Saving Middle East.

The new Gregarion Calendar has started (it has nothing to do with Muslims, since we follow the Islamic Lunar calendar ) – and I have decided (if even for a little while ) to rise from my imposed hibernation. Is … Continue reading

Gifts in Dubai.

Many shades of the Creative Mom in Dubai 🙂

Hello dear friends !

I’m an erratic blogger 🙂  (But you already know that, by now 😉 )  There have been times when, you could read three posts, back to back and then there are times, when you see me once in three months. In the blog-world, consistency is VERY IMPORTANT.  I am yet to play by the book !

Over the past 11 years, I have been fortunate enough to have a beautiful relationship with any and all forms of art.

I did not restrict myself to water colors or decoupage ~ I am a restless eager soul, I have experienced and enjoyed every craft.

What started from card making has just made it way thru to DIY and home décor.

Sometimes I find myself going on a spin in a perplexed state when ‘newbies’  ask me what I fancy most.

The past 5 months have been remarkably fantastic and have helped me, better define…

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Muslimah Speaks On Pakistan’s Rape Problem

A muslimah’s perspective indeed. The feudal system in Pakistan and the power intoxication is one of the main reasons, why, I doubt, any changes will be made in this worn out law.

The Human Lens

Let’s talk about rape shall we? Recent events where women are being discriminated in Pakistan and elsewhere in the name of Islam, have forced me to call out this prevailing misogyny. As far as Pakistan’s stance on rape is concerned, there is nothing  is nothing remotely Islamic or Shariah divine about the man-made laws in Pakistan.The Hudood laws that were enacted by the then military dictator General Zia to Islamicize Pakistan’s legal system are in reality a legacy of the British Colonial law.

So one cannot understand how come religious bodies aren’t doing anything about correcting them. The laws, as they stand in place today discriminate against women rather than protecting their rights. Furthermore, the continued refusal to embrace the very fact that we are in the 21 century and therefore can use modern-day forensic evidence is another divergence from the Islamic tradition where similar techniques have been used by…

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A shining example ~ but who ??

For many this video would bring out the “aww’s, oh so cute’s. so sweeeeet’s”
and some critical minded might even comment on how fidgety the little girl is.
And ofcourse you will almost always have the western “womens lib” folks, who may only notice that such a young child is wearing a headgear
and ofcourse almost every teacher in the academic profession would be dreaming of how “if only” all the students in her class would recite so easily …
But for me, I commend the patience and perseverance of the father. He is dedicated and not irritated by her constant movements.
I would love to remind all fathers ~ Your children may or maynot listen to your advise BUT THEY WILL SURELY FOLLOW YOU BY EXAMPLE.

His test or His mercy ?

Sometimes, we are deceived by Allah’s mercy. We tend to think that Allah loves us, though we are up to our heads in sins. Whenever you are blessed with something, check it out! If it doesn’t draw you closer to Allah, then it is either a test or a punishment! Look at the disbelievers and what they have. Allah has given them almost everything in this world. Does Allah love them while they are associating others with Him? Now, consider your charming spouse, healthy children, beautiful house, nice job, fancy car and the rest of Allah’s favors that no one can count. Are all of these things drawing you closer to or further from Allah?”  Sheikh Assim Al Hakeem

Paperworld Dubai

An excellent experince, where office stationery ~ scrapbooking goods – party wares – were all covered !! I actually felt like a child lost in the candy store !!! Lost yes ~ but very happily ofcourse !!
If you missed it, worry not, it will return next year again. Only a matter of a few ( 10) months

Hi Friends,

Paperworld Dubai 2013 was held between March 5 – 7. For someone who insanely loves paper and color, this visit was like diving into paradise.
From scrapbooking goodies to stationery to wood works to party accessories ~ this exhibition was stacked up with piles of eye candy.
Here are just a few pics of the stalls and their beautiful contents.

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Re-emerging in 2013.

Change is eventually and ultimately for the best ~ He who fears change, seizes to grow.

Hello Friends !!! Remember me ? Yes, thats right ~Naush ~ the creative mom in Dubai, who had dropped off the face of the earth and you were wondering ~ what happens to the blogs of dead people !!!! Well I am NOT dead and I HAVE re-emerged !!!!!

My last post was somewhere in November and thats when I had just started the process of packing my ENTIRE house ~ yes, I mean ” A HUGE ENTIRE ” ~ an entire house load worth “14 TRUCKS” and finally we graced our new home amidst cartons and wrapping papers and bubble wraps. It took 5 days, 14 trucks and 9 guys working from 7am to  8pm just to pack the house and arrive at our new home.Fotor041132322final2

I must say at this point, we are absolutely pleased with our choice of the Packers and Movers that we hired. These guys were…

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Faith gives you wings !

This is such an inspirational quote.  I know, so many of you who visit my blog on a regular basis could find some respite in reading this quote if your disillusioned or going thru some trauma (May Allah forbid) ~  I know alot of these quotes sound soothing but it takes REAL FAITH to get you going thru those deliemmas ~ when they do appear.  For me, in my heart, all I believe is that Allah swt is always carrying me.  And I am ALWAYS thanking and praising him for that. To be honest, “Thats” enough for me to believe.

I have had my share of troubles and confusions and even when there was NOT ONE SINGLE SOUL who could guide me, share with me, support me ~ there was Allah swt ALWAYS. Knowing that ~ believing in that ~ made everything so much more “liveable” for me otherwise, I cant imagine what my state would have been then ! 

Everyday, we struggle.  Everyday, we are made to make choices. Everyday, we walk the thin line between haram and halal in small matters and sometimes big ones ~ but truth of the matter is that if you keep Allah swt in the center of all your decisions, you just cant go wrong. Question is “do you before it gets too late ? or Do you when its already too late ?

This world is a wild place and a few wrong steps, a few misplaced trusts can be  “near fatal”.   I know I took the leap knowing very well in my heart that “HE” would teach me how to fly ~ 18 years and counting, I am saying exactly how I felt then and now. Faith gives you wings !

Mission : Declutter and Organize Boys Room.

Hello Friends, And how have we all been the past month of May ? This post was supposed to be out atleast 4 weeks back but I’ve had plenty on my plate, but becoz I am alittle unwell and put on bed rest, I am able to get the post out.

Now for those of you’ll who have been following my blogs, you already know, that atleast twice a year, I declutter the boys room. There are piles of toys which the boys have grown out off and some just did not survive the wear and tear of the Samama Clan and yet other toys have found places in the boys’ friends homes.

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Anyways, after the garage sale, it took, nearly an entire weekend to get the boys’ room back to alittle bit of sense. We decided to reorganize the furniture which meant moving all the beds and the toy racks. It took nearly 4-5 tries before which all of us were satisfied with the end result.  I am leaving a slide here to show you exactly how much of a task it was this time. I look forward to your comments.

One thing I have often noticed between couples, is that, women generally like to take charge of where to place what in the house. But to all the women out there, just two tiny advice.

1. Instead of breaking off in a fight, just let the set up go as your partner likes, sleep over it. Any change, takes time, to grow on us. Initially alot of things dont suit us, however later we realize, it was an ideal decision.

2. Inspite giving the said setup, some time to dwell, if you persistently dislike the placing or set up, then you can bring your view forward in an amicable way. Dont rush it and dont get him defensive ~ neither will help. And you can only be happy if both of you are happy.

Although I am not 100% satisfied with the setup of the beds in this position, I am trying to look at things from my spouce’s point of view and perhaps, it might seem odd initially but lets wait and see how it goes. The paint job has not yet started but I was too excieted so I wanted to share this with you’ll. Meanwhile, both of us are happy and most importantly, the three little men in our household are very excieted too.

Bye Bye for now. Thank you for visiting. Dont forget to visit before you leave.


Child Marriage !!


Observe the expression on the girl's face sitting on the right ! Priceless :)

A six-year-old boy told his father he wanted to marry the little girl across the street.  

The father, being modern and well-schooled in  handling children, hid his smile behind his hand.    
   ‘That’s a serious step,’ he said.      

‘Have you thought it out completely?’  

‘Yes,’ his young son answered.  

‘We can spend one week in my room and the next in hers.  It’s right across the street, so I can run home if I get scared of the dark.’                

‘How about transportation?’ the father asked.
 ‘I have my wagon, and we both have our tricycles,’   the little boy answered.

The boy had an answer to every question the father raised.                

       Finally, in exasperation, his dad asked, ‘What about babies?  When you’re married,  you’re liable to have babies, you know.’

‘We’ve thought about that, too,’  
the little boy replied.  
         ‘We’re not going to have babies.                
Every time she lays an egg,

I’m going to step on it!
        NOW THAT’S BIRTH CONTROL-!        

A List Of Narrations on How To Be The Best Muslim . . .

Dear Friends,

Here is a link to a fantastic site where I came across this particular list. I would recommend you visit them on this link for they have scores of excellent articles relating to Islam and Hadith, however you can also see the same list copied and pasted here as well.

Below, from a choice of hundreds of narrations from our beloved Prophet Muhammad, peace be upon him, you can find 100 hadiths , in no particular order of merit, detailing ways on exactly how to become the best, how to have the most excellent characteristics, what really will prove most beneficial for us to know, what really are the greatest things to think about and hope for and indeed, how to become the most beloved of people to our Magnificent Creator, Allah, the Most High. Muhammad, peace be upon him, told us:

1. “The best of the Muslims is he from whose hand and tongue the Muslims are safe.” [Muslim]

2. “The best of people are those with the most excellent character.” [Tabarâni, Sahîh]

3. “The best of people are those that bring most benefit to the rest of mankind.” [Dâraqutni, Hasan]

4. “The best of people are those who are best in fulfilling [rights].” [Ibn Mâjah, Sahîh]

5. “The best of people during fitnah is a man who takes up the reins of his horse pursuing the enemies of Allah, causing them fear yet they make him fearful too, or a man who secludes himself in the desert fulfilling the rights of Allah upon him.” [Hâkim, Sahîh]

6. “The best of mankind is my generation, then those that follow them and then those that follow them. Then there shall come a people after them who will become avaricious, who will love gluttony, and who will give witness before they are asked for it.” [Tirmidhî, Sahîh]

7. “The best of people are those who live longest and excel in their deeds, whereas the worst of people are those who live longest and corrupt their deeds.” [Tirmidhî, Sahîh]

8. “The best of women are those that please him [her husband] when he sees her, obeys him when she is commanded, and who does not secretly betray him with regards to herself and her money in that which he dislikes.” [Ahmad, Sahîh]

9. “The best of women are those that please you when you see them, obey you when commanded, and who safeguard themselves and your money in your absence.” [Tabarâni, Sahîh]

10. “The best of marriages are the easiest ones.” [Abu Dâwûd, Sahîh]

11. “The best of your dates is the Borniyyû date; it expels disease yet does not contain any disease itself.” [Hâkim, Hasan]

12. “The best of your garments are those which are white; shroud your dead in them and clothe your living with them. The best of that which you apply to your eyelids is antimony causing the eyelashes to grow and sharpening the eyesight.” [Ibn Hibbân, Sahîh]

13. “The best quality of your religion is scrupulousness.” [Hâkim, Sahîh]

14. “The best of your religion is that which is easiest.” [Ahmad, Sahîh]

15. “The best of the prayer lines for men are the first rows, the worst being the final rows. The best of the prayer lines for women are the final rows and the worst are the first rows.” [Muslim]

16. “The best prayers for women are those performed in the most secluded parts of their houses.” [Ibn Khuzaymah, Sahîh]

17. “The best of you in Islam are those who are most excellent in character as long as you deeply understand the religion.” [Ahmad, Sahîh]

18. “The best of you are the best of you in fulfilling [rights].” [Ahmad, Sahîh]

19. “The best of you are those who are best to their families, and I am the best of you to my family.” [Tirmidhî, Sahîh]

20. “The best of you are my generation, then those that follow them and then those that follow them. Then there shall come after them a people who will betray and be untrustworthy, will give witness even though they have not been asked to, will make vows yet will not fulfil them and obesity will appear amongst them.” [Bukhâri]

21. “The best of you are those who feed others and return greetings.” [Abu Ya’lâ, Hasan]

22. “The best of you is he from whom good is anticipated and safety from his evil is assured; the worst of you is he from whom nothing good is expected and one is not safe from his evil.” [Tirmidhî, Sahîh]

23. “The best thing mankind has been given is excellent character.” [Hâkim, Sahîh]

24. “The best of that which you treat yourself with is cupping.” [Hâkim, Sahîh]

25. “The best of journeys undertaken are to this Masjids of mine and the Ancient House.” [Ahmad, Sahîh]

26. “The best of which man can leave behind for himself are three: a righteous child who supplicates for him, an ongoing charity whose reward continues to reach him and knowledge which others benefit from after him.” [Ibn Hibbân, Hasan]

27. “The best Mosques for women are the most secluded parts of their houses.” [Bayhaqi, Sahîh]

28. “The best of the world’s women are four: Maryum bint ‘Imrân, Khadîjah bint Khuwaylid, Fâtimah bint Muhammad and Âsiyah the wife of Fir’awn.” [Ahmad, Sahîh]

29. “The best of days that you should perform cupping are the 17th, 19th and 21st of the month. I did not pass a single gathering of angels on the night of Isrâ’ except that they would say to me, ‘O Muhammad, perform cupping!'” [Ahmad, Sahîh]

30. “The best day on which the Sun has risen is Friday; on it Âdam was created, on it Âdam was made to enter Paradise and on it he was expelled. The Hour will not be established except on Friday.” [Muslim]

31. “Verily, the best of perfume for men is that which is strong in smell and light in colour, and the best of perfume for women is that which is strong in colour and light in smell.” [Tirmidhî, Sahîh]

32. “The most beloved of religions according to Allah the Most High is the ‘easy and flexible religion.'” [Ahmad, Hasan]

33. “The most beloved of deeds according to Allah are the continuous ones, even if they are little.” [Agreed upon]

34. “The most beloved of names according to Allah are ‘Abd Allah, ‘Abd’l-Rahmân and Hârith.” [Abu Ya’lâ, Sahîh]

35.“The most beloved of deeds according to Allah are the prayer in its right time, then to treat the parents in an excellent manner, and then Jihâd in the path of Allah.” [Agreed upon]

36. “The most beloved of deeds according to Allah is that you die and yet your tongue is still moist from the remembrance of Allah.” [Ibn Hibbân, Hasan]

37. “The most beloved words according to Allah the Most High are four: Subhânallah, Alhamdulillâh, Lâ ilâha illallah and Allahu Akbar; there is no problem with which one you start with.” [Muslim]

38. “The most beloved of speech according to Allah is when the servant says, ‘Subhânallahi wa bihamdihî’ [How Transcendent is Allah and we praise him!].” [Muslim]

39. “The most beloved of speech according to Allah the Most High is that which Allah chose for his Angels: Subhâna Rabbî wa bihamdihî, Subhâna Rabbî wa bihamdihî, Subhâna Rabbî wa bihamdihî.” [Tirmidhî, Sahîh]

40. “The most beloved of people according to Allah is he who brings most benefit, and the most beloved of deeds according to Allah the Mighty, the Magnificent, is that you bring happiness to a fellow Muslim, or relieve him of distress, or pay off his debt or stave away hunger from him. It is more beloved to me that I walk with my brother Muslim in his time of need than I stay secluded in the mosque for a month. Whoever holds back his anger, Allah will cover his faults and whoever suppresses his fury while being able to execute it, Allah will fill his heart with satisfaction on the Day of Standing. Whoever walks with his brother Muslim in need until he establishes that for him, Allah will establish his feet firmly on the day when all feet shall slip. Indeed, bad character ruins deeds just as vinegar ruins honey.” [Tabarâni, Hasan]

41. “The most beloved of people to me is ‘Â’ishah and from the men, Abu Bakr.” [Agreed upon]

42. “The best of people in recitation are those who when they recite, you see that they fear Allah.” [Bayhaqi, Sahîh]

43. “The best of your leaders are those that you love and they love you, you supplicate for them and they supplicate for you. The worst of your leaders are those that you hate and they hate you, you curse them and they curse you.”[Muslim]

44. “The best of you are those who are best in paying off their debts.” [Tahâwi, Sahîh]

45. “The best of you are those with the longest lives and most excellent character.” [Bazzâr, Sahîh]

46. “The best of you are those with the longest lives and best in action.” [Hâkim, Sahîh]

47. “The best of you are those with the softest shoulders during prayer.” [Bayhaqi, Hasan]

48. “The best of you are those who are best to their wives.” [Tirmidhî, Sahîh]

49. “The best of you are those who are best to their families.” [Tabarâni, Sahîh]

50. “The best of you during the ‘Period of Ignorance’ are the best of you in Islam as long as they deeply understand the religion.” [Bukhâri]

51. “The best of you are those who learn the Qur’ân and teach it.” [Dârimi, Sahîh]

52. “The best of companions according to Allah are those who are best to their companion and the best of neighbours according to Allah are those that are best to their neighbour.”[Tirmidhî, Sahîh]

53. “The best of places are the Mosques and the worst of places are the markets.”[Tabarâni, Hasan]

54. “The best supplication on the Day of ‘Arafah and the best thing that I and the Prophets before me ever said was, ‘Lâ ilâha illAllah wahdahû lâ sharîka lahû, lahû’l-mulk wa lahû’l-hamd wa huwa ‘alâ kulli shay’in Qadîr.'” [Tirmidhî, Hasan]

55. “The best of provision is that which suffices.” [Ahmad in ‘Zuhd’, Hasan]

56. “The best testimony is when one gives it before he is asked to do so.” [Tabarâni, Sahîh]

57. “The best of dowries are the easiest.” [Hâkim, Sahîh]

58. “The best of charity is that which still leaves you self-sufficient for the upper hand is better than the lower hand; start with those you are responsible for.” [Tabarâni, Sahîh]

59. “The best of gatherings are those that are most open.” [Abu Dâwûd, Sahîh]

60. “The most beloved deed according to Allah is to have faith in Allah, then to maintain the ties of kinship, and then to command to good and forbid the wrong. The most abhorrent of deeds according to Allah is to associate partners with Him, then to cut the ties of kinship.”[Abu Ya’lâ, Hasan]

61. “The most beloved Jihâd according to Allah is that a word of truth be spoken to a tyrant ruler.” [Tabarâni, Hasan]

62. “The most beloved word according to me is that which is most truthful.” [Bukhâri]

63. “The most beloved fast according to Allah is the fast of Dâwûd; he would fast every alternate day. The most beloved prayer according to Allah is the prayer of Dâwûd; he would sleep half the night, stand a third and then sleep for a sixth.” [Agreed upon]

64. “The most beloved dish according to Allah is that which most hands feed from.” [Ibn Hibbân, Hasan]

65. “The most beloved servant of Allah is he who is most beneficial to his dependents.”[Zawâ’id al-Zuhd, Hasan]

66. “The best of earnings is that of the labourer as long as he tries his best.” [Ahmad, Hasan]

67. “The best of all deeds is to have faith in Allah alone, then Jihâd and then an accepted Hajj; they surpass all other deeds like the distance between the rising and setting of the Sun.”[Ahmad, Sahîh]

68. “The best of all deeds is the Prayer at its earliest time.” [Tirmidhî, Sahîh]

69. “The best of all deeds is the Prayer in its right time, to treat the Parents honourably and Jihâd in the path of Allah.”[al-Khatîb, Sahîh]

70. “The best of all deeds is that you bring happiness to your Muslim brother, pay off his debt or feed him bread.” [Ibn Adiyy, Hasan]

71. “The best of faith is patience and magnanimity.” [Ahmad, Sahîh]

72. “The best of days according to Allah is Friday.” [Bayhaqi, Sahîh]

73. “The best of Jihâd is that man strives against his soul and desires.” [Daylami, Sahîh]

74. “The best Hajj is that with the most raised voices and flowing blood.” [Tirmidhî, Hasan]

75. “The best of supplications is that of on the Day of ‘Arafah, and the best thing that was said by myself and the Prophets before me was, “Lâ ilâha illallah wahdahû lâ sharîka lahû.” [There is nothing worthy of worship except Allah alone, He has no partners.” [Mâlik, Hasan]

76. “The best of dinars are: the dinâr spent by a man upon his dependents, the dinâr spent by a man upon his horse in the path of Allah and the dinâr spent by a man upon his companions in the path of Allah, the Mighty, the Magnificent.”[Muslim]

77. “The best word of remembrance is: Lâ ilâha illallah and the best supplication is: Alhamdulillâh.” [Tirmidhî, Hasan]

78. “The best word of remembrance is: Lâ ilâha illallah and the best [expression of giving] thanks is: Alhamdulillâh.”[Baghawi, Hasan]

79. “The best of hours are those deep in the latter part of the night.” [Tabarâni, Sahîh]

80. “The best of all martyrs are those who fight in the front line; they do not turn their faces away until they are killed. They will be rolling around in the highest rooms of Paradise, their Lord laughing at them – when your Lord laughs at a servant, there is no accounting for him.”[Ahmad, Sahîh]

81. “The best of all martyrs is he whose blood is shed and whose horse is slaughtered.”[Tabarâni, Sahîh]

82. “The best of all charity is the shade of a canopy [provided] in the path of Allah, the Mighty and Magnificent, to gift ones servant in the path of Allah and to gift ones she-camel in the path of Allah.” [Ahmad, Hasan]

83. “The best of all charity is that which is given to the relative that harbours enmity against you.” [Ahmad, Sahîh]

84. “The best of all charity is that you give it while you are healthy and desirous [of that money], hoping to become wealthy but fearing poverty. Don’t delay until you are about to breathe your last and then you say, ‘This is for ‘so and so’ and this is for ‘so and so”, for indeed, it has already been written that ‘so and so’ would receive that.” [Abu Dâwûd, Sahîh]

85. “The best of all charity is when the one with little strives to give; start with those you are responsible for.” [Hâkim, Sahîh]

86. “The best charity is to provide water.” [Ibn Mâjah, Hasan]

87. “The best prayer after the obligatory ones is the prayer in the depth of the night, and the best fast after the month of Ramadhân is the month of Allah, Muharram.” [Muslim]

88.“The best prayer is the prayer of the man in his home except for the obligatory prayer.”[Nasâ’î, Sahîh]

89. “The best prayer is that with the longest standing.” [Muslim]

90. “The best of all prayers according to Allah is the Friday morning prayer in congregation.”[Ibn Nu’aym, Sahîh]

91. “The best fast is the fast of my brother Dâwûd; he would fast every alternate day and he would never flee [the battlefront] when the armies would meet.” [Tirmidhî, Sahîh]

92. “The best of all fasts after Ramadhân is in the month that you call Muharram.” [Nasâ’î, Sahîh]

93. “The best of all worship is supplication.” [Hâkim, Sahîh]

94. “The best deed is the prayer in its right time and Jihâd in the path of Allah.” [Bayhaqi, Sahîh]

95. “The best of the Qur’ân is: “Alhamdulillâhi Rabb’l-‘Âlamîn”. [Hâkim, Sahîh]

96. “The best of earnings is a blessed sale and that which a man earns with his hands.”[Ahmad, Sahîh]

97. “The best of the Believers is the most excellent of them in character.” [Ibn Mâjah, Sahîh]

98. “The best of the Believers with respect to Islam is the one from whose hand and tongue the Muslims are safe; and the best of the Believers with respect to ÃŽmân are the most excellent of them in character; and the best of those who migrate is he who migrates from that which Allah the Most High has prohibited; and the best of Jihâd is when one strives against his soul for the sake of Allah, the Mighty, the Magnificent.” [Tabarâni, Sahîh]

99. “The best of mankind is the believer between two honourable persons.” [Tabarâni, Sahîh]

100. “The best of all days in the world are the ten days [of Dhul Hijjah].” [Bazzâr, Sahîh]

A medical tip for mothers.

Last 10 days, the boys and I have been absolutely sick to our throats, no literally ! It started with Sawaab and ended with me. Today Dr L, gave me a second course of antibiotics.  I have been wheezing and it hurts like hell when I have this huge spasms of cough which feels like all my chest is pulling and hurting. So back to the nebulizer. Just finished with Augmentine 1gm and now I have started with Klassic. Its really a bad time. As if, the knee and my back ache were not enough !

Please make a small prayer that Allah heals me soon.

Talking of sickness, I wanted to know from the rest of you’ll, which do you think is the most important medical investment do, you think, you made for your kids ? … I mean, I’m not talking about medicines or medical insurance. Maybe something like a thermometer, or a blood pressure machine or a kidney tray or something else.

I think, almost 7 years back, I made the best medical investment I could have thought of at that time. Sawaab is not asthmatic, but he would get these bouts of cold accompanied by wheezing. At one stage, the doctor suggested that if we could, we should buy a nebulizer which would help him with wheezing. With those of you who are wondering “whats wheezing and whats a nebulizer ?

Well, generally phlem which clogs the throat over a period of time, might in some situations land up in the upper respirator tract, and cause breathing difficulty. There is a particular sound almost like a slow whistle which can be heard while the child or adult breaths. It can be accompanied by pain in the chest. Next question: Generally in the olden days, the doctors would have to give a patient oral medicines which when swolled, breaks up in the stomach and then reaches different parts of the body. A bronco syrup would help in dissolving the phelm in the throat. However a nebulizer is an excellent machine used for breathing with a mask. In most cases, Ventolin, is added to the machine and breathed in. The results are instant and phenomenal. However, one should be a little experienced in handling this machine. Why ?

1: becoz we are inhaling directly what ever is in the container of the machine, we have  to be careful with the hygeine issues.

2: the medicine in the machine is going straight to the lung and heart in which case, we have to be careful with the quantity of medicine given, coz it can cause palpitation, in very few cases.

The nebulizer is given “ONLY” when recommended by the doctor. However as a mother, you learn to watch and understand the symptoms of your child over a period of time, and sometimes, When I am confident that it should be given rather than waiting over the weekend, before going to my pediatrician, I would just go ahead and do it.

Hope this little article helps some of you moms out there.

Garfield has a new name .. Spike.

Its been 5 1/2 years since we moved to the Ranches. In our first year we adopted Keiki, my first feline baby, the following year, we rescued Pepper, my dominating feisty little tabby.  Life couldnt be better surrounded with the joy of having two young kittens always playing and loving us. However, for the past 2 years, we’ve had an unexpected visitor who has made himself very comfortable in our garage.

Thats Spike for you. Almost garfield looking. He has a sweet meow and even more sweeter purrr. Spike probably adopted US, becoz my husband, darling as he is, is very passionate in looking after the less previleged …  One of his routine morning chores is to feed the birds, fishes, cats etc. ( the fishes in the lake at Arabian Ranches, the birds who visit and wait for him, knowing now very well, when the “bucket man” is going to fill their pales ! 

At that very time, we had a large feral “blackie” who used to visit us and we used to leave him some food in the garage. Naturally Spike enjoyed the opportunity and made himself at home after a few regular bouts of brawls with Blackie, much to the annoyance of my neighbour. Long story short, Blackie was kicked out by my neighbour, whom then on, we never saw again and Spike has won the battle.

Now a little about Spike’s family … His owners are just 2 streets ahead but for what ever reason, inspite of calling them several times and them actually taking him back, Spike always returned. They are nice people but I think between a second cat in their house and spike not getting along, and probably getting fed up with spike always reaching for our house, they’ve probably given up on Spike.

Initially we tried a lot of efforts to shoo him away, stopped feeding for weeks etc but this little fella had already decided what he wanted. Some cats do, you know. So We gave in.

We have stopped pesteringing, Spike’s family and more or less accepted him with open arms, hugs and a nice cozy area, on the sofa that we once wanted to dispose, and is now sitting in the garage, all so that ” poor ol’ spike ” can have a small shelter.

Oh and why did’nt we take him in ? Becoz cats being territorial and all, Pepper had several very nasty brawls with Spike. Almost all of which Pepper won, inspite of being nearly 3 years younger than spike. He is now looked after, loved and fed by us (still not officially though ). Quiet honestly, He gives us all such a lovely welcome as soon as we are home. 

Oh and by the way, We never called him spike, he was always “Ladoo” …for us. For the non-hindi speakers … go figure !

Here’s ladoo on his throne. During the day, he naps over it and during the cold night, he sleeps under the chair, ( which is placed up side down, especially to make it feel like a shelter for him.

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Detailed reasons for the punishment in the grave.

What are the sins for which people will be punished in the grave?.
Praise be to Allaah. 

Here we will list some of these sins, along with evidence from the Qur’aan and Sunnah. 

Shirk (associating others with Allaah) and kufr (disbelieving in Him) 

Allaah says concerning the people of Pharaoh (interpretation of the meaning): 

“The Fire, they are exposed to it, morning and afternoon. And on the Day when the Hour will be established (it will be said to the angels): ‘Cause Fir‘awn’s (Pharaoh) people to enter the severest torment!’”

[Ghaafir 40:46] 

And Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning): 

“And if you could but see when the Zaalimoon (polytheists and wrongdoers) are in the agonies of death, while the angels are stretching forth their hands (saying): ‘Deliver your souls! This day you shall be recompensed with the torment of degradation because of what you used to utter against Allaah other than the truth. And you used to reject His Ayaat (proofs, evidences, verses, lessons, signs, revelations, etc.) with disrespect!’”

[al-An’aam 6:93] 

When death approaches the kaafir, the angels tell him of what is awaiting of him of punishment, chains and fire, and the wrath of Allaah; his soul disperses in his body and refuses to leave his body, and the angels beat him until his soul comes out of his body, saying, “Deliver your souls! This day you shall be recompensed with the torment of degradation” [al-An’aam 6:93]. 

Evidence that shirk is one of the causes of punishment in the grave is to be found in the hadeeth of Zayd ibn Thaabit (may Allaah be pleased with him) who said: When the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) was in a garden belonging to Banu’l-Najjaar on a mule of his and we were with him, it stumbled and nearly threw him. There he saw some graves, six or five or four. He said: “Who knows the occupants of these graves?” A man said: I do.” He said: “When did these people die?” He said: “They died in shirk.” He said: “This ummah will be punished in their graves. Were it not that you would not bury one another, I would pray to Allaah to make you hear what I hear of the torment in the grave.” Then he turned to us and said: “Seek refuge with Allaah from the punishment of Hellfire…” Narrated by Muslim 2867. 

The words in this hadeeth, “They died in shirk,” indicate that shirk is a cause of the punishment in the grave. 

Hypocrisy is one of the causes of the punishment in the grave 

The hypocrites are those who most deserve to be punished in the grave. How can it be otherwise when they are the ones who will occupy the lowest level of Hell? 

Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning): 

“And among the bedouins around you, some are hypocrites, and so are some among the people of Al‑Madinah who persist in hypocrisy; you (O Muhammad) know them not, We know them. We shall punish them twice, and thereafter they shall be brought back to a great (horrible) torment”

[al-Tawbah 9:101] 

Qataadah and al-Rabee’ ibn Anas said concerning the phrase “We shall punish them twice”: once in this world, and the second is the punishment in the grave. 

In the hadeeth about the questioning of the two angels and the torment of the grave, the word hypocrite (munaafiq), or skeptic (murtaab) in many reports, is clearly mentioned, as in the report narrated by al-Bukhaari (1374) from Anas (may Allaah be pleased with him): “… as for the kaafir and the hypocrite, it will be said to him…”. And in al-Saheehayn it is narrated from Asma’ (may Allaah be pleased with her): “As for the hypocrite or the skeptic…” 

Changing the religion of Allaah, by forbidding that which Allaah has permitted or permitting that which He has forbidden 

The evidence that this changing of the religion of Allaah is one of the causes of punishment in the grave is the words of the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him): “I saw ‘Amr ibn ‘Aamir al-Khuzaa’i dragging his intestines in Hell. He was the first one to introduce the institution of al-saa’ibah.” Narrated by al-Bukhaari, 4623. 

The saa’ibah was a she-camel, cow or sheep which they would leave to graze for the sake of the false gods, and it would not be ridden, eaten or used for carrying burdens. Some of them would make vows to make part of their wealth a saa’ibah. 

Shaykh al-Islam Ibn Taymiyah (may Allaah have mercy on him) said: The Arabs, from among the sons of Ismaa’eel and others, who lived in the environs of the Ancient House that had been built by Ibraaheem and Ismaa’eel, were haneefs (monotheists) who followed the religion of Ibraaheem, until one of the leaders of Khuzaa’ah, namely ‘Amr ibn Luhayy, changed his religion. He was the first one to change the religion of Ibraaheem to shirk and forbid things that Allaah had not forbidden. Hence the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “I saw ‘Amr ibn Luhayy dragging his intestines.” 

Daqaa’iq al-Tafseer, 2/71 

Not taking care to avoid getting urine on oneself, and spreading malicious gossip among people 

It was narrated that Ibn ‘Abbaas said: The Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) passed by two graves and said, “They are being punished, but they are not being punished for something that was difficult to avoid. One of them used to walk about spreading nameemah (malicious gossip) and the other used not to take care to avoid getting urine on himself.” Narrated by al-Bukhaari (218) and Muslim (292). 

It was narrated from Ibn ‘Abbaas (may Allaah be pleased with him) that the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “Most of the torment of the grave is because of urine, so be careful to avoid it.” Narrated by al-Daaraqutni and classed as saheeh by al-Albaani in Saheeh al-Targheeb (1/152). 

Gheebah (backbiting) 

Based on that, al-Bukhaari (may Allaah have mercy on him) included a chapter in Kitaab al-Janaa’iz (the Book of Funerals) called: “Punishment of the grave because of backbiting and urine.” Then he narrated therein the hadeeth about the two graves quoted above, except that the version of al-Bukhaari does not mention backbiting, rather it speaks of nameemah (malicious gossip), but as was his wont, he referred to what was narrated in some versions of the hadeeth: “As for the other, he is being punished for backbiting.” 

Narrated by Ahmad (5/35); classed as saheeh by al-Albaani in Saheeh al-Targheeb wa’l-Tarheeb (1/66) 


According to the hadeeth of Samurah ibn Jundub (may Allaah be pleased with him), the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said:

“… We came to a man who was lying flat on his back, with another man standing over him, holding an iron hook. He put the hook in the man’s mouth and tore off that side of his face to the back (of his neck), and he tore his nose and his eye from front to back in a similar manner. Then he turned to the other side of the man’s face and did likewise. No sooner had he finished the second side but the first side was restored to its former state, then he went back and did the same thing again. I said to my two companions, ‘Subhaan Allaah! Who are these two persons?’

At the end of the hadeeth, he said concerning this one who was being punished: “is the man who goes out of his house in the morning and tells a lie that is so serious that it spreads all over the world”. Narrated by al-Bukhaari (7074). 

Forsaking the Qur’aan after having learned it, sleeping and missing an obligatory prayer 

In the hadeeth of Samurah ibn Jundub he said: The Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “… we came across a man who was lying down, with another man standing over him, holding a big rock. He threw the rock at the man’s head, smashing it. The rock rolled away, and the one who had thrown it followed it, and picked it up. By the time he came back to the man, his head had been restored to its former state. Then he (the one who had thrown the rock) did the same as he had done before. I said to my two companions, ‘Subhaan Allaah! Who are these two persons?’ … ‘The one whom you saw with his head being smashed with the rock, is the man who studies the Qur’aan then he neither recites it nor acts upon it, and he goes to sleep, neglecting the obligatory prayers.’ 

According to another version: “As for the man whom you saw with his head being crushed by a rock, he is a man who learned the Qur’aan then abandoned it and he slept and missed the obligatory prayer.” Narrated by al-Bukhaari (7076). 

Al-Haafiz ibn Hajar (may Allaah have mercy on him) said that this report is clearer than the first one. The apparent meaning of the first one is that he is being punished for not reading Qur’aan at night, whereas the second report indicates that he is punished for sleeping and missing the obligatory prayer. He said: It may be that the punishment is for both, not reading and not acting upon it. 

Ibn Hajar said: Ibn Hubayrah said: Abandoning the Qur’aan after learning it is a serious crime, because it may imply that he has seen in it something that made him abandon it, and because he has abandoned the noblest of things, namely the Qur’aan, he should be punished in the noblest part of his body, which is the head. Fath al-Baari, 3/251 

Consuming riba 

In the hadeeth of Samurah (may Allaah be pleased with him) it says:

“… So we went on and came to a river – I think he said, red like blood. – In the river there was a man swimming, and on the bank there was a man who had gathered many stones. Whilst the swimmer was swimming, the man who had gathered the stones approached him. The swimmer opened his mouth and the man on the bank threw a stone into it, then the swimmer carried on swimming. Each time he came back, he opened his mouth again, and the man on the bank threw another stone into his mouth. … The man you saw swimming in the river with rocks being thrown into his mouth is the one who consumed riba (usury).” 

Zina (adultery, unlawful sexual relationships) 

In the hadeeth of Samurah (may Allaah be pleased with him) it says:

“So we went on, and came to something like a tannoor (a kind of oven, lined with clay, usually used for baking bread).  – I think the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said, in that oven there was much noise and voices. The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) added:  – We  looked into it and saw naked men and  women. A flame of fire was reaching them from underneath, and when it reached them, they cried out loudly. I asked them, ‘Who are these?’ … The naked men and women whom you saw in a structure that resembled an oven are the adulterers and adulteresses.” 

Enjoining righteousness upon others and forgetting oneself 

It was narrated that Anas ibn Maalik (may Allaah be pleased with him) said: The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “On the night on which I was taken on the Night Journey (Isra’), I saw men whose lips were being cut off with scissors of fire. I said: ‘Who are these, O Jibreel?’ He said: ‘These are the khateebs from among your ummah who used to enjoin righteousness on the people and forget themselves, and they used to recite the Book but they did not understand.’” Narrated by Ahmad, 3/120; classed as saheeh by al-Albaani in al-Saheehah (291). 

According to al-Bayhaqi: “On the night on which I was taken on the night Journey, I came to some people whose lips were being cut off with scissors of fire. Every time they were cut off, they were restored. I said: ‘O Jibreel who are these?’ He said: ‘The khateebs of your ummah who said what they did not do, and they recited the Book of Allaah but they did not act upon it.’” Narrated by al-Bayhaqi in Shu’ab al-Eemaan; classed as hasan by al-Albaani in Saheeh al-Jaami’ (128). 

Breaking the fast in Ramadaan with no excuse 

It was narrated that Abu Umaamah al-Baahili (may Allaah have mercy on him) said: I heard the Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) say: “Whilst I was sleeping, two men came to me and took me by the arms, and they brought me to a mountain and said: ‘Climb up.’ I said: ‘I cannot.’ They said: ‘We will make it easy for you.’ So I climbed up until, when I was at the top of the mountain, I heard loud voices. I said: ‘What are these voices?’ He said: ‘These are the cries of the people of Hell.’ Then they took me on, and I saw some people hanging by their heels, with the sides of their mouths torn, and the sides of their mouths were flowing with blood. I said: ‘Who are these?’ He said: ‘They are the ones who broke the fast before it was permissible for them to do so.’” Narrated by Ibn Hibbaan and al-Haakim (1/210, 290); classed as saheeh by al-Albaani in al-Saheehah (3951). 

Stealing from the war booty 

This is indicated by the hadeeth of Abu Hurayrah (may Allaah be pleased with him) about the man who stole a garment from the war booty, and the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “By the One in Whose hand is my soul, the garment that he took from the booty on the day of Khaybar when it had not yet been shared out is burning him with fire.” Narrated by al-Bukhaari (4234) and Muslim (115). 

Dragging one’s garment out of pride 

This is indicated by the hadeeth of Ibn ‘Umar (may Allaah be pleased with him), according to which the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “Whilst a man was dragging his garment out of pride, he was swallowed up by the earth and he will continue sinking into it until the Day of Resurrection.” Narrated by al-Bukhaari (3485) and Muslim (2088). 

Stealing from the pilgrims 

This is indicated by the hadeeth of Jaabir (may Allaah be pleased with him) about the eclipse prayer, in which it says that the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “Hell was brought and that is when you saw me moving backwards for fear that its flames might touch me. I saw therein the owner of the curved staff, dragging his intestines in the Fire; he used to steal from the pilgrims with his curved staff, and if he was discovered he would say, ‘It got caught on my curved staff,’ but if he was not noticed then he would take it.” Narrated by Muslim (904). 

Detaining animals and tormenting them and not being compassionate towards them 

According to the hadeeth of Jaabir about the eclipse prayer, the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “And I saw therein the woman who had a cat which she tied up and did not feed, and she did not let it eat from the vermin of the earth, until it died of starvation.” Narrated by Muslim (904). 

Al- Bayhaqi said in his book Ithbaat ‘Adhaab al-Qabr (p. 97): 

When he offered the eclipse prayer, he saw the one who was dragging his intestines in Hell, and the one who was being punished for stealing, and the women who was being punished for a cat. They had become decayed bones in their graves as far as the people of his time were concerned, but those who were praying with him did not see what he saw. End quote. 


One of the things that harm the deceased in his grave is debt that he owes. It was narrated that Sa’d ibn al-Atwal said: My brother died and left behind three hundred dinars, and he left behind young children. I wanted to spend on them, but the Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said to me: “Your brother is being detained by his debt, so go and pay it off.” So I went and paid it off, then I came and said: O Messenger of Allaah, I have paid it off for him, and there is nothing left but a woman who is claiming two dinars, but she does not have any proof. He said: “Give it to her, for she is telling the truth.” Narrated by Ahmad (16776) and Ibn Maajah (2/82); classed as saheeh by al-Albaani in Saheeh al-Jaami’ (1550).

The Unwelcomed Lump.


The lump is on the left side of the picture. This pic was taken just before the operation.

this pic was taken 6 days after the operation. Notice how disfigured the neck still looks. Ofcourse the mass is out, now what remains is swelling.

This ugly scar is where the operation was done. It covers my entire profile. Pic was taken one day after the operation.

Somewhere in February, I realized I had started binging alot.  It did’nt seem right that I was cracking down on Modern Bakery’s laddoos or was completly spellbound by the Boston Kreme DD.  I believe that until I dont hit rock bottom, I wont make changes. Little do we know what is enstore … one minute we think we have everything planned up and the next minute , one telephone call can change the entire course of your life.

I have been so restless this entire year .. just waiting for something to happen, well if nothing happened, then I tried to make it happen. Towards March, We had seen a couple of villa’s  already and We decided that if we could try, we would get the kids admitted to a school in town and rent a place somewhere in mirdiff and probably rent out our own villa at the Ranches.  Generally these kind of things fall in my lap and I love working and organizing such things. Once Sam gave me his consent. I started packing the excess stuff in the studio, preparing cartons of toys for the garage sale, clearing up pieces of art that I felt could save some space in the house etc..

Things had still not run in full swing, becoz I had not jumped into the school admission scenario. I have no idea why I wasnt hoping around as I would have wanted to, except for some larger force was at work. I convinced myself the kids needed time to prepare for the assesments.

Meanwhile on a busy friday night somewhere early march, I discovered a lump in the right side of my neck. Initially I dismissed it thinking it had to be one of my tooth infections … then I assumed it had to do with something related to the hearing loss I had experienced in my right ear just 8 months back. Then I felt it could be something related to the allergy and subsequent severe rash I had by the DermiCool Powder that I had used while in India, to relieve me of some sweat.

What was peculier was that it was large enough to prutrude thru my neck and yet not pain at all. There was absolutely zero pain in it. I suppose we all love to live in denial or then indulge in self obsession !!  Becoz it did not pain, i didnt have to turn to any medication and becoz it caused alittle discomfort, it kept playing on my mind. I decided to give it a week or 10 days … perhaps it may be some sinus caused inflamation of my lymph nodes !! who knows !!!!!

Well 10 days later and the little lump on my neck had travelled right till behind my right ear.  And still no sign of pain. It almost felt like a large protruding swelling or a flab of double chin.  Finally Sam put his foot down when I told him about some muscular pain in my right arm. We emerged at the Emergency at American Hospital.  Dr Akbar  prescribed some antibacterial for the rash and suggested it could be a reaction to the rash that some lymph node had inflammed.

He suggested consulting Dr Tarabishi which I did in a week. Dr Tarabishi had seen me earlier for my ear injury. He did several examinations including passing a camera thru my nose !! and aspirating two places on the gland too.

He prescribed 2000 mg of Augmentine each day for 10 days !! His guess was that if it was some infection, it would clear itself. There was a very small chance of a tumor … which at that stage seemed out of the question.

15 days later, and Mr lumpy had made himself very comfortable in my neck. Thank God for my hijaab or else I would have really been embarrassed with the humungous size. At this stage I could sense the Doctor getting alittle annoyed with not being able to figure this thing out. 

He asked me to get admitted of a byopsy and CT scan on 7th. The idea of having general anesthesia after 8 years was not well received by me. I had hoped and by this stage, started praying that this unwelcomed lump would just disappear but it was here to stay.

Just around this time ….. The cancer in Sam’s Kidney was diagnosed.

Two people in one household having a tumor at the same time !! Unheard of !!! It almost seemed like a dream, I was really hoping someone would wake me up and I’d finally say, “thank God, it was an awful nightmare.”

It was not to happen.

That friday before 7th April, I called Bhaiyya and broke down to him.  In my weekest hour, I found solace talking to Bhaiyya. From then on, I kept him informed about all the devolopments…  His humility and selflessness are amazing. If I have found anyone resemble my Sam in my family or otherwise, it has to be my brother.  I trust his judgement completly and really hold on to his advise.

Alot happened between then and now.

On 7th, I was supposed to be at the hospital by 12 for the CT Scan but at 11 for the admission. For whatever reason just about everything that could have gone wrong with the hospital had managed to go wrong. Everything was failing … everything was a complete chaos.

I was completly irritated, anxious and frustrated. I dropped the kids at the hospital and Sam picked them and dropped them at Kidzania. Finally he joined me after the CT Scan was completed.

My CT was done just 2 hours before my operation … The doctor had decided in the OT that they would remove all the mass and tissue. I believe they had carried out the frozen test and thereafter it was taken out.

The operation started at 15:00 hrs and took 3 hours to complete. I came around at 20:00 hrs and felt as though nothing had changed except some strangely uncomfortable feeling in my neck.  

I remember sham and Arif kept saying why my cut had been so large for a simple biopsy. Strangely enough I was hungry. I was so desperate for something to eat !! and EAT, I did !!!!! Infact I ordered for an extra sandwich meal at 23:00 hrs !~!~!!!!!!  I never slept all night ….. happiness and anxiety kept me awake.

Following day, Dr Osama had informed me that the tumor was benign and apart of the tissue sample was sent to the pathology for investigation. To think of it !!! what were the chances of a tumor ?? 2 % !!!! Well, that was one story with a good ending.

I was already waiting for Sam to take me to Abu Dhabi so that we could discuss his case with Sheikh Khalifa Medical City that afternoon.  That never happened coz Sam arrived late. We had a meal and reached home. Finally I got my beauty sleep only to wake up the following morning with what felt like a large tyre around my neck. The swelling was so large that it almost scard me to see my reflection in the mirror. Poor Sam, what he has to put up with !! 5 days later, the swelling is subsiding … I am enjoying pulling off the dead skin around the area of the incesion. Infact I get a real kick pulling the dead skin off the entire stitched area.

Inspite of all my strength, I find myself dragging me around. Its hard to gather up strength and get chores done. I tire easily. For someone as active as myself, it is a very sinking feeling not being able to achieve 100 % all the time. But one thing this entire episode has taught me is to enjoy every minute and put more time with my boys.

Sometimes we take our lives for granted and then we need wake up calls like these that can set us straight.