Five days after returning from Umrah, Sam was admitted for his surgery. We knew what we were up against. His right kidney was removed last year by open surgery. 2 Months later he was diagnosed with a hernia. You see there are several layers of skin, tissue, fat and muscle after which the doctors reach the organs. In sam’s case, a large area had opened from the initial scar. He had around 46 stiches on his abdomin. The scar opening from the stitches was around 9-10 cm long. 20% of his intestines were already out from that opening. Hence when he stood, there was a baseball shaped and size side to his stomach. We were only worried about strangulation in those intestines therefore we delayed the operation till now. The surgeons push the intestines back in, and place a large mesh to keep it from protruding back out. The worse part about this type of hernia is that it can reoccur. The surgeon we had, was exceptionally good, but sam’s case history was not a very encouraging one, so he assured us that he would be trying out his best to do it thru laprocopy and if they were still unable to fix the issue, then they would have to perform an open surgery. Which was the worse case scenario.
This time around, I could sense Sam was far more nervous and had made more preparation with all the house and bank docs etc, Which really puts me in panic mode. Luckily for us, his surgery went very well. The surgery lasted 5 hours and after a stay in the hospital for a week, we could get him home. As in almost all surgeries and especially with a hernia, doctors always advice that the patient should refrain from carrying heavy objects. Sam still has swelling, probably water retention. Our concern always is that he has only one kidney which also has an arterial block as well. But I am an optimist. I believe in giving the body some time and space to heal. Inshallah. Heal, he will.
Bilal my oldest son born premature. He was underweight like most premature births and unfortunetly devoloped bilateral anguinal hernia at age 2 months. The swelling above private part was very severe. We were asked to have him operated immediately. He was so anemic and underweight that they had to first infuse blood and then perform the surgery. However, it was a simple surgery ~ ofcourse to a first time nervous mom, It was simply a nightmare. Since I had dealt with hernia before, I did a little research about it on the internet as well to keep myself prepared.
What I found strangely annoying later on, is that naturally people are limited by their own knowledge and experience. I had not mentioned about samie’s surgery to alot of people until the day of his surgery. Later however, when I had advised the near and dear ones, I felt so ridiculous when I had one person actually tell me that her cousin had a hernia which takes just half an hour and its ridiculously a simple procedure !!! Inspite of explaining his entire abdomine case, she just kept compairing it to her “cousin”. Honestly, if there is one thing that I have learnt from my experiences in dealing with a traumatic surgery is that when you visit someone who is so seriously ill, it would be best to lend your emotional support (which is so desperately seeked) and BE QUIET !!! It can be so damaging to the relationship, when you tend to belittle a certain situation.
We have changed quite a bit of sam’s eating habits. Ofcourse he has been on low sodium salt for a little over a year now. He’s having salads for lunch and a healthy breakfast. We have been going on late night walks everyday, Which, I think, is the best part of the evening instead spending the evening being a couch potato. I suppose dinner is the only meal, when I let him get away with rice. He is a typical rice eater. He is making several changes, so I think, I am letting him get away with the rice in the night deal !
Here is sam with the boys 3 days after the surgery and the other picture, is that of sam with the boys, 2 weeks after surgery.