or naming someone you dont particularly like.

Here is something I came across in my inbox, but by no means is this some sorta standard bench mark about losers, however, it does show how one could improve ones attitude and fall on the other side of the court.

  •           The Winner is always part of the answer;
  •            The Loser is always part of the problem.
    • *********
    • ♦ The Winner always has a program;
    • The Loser always has an excuse.
    • *********
    • ♦ The Winner says, “Let me do it for you”;
    • The Loser says, “That is not my job.”
    • *********
    • ♦ The Winner sees an answer for every problem;
    • The Loser sees a problem for every answer.
    • *********
    • ♦ The Winner says, ” It may be difficult but it is possible”;
    • The Loser says, “It may be possible but i t is too difficult.”
    • *********
    • ♦ When a Winner makes a mistake, he says, “I was wrong”;
    • When a Loser makes a mistake, he says, “It wasn’t my fault.”
    • *********
    • ♦ A Winner makes commitments;
    • A Loser makes promises.
    • *********
    • ♦ Winners have dreams;
    • Losers have schemes.
    • *********
    • ♦ Winners say, “I must do something”;
    • Losers say, “Something must be done.”
    • *********
    • ♦ Winners are a part of the team;
    • Losers are apart from the team.
    • *********
    • ♦ Winners see the gain;
    • Losers see the pain.
    • *********
    • ♦ Winners see possibilities;
    • Losers see problems.
    • *********
    • ♦ Winners believe in win-win;
    • Losers believe for them to win someone has to lose.
    • *********
    • ♦ Winners see the potential;
    • Losers see the past.
    • *********
    • ♦ Winners are like a thermostat;
    • Losers are like thermometers.
    • *********
    • ♦ Winners choose what they say;
    • Losers say what they choose.
    • *********
    • ♦ Winners use hard arguments but soft words;
    • Losers use soft arguments but hard words.
    • *********
    • ♦ Winners stand firm on values but compromise on petty things;
    • Losers stand firm on petty things but compromise on values.
    • *********
    • ♦ Winners follow the philosophy of empathy: “Don’t do to others what you would not want them to do to you”;
    • Losers follow the philosophy, “Do it to others before they do it to you .”
    • *********
    • ♦ Winners make it happen;
    • Losers let it happen.
    • *********
    • ♦ Winners plan and prepare to win.
    • The key word is preparation.

25 Thought provoking Muslim one liners.

Assalam Alai kum Brothers and sisters.  I hope all of you have been safe and in good health, where ever you stay.

My husband, samie send this mail which had these, really thought provoking one liners. Some of them really had me thinking. Infact, retrospecting. Please feel free to use them in your daily lives. Infact, It would be a great idea to use them on plaques etc. However please remember, anything which has Allah’s name should handled with care.

Here they are. Please tell me which you liked the most. ( number wise )

1.   Give Allah what’s right, not what’s left.2.   Man’s way leads to a hopeless end. Allah’s way leads to an endless  hope.

3.   A lot of kneeling will keep you in good standing.

4.   He who kneels before Allah can stand before anyone.

5.   In the sentence of life, the devil may be a comma, but never let him be the full stop.

6.   Don’t put a question mark where Allah puts a full stop.

7.   Are you wrinkled with burden? Come to the mosque for a face lift.

8.   When praying, don’t give Allah instructions, just report for duty.

9.   Don’t wait for six strong men to take you to the mosque.

10. We don’t change Allah’s message. His message changes us.

11. The mosque is prayer-conditioned.

12. When Allah ordains, He sustains.

13. Warning: Exposure to Allah may prevent burning.

14. Plan ahead. It wasn’t raining when Noah(Alaihi salaam) built the ark.

15. Most people want to serve Allah, but only in an advisory position.

16. Suffering from truth decay? Brush up on your Qur’an>an. r>

17. Exercise daily Walk with Allah.

18. Never give the devil a ride. He will always want to drive.

19. Nothing else ruins the truth like stretching it.

20. Compassion is difficult to give away because it keeps coming back.

21. He who angers you, controls you.

22. Worry is the darkroom in which negatives are developed.

23. Give Satan an inch and he will be a ruler.

24. Allah doesn’t call the qualified. He qualifies the called.

25. Read the Qur’an. It will scare the hell out of you.

Internet Abbreviations.

I remember when I was in school, somewhere in 1985-86. We were introduced to computer software in school in the form of a subject. I remember some of my friends opting for Dbase and Lotus.  Those who opted for computers were considered progressive, high tech and really intelligent. Somewhere in 1990, I too enrolled for a course in C language. Not that anything materialized from it ~ I did not even pass the course !!!

Over a period of the next 10 years. Computers really seeped thru every channel of transaction we made. Ofcourse Microsoft was a revolution in itself. The WWW opened the world like nothing before. We knew what Mrs Peng cooked for dinner far away in a tiny province of china or what programe young Steven was watching in a remote village close to Durban. The world seemed to be magically rolled up and fitted into the gazillions of dots and @ in our computer screens. It is still amazing !! And I am reminded about this phenomeon when my young son asks me, how did you find things or do projects before computers ?? Wow, Now THAT was a challenge.  Although it did not seem so then.

This also brings me to the weird and wonderful world of chat rooms, forums, discussion boards etc.  Being a typist, I find typing rather easy and convenient but I can understand how impossibly difficult it must be for those who use two forefingers to get around so many keys. My husband for instance has mastered the keyboard with his two forefingers, amazingly.

Probably becoz of this, people have these really short, abbreviated codes in these forums. It is amusing and amazing, and sometimes, its hard to keeep up with the scores of newly abbreviated terms online. Here are some of them for you. Personally, I dont like it. I prefer simple english to communicate. Probably the only word I generally abbreviate, which has now almost become a signature in my articles is ~ becoz for because and thru for through. I have  been doing so since school and have got into trouble on several occasions for using them. And what do you know now ~ My cousin sister who is a principal in a school, is using some of these codes to communicate !!!!

So when your on facebook or tweeter and come across so really weird looking word which does not make any sense, please turn to this post to make some sense of it !!! Here is a small collection of them :

Oh, SMH means Scratching My Head or Shaking my head.

1. 73: Best Regards
2. AFAIC: As Far As I’m Concerned
3. AYSOS: Are You Stupid or Something?
4. BAC: By Any Chance
5. BBN: Bye Bye Now
6. BRB: Be Right Back
7. CSG Chuckle Snicker Grin
8. DH: (depending on your mood!) Dear Husband ~ Darned Husband ~ Demented Husband
9. DIY: Do It Yourself
10. EOD: End Of Discussion
11. FAQ: Frequently Asked Questions
12. GBTW: Get Back To Work
13. GMTA: Great Minds Think Alike
14. H&K: Hug and Kiss
15. HAGU: Have A Good ‘Un
16. Clapping: Hands And Wetting My Pants
17. IAE: In Any Event
18. IMPE: In My Previous/Personal Experience
19. ISP: Internet Service Provider
20. J/K: Just Kidding
21. L8R: Later
22. LHU: Lord Help Us
23. LOLOL: Laughing Out Loud On Line
24. LY: Love Ya
25. MYOB: Mind Your Own Business
26. nOOb: Newbie
27. PMFJI: Pardon Me For Jumping In
28. PS: Post Script
29. QSO: Conversation
30. ROTFLMAO: Rolling On The Floor Laughing My A** Off
31. ROFLCOPTER: Rolling on Floor Laughing and Spinning Around in Circles
32. SIL: Sister In Law
33. SOHF: Sense Of Humor Failure
34. TANSTAAFL: There Ain’t No Such Thing As A Free Lunch
35. TOS: Terms Of Service
36. TTYL: Talk To You Later
37. VDW: Very Dear Wife
38. WTH: What/Who The Heck (or H**, or sub an ‘F’ for the ‘H’)
39. WYSIWYG: What You See Is What You Get
40. YWIA: You’re Welcome In Advance

Coffee cups and life !!

A group of college alumni, well-established in their careers, began talking at a reunion about the impact that a professor of theirs had made on each of their lives.  They decided to go visit their old professor, who was
now retired. During their visit their conversation turned into complaining about the stress in their work and lives.
Offering his guests coffee, the professor went to the kitchen and returned with a large pot of coffee and an assortment of cups – porcelain, plastic, glass, crystal, some plain looking, some expensive, some exquisite – telling
them to help themselves to the coffee.
When all the alumni had a cup of coffee in hand, the professor said,
“Notice that each of you took one of the nicer-looking cups. You didn’t take any of the plain ones. While it is normal for you to want the best for yourselves, that has become the source of your problems and stress. The cup
itself adds nothing to the quality to the coffee. What all of you really wanted was coffee, not the cup, but you consciously went for the best cups…and then you began eyeing each other’s cups.
 You compared the quality of your cup with the quality of a friend’s cup.”

The professor continued, “Now consider this: Life is the coffee; your job, money and position in society are the cups. They are just tools to hold and contain life. The style one cup has, does not define or change the
quality of life an individual lives. Sometimes, by concentrating only on the cup, we fail to enjoy the coffee God has provided us. The happiest people  don’t have the best of everything.
They just make the best of everything.”
Enjoy your coffee!  

Live simply. Love generously.  Care deeply. Speak

kindly.

The Special Mother

by Erma Bombeck

Most women become mothers by accident, some by choice,

a few by social pressure and a couple by habit.


This year nearly 100,000 women will become mothers of handicapped children. Did you ever wonder how these mothers are chosen? Somehow I visualize God hovering over Earth selecting his instruments for propagation with great care and deliberation.


As he observes, he instructs his angels to take notes in a giant ledger.


“Forrest, Marjorie, daughter. Patron Saint, Celia.”


“Rutledge, Carrie, twins. Patron Saint…give her Gerard. He’s used to profanity.”


Finally he passes a name to an angel and smiles.


“Give her a handicapped child.”


The angel is curious. “Why this one, God? She’s so happy.”


“Exactly,” smiles God.


“But does she have the patience?” asks the angel.


“I don’t want her to have too much patience, or she’ll drown in a sea of self-pity and despair. Once the shock and resentment wear off she’ll handle it.”


“I watched her today. She has that sense of self and independence so rare and so necessary in a mother. You see, the child I’m going to give her has a world of it’s own. She has to make it live in her world, and that’s not going to be easy.”


“But Lord, I don’t think she even believes in you.”


The angel gasps, “Selfishness? Is that a virtue?”

She will never be alone. I will be at her side every minute of every day of her life
because she is doing my work as surely as she is here by my side.”

“Armstrong, Beth, son. Patron Saint, Matthew.”

“Could I give a handicapped child a mother who knows no laughter? That would be cruel.”

God smiles.

“No matter, I can fix that. This one is perfect. She has just enough selfishness.”

God nods.

“If she can’t separate herself from the child occasionally, she will never survive. Yes, here is a woman whom I will bless with a child less than perfect. She doesn’t know it yet, but she is to be envied. She will never take for granted a spoken word.
She will never consider a step ordinary. When her child says momma for the first time, she will be witness to a miracle and know it. I will permit her to see clearly the things I see–ignorance, cruelty, prejudice–and allow her to rise above them.

“And what about her Patron Saint?” asks the angel, his pen poised in the air.

God smiles.

“A mirror will suffice.”

Sand And Stone.

A story tells that two friends were walking through the desert. During some point of the journey they had an argument, and one friend slapped the other one in the face. The one who got slapped was hurt, but without saying anything, wrote in the sand: “TODAY MY BEST FRIEND SLAPPED ME IN THE FACE.”

They kept on walking until they found an oasis, where they decided to take a bath. The one, who had been slapped, got stuck in the mire and started drowning, but the friend saved him. After the friend recovered from the near drowning, he wrote on a stone: “TODAY MY BEST FRIEND SAVED MY LIFE.”

The friend who had slapped and saved his best friend asked him, “After I hurt you, you wrote in the sand and now, you write on a stone, why?”

The other friend replied: “When someone hurts us, we should write it down in sand where winds of forgiveness can erase it away. But, when someone does something good for us, we must engrave it in stone where no wind can ever erase it.”

LEARN TO WRITE YOUR HURTS IN THE SAND, AND TO CARVE YOUR BENEFITS IN STONE

Funny Witty Quotes.

If it were not for Thomas Edison, we would all be watching television in the dark. ——–Michael L.


Always and never are two words you should always remember never to use. ———Wendell Johnson


It matters not whether you win or lose; what matters is whether I win or lose. ——–Weinberg


1.I can please only one person per day. Today is not your day. Tomorrow isn’t looking good, either.  

2. I love deadlines. I especially like the whooshing sound they make as they go flying by.

3. I’d explain it to you, but your brain would explode.

4. Someday we’ll look back on all this and plow into a parked car.

5. There are very few personal problems that cannot be solved by a suitable application of high explosives.

6. Tell me what you need and I’ll tell you how to get along without it.

7. Accept that some days you’re the pigeon and some days you’re the statue.

8. Needing someone is like needing a parachute. If he isn’t there the first time you need him, chances are you won’t be needing him again.

9. I don’t have an attitude problem. You have a perception problem.

10. Last night, I lay in bed looking up at the stars in the sky and thought to myself, “Where the heck is the ceiling?”

11. My Reality Check bounced.

12. On the keyboard of life, always keep one finger on the Escape key.

13. I don’t suffer from stress. I’m a carrier.

14. You’re slower than a herd of turtles stampeding through peanut butter.

15. Do not meddle in the affairs of dragons because, to them, you are crunchy and taste good with ketchup.

16. Everybody is somebody else’s weirdo.

17. Never argue with an idiot. They drag you down to their level.

18. Am I getting smart with you? How would you know?

Something to smile about .. .. .. ..

Rather than let the doom and gloom bring you down, focus on the positive.  Life’s simple pleasures which we take for granted.  Little things like .. .. .. .. .. .. ..

  • finding forgotten money in a pocket
  • the joy of free refills at a restaurants
  • being able to fix a faulty electronic equipment with a smack.
  • When u stay somewhere with a really good shower
  • When your pet notices your in a bad mood and comes to see you
  • when a friend returns something borrowed so long ago you forgot you owned it
  • when you push the button for the elevator and its already there
  • getting something handwritten in the mail
  • packing a picnic and heading off for some outdoor action without paying a dime
  • when you pull up to red light and the guy infront of you nudges up a bit so you can make a right turn.
  • leaving a comment on someones blog
  • getting a comment 

THE OBSTACLE IN OUR PATH

In ancient times, a king had a boulder placed on a roadway. Then he hid himself and watched to see if anyone would remove the huge rock. Some of the king’s wealthiest merchants and courtiers came by and simply walked around it.

 Many loudly blamed the king for not keeping the roads clear, but none did anything about getting the big stone out of the way. Then a peasant came along carrying a load of vegetables. On approaching the boulder, the peasant laid down his burden and tried to move the stone to the side of the road. After much pushing and straining, he finally succeeded. As the peasant picked up his load of vegetables, he noticed a purse lying in the road where the boulder had been. The purse contained many gold coins and a note from the king indicating that the gold was for the person who removed the boulder from the roadway. The peasant learned what many others never understand.
             Every obstacle presents an opportunity to improve one’s condition.

 

When Love Fades .. .. ..

Last night I was sitting on the sofa watching TV when I heard my wife’s’ voice from the kitchen.

“What would you like for dinner my Love?  Chicken,  beef or lamb?”

I said, “Thank you, I’ll have chicken.”

She replied “You’re having soup, asshole. I was talking to the cat!”

 

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A man was in his death bed and called his wife. With a weak voice he said:

– Honey, come closer, I need to…, confess something!

-No, no!!, answered the woman, relax and keep quiet. You should make no efforts…

– But I need to die in peace! I must confess!

– Alright. 

– The thing is, I went out… with your sister… your mother…, and even your best friend!

– I know, I know. Now be quiet and let the poison work.

 

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When her friends hired a stripper for her birthday,commediant Mary Pfeiffer realised how much she had changed. The guy started taking his clothes off and asked:

– What are you thinking, love?

– That I’ve been married for too long, because the first thing that came to my mind was “You’re going to get these clothes off the floor won’t you?”

 

Pointers for living life to its fullest…

At a time when my family is undergoing alot of changes and a whole lot of trama, my cousin in canada, who was unaware of my state of affairs, sent me this mail. It is simple and full of wisdom. Its strange how sometimes, when your in a particular situation, a particular quote fits your situation exactly and you can relate so rightly to it. In this particular incident every quote for probably written for me !!!

 Take a 10 – 30 minute walk every day and while you walk, SMILE

 ·          Sit in silence for at least 10 minutes each day

·          When you wake up in the morning complete the following statement….

o         My purpose is to _______________ today.

·          Live with the 3 E’s: Energy , Enthusiasm and Empathy

o       And the 3 F’s: Faith, Family and Friends

·          Spend more time with people over the age of 70 and under the age of 6

·          Dream more while you are awake

·          Try to make at least 3 people smile each day

·          Realize that life is a school and you are here to learn, pass all the tests, problems are simply part of the curriculum that appear and fade away like algebra class, but the lessons you learn will last a lifetime.

·          Smile and laugh more, it will keep the energy vampires away.

  • Life isn’t fair, but it is still good.

 ·          Life is to short to waste time hating anyone.

·          Don’t take yourself so seriously.  No one else does.

·          You don’t have to win every argument.  Agree to disagree.

·          Make peace with your past, so it won’t mess the present.

·          Don’t compare your life with others, you have no idea what their journey is all about.

·          Burn the candles, use the nice sheets, don’t save it for a special occasion, today is special.

·          No one is in charge of your happiness except you.  Forgive everyone for everything.

·          What other people think of you is none of your business.

·          Time heals everything.  Give time, time.

·          However good or bad a situation is, it will change.  Your job won’t take care of you when you are sick.  Your friends will stay in touch.

·          Get rid of everything that isn’t useful, beautiful or joyful.

·          Believe. The best is yet to come.

·          No matter how you feel, get up, dress up, and show up.

·          Do the right thing.

·          Call your family often.

·          Each night before you go to bed, complete the following statement….

o         I am thankful for……

o         Today I accomplished……

·          Remember that you are too blessed to be stressed.

·          Enjoy the ride.  Remember this is not Disney World and you certainly don’t want to fast pass.  Make the most of it and enjoy the ride!

Diamonds, Pearls and a woman’s body.

Diamonds And Pearls

The following incident took place when Muhammed Ali’s daughters arrived at his home wearing clothes that are not modest. Here is the story as told in detail by one of his daughters:

When we finally arrived, the chauffer escorted my youngest sister, Laila, and me to my father’s suite. As usual, he was hiding behind the door waiting to scare us. We exchanged hugs and kisses as we could possibly give in one day. My father took a good look at us. Then he sent me down in his lap and said something I will never forget. He looked me straight in the eyes and said,

 “Hana, everything that God made valuable in the world covered and hard to get to. Where do you find diamonds? Deep down in the ground, covered and protected. Where do you find pearls? Deep down at the bottom of the ocean, covered up and protected in a beautiful shell. Where do you find gold? Way down and in the mine, covered over with layers and layers of rock. You’ve got to work hard to get them.” He looked at me with serious eyes. “Your body is sacred. You’re far more precious than diamonds and pearls, and you should be covered too.”