Mr Ratan Tata said ….

Three beautiful thoughts from Mr. Ratan Tata

1. None can destroy iron, but its own rust can!
Likewise, none can destroy a person, but his own mindset can.

2. Ups and downs in life are very important to keep us going, because a straight line even in an E.C.G. means we are not alive.

3. F-E-A-R : has two meanings :
I. Forgot Everything And Run
II. Face Everything And Rise!!

The Quiz

Take the following quiz.

You don’t need a pen, pencil, or paper.

1. Name the five wealthiest people in the world.
2. Name the last five Heisman trophy winners.
3. Name the last five winners of the Miss America contest.
4. Name ten people who have won the Nobel or Pulitzer prize.
5. Name the last half dozen Academy Award winners for Best Actor and Actress.
6. Name the last decade’s worth of World Series Winners.

How did you do?

THE LESSON

NONE of us remembers the headliners of yesterday.

There are no second-rate achievers on the above quiz.
They are the best in their fields.

But the applause dies.
Awards tarnish.
Achievements are forgotten.
Accolades and certificates are buried with their owners.

Now here’s another quiz.

See how you do on this one:

1. List a few teachers who aided your journey through school.
2. Name three friends who have helped you through a difficult time.
3. Name five people who have taught you something worthwhile.
4. Think of a few people who have made you feel appreciated and special.
5. Think of five people you enjoy spending time with.
6. Name a half dozen heroes whose stories have inspired you.

Wasn’t that a lot easier?

The lesson?

The people who make a difference in your life aren’t the ones with the most
credentials, the most money, or the most awards.

They’re the ones who care enough to spend personal time and effort for you.

They are special and let them know that today ūüôā

Zam Zam

Do you know the miracles of zamzam??

 

For those of you, who were not aware, I am sure, you will be surprised reading this brief. More than 1400 years and not a drop has lessened !!

Please read :-

The ZamZam water level is around 10.6 feet below the surface.

 It is the miracle of Allah that when Zam Zam  was pumped continuously for more than 24 hours with a pumping rate of 8,000 liters per second, the water level dropped to almost 44 feet below the surface,
BUT WHEN THE PUMPING WAS STOPPED, the level immediately elevated again to 13 feet after 11 minutes.
8,000 liters per second means that 8,000 x 60 = 480,000 liters per minute
480,000 liters per minutes means that 480,000 x 60 = 28.8 Million liters per hour
And 28.8 Million liters per hour  means that 28,800,000 x 24 = 691.2 Million liters per day
So they pumped 690 Millions liters of ZamZam in 24 hours,
BUT it was re-supplied in 11 minutes only.
There are 2 miracles here,
The first that ZamZam was re-filled immediately,&
The second is that Allah swt holds the extraordinarily powerful Aquifer for not throwing extra ZamZam out of the well,
 OTHERWISE  ~ the world will SINK.
It is the translation of the word ZamZam, which means Stop !!!!!!!!!!!!
Stop !!!!!!!!!!!!!!! said by Hajirah Alaih As Salaam. Zimam is an Arabic word, it is the rope / REIN attached to bridle or noseband & it is used / pulled to stop the running animal.
Zamzam water ‚ô• has no colour or smell, but it has a distinct taste.

Three friends who came to New York.

Once three friends came to the …New York city. They decided to stay in a hotel during the visit. It so happened that their room ended up being on the 60th floor.

The policy of the hotel was that every night after 12:00 a.m. the elevators are shut down for security reasons. So on the next day, the three friends rented a car and went out to explore the city.

They enjoyed movies, concerts, and other things throughout the whole day. At one point, they remembered that they have to get back to the hotel before 12 a.m. When they arrived, it was beyond 12 a.m. at night.

The elevators were shut down. There was no other way to get back to their room but to take the stairs all the way to the 60th floor. All of a sudden, one friend got an idea.

He said “For the first 20 floors, I will tell jokes to keep us going.

Then another one of us could say wisdom stories for the next 20 floors.

Then, we will cover the other 20 floors with sad stories.”

So, one of the friends started with the jokes. With laughs and joy, they reached the 20th floor. Now, another friend started saying stories that are full of wisdom. So, they learned a lot while reaching the 40th floor.

Now, it was time for the sad stories. So, the third friend started thus, “My first sad story is that I left the key for the room in the car.”

Lesson For Us ‚ô•: Now, what is the point of this story? This story resembles our life cycle. For the first 20 years of our life, we spend time in joking and enjoying whatever is out there.

Then, after we reach 20, we go into the work force, get married, have kids and this is the time when we use our wisdom.

Then, if we reach 40, we finally see the white hairs and begin to think that my life is coming to an end.

Moral ‚ô• : It’s better that we start our life in the very beginning by remembering death rather than preparing for it at the end our life when very few of us have the energy to obey ALLAH completely.

Are you a WINNER or a LOSER ?

Personally I dont like the term “Loser “. Its a heavily loaded term full of negativeity. I doubt any one likes to be teased as being a loser. Although I understand from my own kids that its one of the “in” terms to use, when teasing or naming someone you dont particularly like.

Here is something I came across in my inbox, but by no means is this some sorta standard bench mark about losers, however, it does show how one could improve ones attitude and fall on the other side of the court.

  • ¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬† The Winner is always part of the answer;
  • ¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬† The Loser is always part of the problem.
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    • ‚ô¶ The Winner always has a program;
    • The Loser always has an excuse.
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    • ‚ô¶ The Winner says, “Let me do it for you”;
    • The Loser says, “That is not my job.”
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    • ‚ô¶ The Winner sees an answer for every problem;
    • The Loser sees a problem for every answer.
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    • ‚ô¶ The Winner says, ” It may be difficult but it is possible”;
    • The Loser says, “It may be possible but i t is too difficult.”
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    • ‚ô¶ When a Winner makes a mistake, he says, “I was wrong”;
    • When a Loser makes a mistake, he says, “It wasn’t my fault.”
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    • ‚ô¶ A Winner makes commitments;
    • A Loser makes promises.
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    • ‚ô¶ Winners have dreams;
    • Losers have schemes.
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    • ‚ô¶ Winners say, “I must do something”;
    • Losers say, “Something must be done.”
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    • ‚ô¶ Winners are a part of the team;
    • Losers are apart from the team.
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    • ‚ô¶ Winners see the gain;
    • Losers see the pain.
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    • ‚ô¶ Winners see possibilities;
    • Losers see problems.
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    • ‚ô¶ Winners believe in win-win;
    • Losers believe for them to win someone has to lose.
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    • ‚ô¶ Winners see the potential;
    • Losers see the past.
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    • ‚ô¶ Winners are like a thermostat;
    • Losers are like thermometers.
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    • ‚ô¶ Winners choose what they say;
    • Losers say what they choose.
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    • ‚ô¶ Winners use hard arguments but soft words;
    • Losers use soft arguments but hard words.
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    • ‚ô¶ Winners stand firm on values but compromise on petty things;
    • Losers stand firm on petty things but compromise on values.
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    • ‚ô¶ Winners follow the philosophy of empathy: “Don’t do to others what you would not want them to do to you”;
    • Losers follow the philosophy, “Do it to others before they do it to you .”
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    • ‚ô¶ Winners make it happen;
    • Losers let it happen.
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    • ‚ô¶ Winners plan and prepare to win.
    • The key word is preparation.

Coffee cups and life !!

A group of college alumni, well-established in their careers, began talking at a reunion about the impact that a professor of theirs had made on each of their lives.  They decided to go visit their old professor, who was
now retired. During their visit their conversation turned into complaining about the stress in their work and lives.
Offering his guests coffee, the professor went to the kitchen and returned with a large pot of coffee and an assortment of cups – porcelain, plastic, glass, crystal, some plain looking, some expensive, some exquisite – telling
them to help themselves to the coffee.
When all the alumni had a cup of coffee in hand, the professor said,
“Notice that each of you took one of the nicer-looking cups. You didn’t take any of the plain ones. While it is normal for you to want the best for yourselves, that has become the source of your problems and stress. The cup
itself adds nothing to the quality to the coffee. What all of you really wanted was coffee, not the cup, but you consciously went for the best cups…and then you began eyeing each other’s cups.
¬†You compared the quality of your cup with the quality of a friend’s cup.”

The professor continued, “Now consider this: Life is the coffee; your job, money and position in society are the cups. They are just tools to hold and contain life. The style one cup has, does not define or change the
quality of life an individual lives. Sometimes, by concentrating only on the cup, we fail to enjoy the coffee God has provided us. The happiest people¬† don’t have the best of everything.
They just make the best of everything.”
Enjoy your coffee!  

Live simply. Love generously.  Care deeply. Speak

kindly.

Lessons from 2010 ~ part 2.

Just a day before we had sam admitted for the operation. Twas Bilal's birthday.11 May 2010

Two days after Sam’s surgery, he was still in the ICU. I needed to stay close to him so I slept for a couple of hours in the common ladies waiting room in the night and kept waiting for the visiting hours the rest of the time. I had not visited the kids the first 5 days. There was a large, safe and clean cafeteria which was 24 hours so really almost all my immediate needs were taken care of.¬† Needlessto¬†say, I hardly slept. I would be seen prowling constantly infront of the ICU, waiting for visiting hours to begin.

Most of the security guards and cleaners and nurses had come to know me very well by now. And one thing I was asked several times, is how I managed to keep so composed ! I remember, a distant friend of mine called once and tried to console me briefly; becoz she did not know all the details, she almost made me feel, “like its not the end of the world”.

It¬†took a whole lot of patience and maturance to not snap back at her.¬†Perhaps my state of mind and patience was already stretched beyond its capacity and here, I had someone telling me, that it could’nt¬†be all the bad !! I must have been alittle sharp in my tone, although I said nothing offensive. This friend came all the way from Dubai to check up on Sam in the evening while I was in the cafeteria.¬†By the time I returned, She had already seen ¬†Sam.¬† She came over to me and just broke down in tears.¬†¬† Human emotions are fragile. I learnt just how very fragile.¬† I¬†found myself consoling her that evening !!

During those first 2 weeks,¬†my telephone was flooded with calls. Calls from abroad,¬†local calls, dozens of sms’s. At some stage, I almost felt like a telephone operator and at some other times, like telephone voice message. I nearly detested it having to answer the calls and repeat the same updates over and over !¬†¬†Most of the calls that came from Sam’s friends had a similar feel to it.

It went something like this :

“How did this happen ?

” “Why did’nt he tell us ?”

¬†“I found out thru so and so ”

“How did you’ll diagnose it ?”

“Why dont you get it done in India?”

“Let me know if you need anything ”

Duh !!! As if !!!!!!! I realized that we should be careful in what we say to a person when he going thru an ordeal especially one which involves health. He sits there feeling “how would you know, you dont have this problem” while we ask all the silly questions and even offer our unwanted advice !!

Nobody really knows whats going thru the mind of a person sinking in his boat except he himself !! so why pretend to have answers. But I suppose its a polite etiquette or ritual to do so !!!

Trying so hard to ease his pain... young sawaab

In all of Sam’s friends, there was only one guy whom he has disclosed his¬†condition to, and also explained in detail about the operation.¬† Instead of making the effort of¬†being around with us, he calls two days later wanting to know how things were !!! His wife had the audacity to state that 8 months back, when she was in India where her mother was sick,¬†We didnt¬†call on her in India, we just visited her¬†hubby here !!! Thats friendship for you.

I learnt that encouragement, support and compassion does not necessarily come from those whom we know for sure will show it. Many a times, there can be a big disappointment. And many a times, it can come from a totally unexpected corner !! Therefore, its best to pin hopes only from Allah swt. He is the creator, he will create a way. . .

The lesser your expectation, the better chance you’ve got a solid relationship !! In all honesty, I dont believe in what I just said. ¬†¬†¬†¬†How can one not have expectations from someone you speak to virtually everyday ??? Someone whom you share your domestic secrets and office hassels ???

I realized now, that someone going thru trauma, doesnt need our silly superficial talks, he just needs genuine concern and someone who can listen and perhaps understand. Not judge. Never Judge !

I’ve learnt that Health, Wealth and children are a man’s biggest assets and they are also his biggest weakness too.¬†He is most vulnerable when there is a deficiency in either his health or his wealth and if his children are away¬†or hurt.

On the left is samie's surgeon, Dr Ziani and on the right is Dr ousama at Sheikh Khailifa Medical city.

I also learnt that what ever our sickness is, the two extreme way approach is not really the best.

Either we focus on the sickness so much that all our positive energy is drained and¬†we’re completly touchy and depressed¬†all the time.

On the other hand, completly living in denial and trying to carry on with life as though nothing has happened is not going to take us anywhere too.

When a disease strikes, it is a way of the body responding and telling us that something wrong is happening. why ignore and live in denial that alls well. We have to make positive changes to cure our problem.

Earlier I never stopped sam from the quantity he ate, or the amount of his salt intake, or from munching those¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬† in-between snacks or hogging on all those nihari’s¬†and ghee smothered parathas !! How much could¬†our body take ?? Naturally we made changes. How could¬†we not ??

I’ve also learnt that staying in a hospital, no matter how plush and sophisticated it is, can be quiet a sad and lonely experience. There’s a reason why Muslims have a sunnah, which is to visit the sick and that too it states, how and for how long should the visit last and what should be spoken off when visiting.

While we were transfered to the private room from the ICU, a bunch of volunteers had organized an hour program for the long staying patients of the hospital. They got out their guitars and sang lovely songs, some played board games and some card games. It was so refreshing to see the smiles on the elderly patients, who had, by now, gotten so used to staying over long periods of isolation ! 

A visit to¬†the hospital can really make a great difference in the life of the patient and it makes us realize how fortunate we are for being blessed with good health too. we may feel, what good would a single short visit from us do for a patient, what we probably dont realize is how he/she may not have had seen family, friends or relatives for so long and a short talk with them may make them feel “wanted” or “not forgotten”¬† Try it, you’ll know what I mean.

This post was not supposed to get long, but perhaps I “Have” learnt quite a bit. I really hope, what I have learnt from my experience helps you to make even one single change in your life.

Come back to read the 3rd Part of “lessons¬†from 2010”

Something to smile about .. .. .. ..

Rather than let the doom and gloom bring you down, focus on the positive.¬† Life’s simple pleasures which we take for granted.¬† Little things¬†like .. .. .. .. .. .. ..

  • finding forgotten money in a pocket
  • the joy of free refills¬†at a restaurants
  • being able to¬†fix a faulty electronic equipment with a smack.
  • When u stay somewhere with a really good shower
  • When your pet notices your in a bad mood and comes to see you
  • when a friend returns something borrowed so long ago you forgot you owned it
  • when you push the button for the elevator and its already there
  • getting something handwritten in the mail
  • packing a picnic and heading¬†off for¬†some outdoor action without paying a dime
  • when you pull up to red light and the guy¬†infront of you nudges up a bit so you can make a right turn.
  • leaving a comment on someones blog
  • getting a comment¬†

THE OBSTACLE IN OUR PATH

In ancient times, a king had a boulder placed on a roadway. Then he hid himself and watched to see if anyone would remove the huge rock. Some of the king’s wealthiest merchants and courtiers came by and simply walked around it.

 Many loudly blamed the king for not keeping the roads clear, but none did anything about getting the big stone out of the way. Then a peasant came along carrying a load of vegetables. On approaching the boulder, the peasant laid down his burden and tried to move the stone to the side of the road. After much pushing and straining, he finally succeeded. As the peasant picked up his load of vegetables, he noticed a purse lying in the road where the boulder had been. The purse contained many gold coins and a note from the king indicating that the gold was for the person who removed the boulder from the roadway. The peasant learned what many others never understand.
¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬† Every obstacle presents an opportunity to improve one’s condition.

 

Diamonds, Pearls and a woman’s body.

Diamonds And Pearls

The following incident took place when Muhammed Ali’s daughters arrived at his home wearing clothes that are not modest. Here is the story as told in detail by one of his daughters:

When we finally arrived, the chauffer escorted my youngest sister, Laila, and me to my father’s suite. As usual, he was hiding behind the door waiting to scare us. We exchanged hugs and kisses as we could possibly give in one day. My father took a good look at us. Then he sent me down in his lap and said something I will never forget. He looked me straight in the eyes and said,

¬†“Hana, everything that God made valuable in the world covered and hard to get to. Where do you find diamonds? Deep down in the ground, covered and protected. Where do you find pearls? Deep down at the bottom of the ocean, covered up and protected in a beautiful shell. Where do you find gold? Way down and in the mine, covered over with layers and layers of rock. You’ve got to work hard to get them.” He looked at me with serious eyes. “Your body is sacred. You’re far more precious than diamonds and pearls, and you should be covered too.”

The power of words.

Froggies

A group of frogs were traveling through the woods, and two of them fell into a deep pit. When the other frogs saw how deep the pit was, they told the two frogs that they were as good as dead. The two frogs ignored the comments and tried to jump up out of the pit with all their might. The other frogs kept telling them to stop, that they were as good as dead. Finally, one of the frogs took
heed to what the other frogs were saying and gave up. He fell down and died.The other frog continued to jump as hard as he could. Once again, the crowd of frogs yelled at him to stop the pain and just die. He jumped even harder and finally made it out. When he got out, the other frogs said, “Did you not hear us?” The frog explained to them that he was deaf. He thought they were encouraging him the entire time.

This story teaches two lessons:

1. There is power of life and death in the tongue. An encouraging word to someone who is down can lift them up and help them make it through the day.

2. A destructive word to someone who is down can be what it takes to kill them.

Be careful of what you say. Speak life to those who cross your path. The power of words… it is sometimes hard to understand that an encouraging word can go such a long way.

 Anyone can speak words that tend to rob another of the spirit to continue in difficult times. Special is the individual who will take the time to encourage another.

Author Unknown

We all are carpenters.

What Goes Around Comes Around: (A short and inspirational Story of a Carpenter)

An elderly carpenter was ready to retire, and he told his boss of his plans to leave and live a more leisurely life with his wife. He would miss the paycheck, he could get by, but he needed to retire.

The contractor was sorry to see such a good worker go, and he asked the carpenter to build just one more house as a personal favor.

The carpenter said yes, but in time it was easy to see that his heart was not in his work. He resorted to shoddy workmanship and used inferior materials. It was an unfortunate way to end a dedicated career.

When the carpenter finished his work, the contractor came to inspect the house. He handed the front-door key to the carpenter. “This is your house,” contractor said. “It is my gift to you.”

The carpenter was shocked! What a shame! If he had only known he was building his own house, he would have done it all so differently.

So it is with us. We build our lives, a day at a time, often putting less than our best into the building. Then with a shock we realize we have to live in the house we have built.

If we could do it over, we would do it much differently. But we cannot go back…

You are the carpenter of your life. Each day you hammer a nail, place a board, or erect a wall. Your attitudes and the choices you make today build your “house” for tomorrow…

A Tour of Heaven

A Tour of Heaven

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A newly arrived soul in Heaven was met by St.Peter.  The saint toured the soul around Heaven.  Both of them walked side by side inside a large workroom filled with angels.

 

St.Peter stopped in front of the first section and said,”This is the Receiving Section.¬† Here, all the petitions to God said in prayer are received.”

 

The soul looked at the section, and it was terribly busy with so many angels sorting out petitions written on voluminous paper sheets from all the people of the world.

 

They walked again until they reached the 2nd section, and St.Peter told the soul, “This is the Packaging and Delivery Section.¬† Here, the graces and blessings the people asked for are packed and delivered to the people who asked for them down on earth.”

The soul saw how busy it was.  There were so many angels working in that room, since so many blessings were being packed and delivered to Earth.

 

Finally, at the farthest corner of the room, the soul stopped at the last section.  To the surprise of the soul, only one angel stayed there idly, doing nothing.

 

“This is the Acknowledging Section,” St. Peter told the soul.

 

The soul asked, “How is that, there is no work here?”

 

“That’s the sad thing,” St. Peter answered, “after the people received the blessings they asked for, very few send their acknowledgments.”

 

“How does one acknowledge God’s blessings?”

 

“Simple,” St. Peter answered, “Just say “Thank you, Lord.”

 

~Author Unknown~

 

There is a quote that goes "you can judge a man by whether he will ask for a light load 
or a strong back."

 It's the principle of the principal.

 "to whom much is given. . .. . . much is required."