Guard your modesty ~ oh muslimah.

I hear sisters who don’t wear hijab, but feel they are better than the sisters who do wear hijab, but with make up, tight clothes, hair showing etc ~ to them I say, follow what your Allah has ordered you to do first.  Dress how he has asked you to, cover your aura how he has instructed you, and leave the judging to Him, for HE alone, has the right to judge anyone. Do not use this cause, as an excuse so as not to embrace a part of the muslimah’s identity.

Remember, shaitaan lurks around every muslimah ever so zestfully … His ultimate goal is to lure her into sin. The graver the sin, the more the reward for him.

For sisters, who wish to embrace the hijab but have been fighting their own little battle between, pleasing the world and pleasing Allah ~ encourage them.  May they find peace in the path chosen by Allah for them. Ameen

For sisters, who are drifting (just like the sister in the below video) ~ make dua, lots of dua, that Allah swt makes her nafs stronger than the whispers of the wretched shaitaan.

Mislead by Traditions and Ignorance.

It was in the blessed month of Ramadhan, that the Quran was revealed to Prophet Mohammed. (Peace and blessings be upon him)

The first word uttered was ” Iqra ” ~ meaning “READ” or RECITE.

Read: to understand the meaning of written symbols
Recite: to verbally repeat from memory (read aloud)

Muslims, young and old, have been encouraged to seek knowledge ~ to broaden their horizons with reference to this beautiful deen of Islam.

Sadly, muslims, are too preoccupied in hoarding worldly knowledge so as to attain higher degrees in science, maths and engineering, so as to attain better salaries and fulfill their worldly desires  ~   while totally neglecting to seek knowledge of the one book, that will eventually, be the ONLY source of “respite” and intervention for him/her in his/her grave !!!!

Because, parents have been idly following traditions, they prefer their offspring to continue doing so. The Asian upbringing is not the best, to say the least. We demand our children, not question, any traditional values ~  Centuries of misinformed people, who never once tried to “understand” and “apply” what the Quran preached ~ what the hadiths enlightened us with, never reached so many more of us. We have been swimming in a tide of bidaah and we fiercely support them !! We are a naïve lot and what’s worse is that we are an arrogant lot, at that .

The one who guides us to the righteous path, has to be lamented, his motives, questioned and his image, tarnished.

This is how low we have stooped. We, the ummah of Rasool Allah, sallallahi wa sallam 😦

Here is an example of a ‘top notch’ bidaah.

23 rakaahs of Taraveeh in 7 minutes !!!!!!

Now that we are aware of how the situation is over there, Can I request ANY aalim in this country/state/city to please reach out to our brothers and sisters and guide them in the right ways. I am sure, these people have good intentions but have NEVER researched their own religion. Instead they have accepted age-old traditional practices.

May Allah swt give them hidayah and guidance. Ameen

Not the Islamic way.

Assalam Alai kum brothers and sisters.

I am back from my self-imposed haitus, having just recently commenced a new venture ~ realized It was  depleting most my time. Hence decided to grab the opportunity in this Ramadhan.

Trust you all have been well, and reaping the many benefits of the month of Ramadhan

The below video was disturbing PERIOD !!

Since when did Allah swt like extravagance ???   It worries me to think, that we have millions of children in our neighboring countries, going without food and clean water, and we tend to just brush it under the carpet and enjoy such lavish feasts.

What has happened to this Ummah ???

I am totally dumbfounded. Such scenes worry me, for Allah swt never loosens his wrath on an ummah, until he has first send his messenger to warn them.

Sadly, THIS is the ummah of the last messenger (sallallahu alaihi wa sallam) and what would he have felt, seeing this ??? Too many hadiths to this effect, about how he warned us against extravagance and to lead a simple, moderate life, leading by his own example.

Gone are the times when a entire community could eat a simple meal of bread and make shukr of the Creator, who provided it.

Today, simplicity has been replaced by extravagance and a glittery lifestyle.  Lavish carpets, elaborate meals (part of which is dumped !!) and decorations in the millions ~ where is the Ummah of Mohammed (sallallahu alaihi wa sallam) ?

Surely exuberance is not a part of muslim life.

May Allah swt guide us in the righteous path ! ameen.

Exactly, in contrast to the above video ~ is the reality of what our ” saum” was “supposed to”  teach us, in the following video.

May Allah swt have mercy on the less fortunate and guide us all. Ameen

Young Pakistani’s in the wrong direction.

These Pakistani teenagers have become an internet sensation with their rendition of Justin Bieber, with mum beating out the rhythmn on an old pot. Meet the ‘Justin Bibis’

Budding stars

Many surprises here :-

  • These young girls come from a remote town in Pakistan.
  • They don’t speak English ~ hence write the English pronunciation in Urdu.
  • They have their mothers support.
  • The first recording was done live ~ on a street ~ with bystanders around !!

Ofcourse following their youtube success, fame and recognition came swiftly, as does these days with the social media high.

What does NOT surprise me :-

  • They were hosted by a morning show as well, where they got a full makeover ~ LIVE !!
  • TV channels and show producers, are constantly looking out for unusual, ‘breaking news’ kinda topics to raise their TRP’s but sadly, Pakistani TV casually, glorifies everything non-Islamic.

Young sisters singing on TV is not a new phenomenon is Pakistan. We remember the Benjamin sisters of the 80’s, but here’s a new generation of Urdu-speaking small-town dwellers, who have draped themselves with a dupatta and croon to the likes of Justin Beiber !!! The miracles of new-age telecommunication, I suppose ! Or the long web of shaitaani fitnah.

This young sibling has no idea, of what content they are endorsing in their songs … naturally, neither does their mother.  Sounds nice enough to be sung without considering the repercussions !

From an Islamic point of view, having a woman’s voice heard with a musical set up ~ is not acceptable.

Hundred’s of small-town girls will find inspiration in these sisters, and consider crooning in public or youtube, as a ticket to fame.

Singing as a sign of rejoicing privately, in close confinement where only women are present, in a marriage function is the only exception where music and women can mix as per the teachings of deen !! Yet Pakistan has, long thrown the garb of ‘selective’ Islamic teachings and practices.  A young Malala cannot be sent to school, yet she can be rejoiced on the morning shows !!

That’s not a new one for hypocrisy but it just endorses its absolute presence, shamefully.

 

Tight Jeans & Muslim Women !

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Either I’m living in a very confused time or there are a whole lot of confused women, swarming around in the malls dressed as a hybrid between, wanting to please their parents and wanting to go on a date  !!

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Tight clothing, hijab and muslim women (in public)  ~ just don’t go hand in hand. PERIOD !! (Ofcourse, You are totally at liberty to wear anything at home)

However, this generally happens, when women/girls either don’t know

  • Why they wear hijab
  • what is real hijab or
  • when they are trying to please ‘themselves’ while keeping Allah swt, somewhere in the picture.

Well sisters, I got some REAL news for you !!  Who do you think your kiddin ???  Surely, not the one who already has your intentions listed out.  I totally respect the parents for guiding these children towards hijab but I fail to understand, why parents don’t explain the importance behind the hijab.

Unfortunately, the media has symbolized hijab as a piece of cloth, worn to cover the hair. However, Hijab is far greater than just a piece of cloth. There are several aspects of Hijaab ~ the first one being the intention and the next being humility, hijab of the eyes, hijab of how one speaks, hijab of how one walks, and so on so forth.

In a race to be accepted and appreciated by western society, our girls have drifted towards the aesthetic values of hijab rather than the true meaning of humility. Clearly some of the requirements of Islamic clothing for the muslimah is that her dress, not be transparent, too tight so as to reveal her figure and also not something that can be associated with men’s clothing.

I watch in disappointment, while young oblivious muslimah girls prance around in flocks in their shockingly appealing shirts, tight jeans and tall sandals with colorful bling studded mobiles but ofcourse, donning a contrasting scarf to go with it. One doesn’t have to be a genius to figure out the chaos running in those tender brains !

For sisters, who are new to Islam, please take your time. Don’t be in a rush to adopt the hijab. Kindly study the religion before you embrace the dress code. Allah swt has bought open your hearts to this beautiful religion, surely he will make you see hijab as an extension of yourselves. It will become a part of your personality very soon. inshallah.

Quite honestly, it is something that comes so naturally to us, once we get accustomed to it and it is surely, not there to make tasks, difficult for us women.  Allah swt would never enforce something difficult for us to bear. He has made deen so simple for us to practise and he has kept women, so well protected, provided we live within our simple deeni boundaries.

May Allah swt protect our ummah and make us stronger and bring us closer together ameen.

 

Purifying the heart

Purifying the heart !

Assalam Alai kum brothers and sisters. I trust, you are in good health and are counting your blessings everyday.

The link above is an excellent short video based on our existence and how we can remove the corrupt, evil sins from our hearts. It is a beautiful metaphor and I’m sure, you will like it, hence sharing.

The doors of Rehma (mercy/forgiveness) will remain open for us till the moment, we take our last breath, hence don’t assume you will not be forgiven. Allah swt can and will pardon the worse of the sins, provided the niyaah (intention) is sincere and the remorse is true.

A family we knew, had a daughter, who suffered at the hands of a chronic illness for all her tender life. We realized, perhaps,  she was a test from the Almighty. Eventually she passed away leaving her parents with a broken heart.

A few years later, the only other child, an older son, matured and carried forward the responsibilities of his fathers’ business. The father was beside himself. A young, charming, well-behaved, well-disciplined and responsible son, is a dream come true. The parents had him married and the following year, the young bride and groom, performed Hajj.

Although, they are our family friends, we barely kept in touch, over the years. Never the less, I have a deep-rooted respect for this family and upon hearing the beautiful news, I was overwhelmed with joy.

Sadly, it was short-lived.

A couple of years later, the said young boy, committed suicide.

Death of a child, in itself, is the harshest emotional devastation, but loosing your child to suicide can add an unbelievably surreal dimension to this trauma.

And then begins a string of speculations of why he took such a drastic step .. .. perhaps monetary issues, perhaps business decline, perhaps he did not bear children and perhaps a dozen other factors, which we may never know and in so many ways, its none of our business ! But here is whats really important :-

My dear brothers and sisters, suicide is haram. There is no other way to put it mildly.

Please remember, we are placed in this world to face the trials, to endure hardships while keeping our imaan (faith) intact. We CANNOT and MUST NOT give up.

Talk to anyone of your family members, friend, relative, a trusted neighbor, a colleague, the imam in your masjid ~ if nothing else, turn to a psychiatrist.  But DONT give up.  Whatever problems, you face, there is ALWAYS a solution. Sometimes, we have to persistently search for it, and sometimes, patience brings it at our doorstep, never the less, there is ALWAYS a solution. However there is no solution to DEATH.

That is the trauma this elderly parent faces and will continue to endure every single day, for the rest of their lives.

The young bride who probably has a life ahead of her, with a stigma so intense, to carry in our hypocritical society.

What he did ~ is not the issue here becoz he is no more and no one can bring him back.

But what matters is what we learn from this unfortunate tragedy.

Asian parents are highly emotional and less logical parents. They pin too many hopes and aspirations over their offspring. In a way, they almost live their youth, thru their children, which is fine , so long as they don’t start imposing their expectations on them.  If your raising responsible children, remember, when they goof-up(and they will) don’t remind them time and again, about your disappointments (they already realize their mistake) Reminding them will not bring them closer to you. It will only widen the barrier between them and you.

Brothers and sisters, No matter what your fix is, rely on your parents. There will be a temporary period of disappointments and you may curl in the feeling of being a let-down. But trust me, its far better, that they sort your hassle out than sort your coffin out.  There can be no excuse for suicide. Absolutely NONE.

The void a parent feels after loosing a child is unbearably painful but knowing and blaming himself, all the remainder of his life, why his child could not turn to him as a confidante, is far more painful for a parent.

This video demonstrates how wrong decisions, wrong habits and wrong deeds can blacken our hearts and our minds and misguide us in the wrong direction, but ……………………… there is hope.

Astaghfirullah.

Ask Allah swt for forgiveness, refrain yourself from evil practices and reprimand your ways and there is no reason, why the Almighty Allah swt who is Ghafoor and Raheem, would not forgive his slave.

He is waiting for YOU to raise your hands in dua and with trust in your heart, turn to him. He alone will set you free.

so what are you waiting for ?

 

 

Hajj ~ A Discovery (part 2)

Assalam Alaikum dear brothers and sisters,

This post is in continuation of my previous post Hajj – A Discovery (part 1).

Like I mentioned in my previous post, we were blessed to be able to have had performed Al Hajj this year.

It was an enlightening experience, to say the least. In reality, it was a road to self-discovery as much as understanding where I could, possibly stand in this huge universe, in terms of my love for my Allah swt.

Living in Dubai comes with its own set of ‘tiny’ drawbacks. We tend to become rather self-centered or self-absorbed, as you would, in any fast-paced and diverse metropolitan city.  Time is a commodity and we are almost always, utilizing to its best.  Grabbing fragmented moments of joy, as you attempt, in futile, to race against the merciless movement of the clock hands. Sometimes, you need to gain momentum in life. You need to stand still and figure out your place, in your own life and that of those close to you. You need to figure out, just how deep is your relationship with the Creator.  Where are you heading ? And regardless of how high you fly, you will still need to get a grip with reality, for your final abode is deep within the breasts of mother earth.

The days spent in Al Hajj, particularly in Muna (Mina) were an eye-opener. It unveiled  me to an unchartered territory of my own behavior and tolerance.

I resided in Muna (The tent city) with 11 other women under a single concrete tent~ surrounded by hundreds more tents.  It took me a few hours to come out of the shock of being one of the 12 to sleep in a makeshift dormitory !! (Did I mention I had braced myself for a similar situation, if not worse ??)  🙂

Most, if not all, were Urdu speaking from Uttar Pradesh( a northern state of India) or Delhi. Mainly three age groups  60+, 40+ and 30+

Allah swt has blessed the Muslim Ummah with two strong traits namely Sabr (Patience) and Shukr (gratefulness) ~ The Hajj is an excellent time for both of these attributes to be tested !

You are in Ahraam, in that situation, as a guest of Allah swt. What an amazing honor !! And what is it that we do when we visit someone special ? We maintain our dignity and put our best foot forward in every possible way.

Years before, we learnt that every action has an equal reaction. You get hurt and you hurt back. But in Hajj, (as it should be in our routine life too), one must maintain his/her dignity and tolerance. One of the most crucial lessons, I learnt is to restrain myself.  It is not easy becoz you have just left the protection of your shell, you are out exposed and you want nothing more than to please Allah swt.

patience in hajj

There will always be people ready to push you in a crowd ~ question remains ~ will you push back ?

  • you are sleeping on an uncomfortable bed,
  • the people around you may not smell the best,
  • they speak loudly to eachother,
  • they may eat snacks (which they bought with them from their home country) which gives out an unusual smell and worse, loud crunchy noises,
  • the introductions seem to take forever, with each one, wanting to discuss, their pregnancy deliveries, their family structure, their photographs, their daily schedule, the stories of their departures from their home country, right up to their experience so far.
  • you realize, people are far more focused towards the meal times than the salaah times.
  • and then their almost NEVER content with the amazing food to be had, in the middle of the desert !!!
  • lack of comfortable and continuous sleep can make you a switched-on walking-talking time bomb !! and yet you keep reminding yourself, the REAL purpose of being here.
  • you realize 5 out of 12 ladies, snore and you have no escape from that relentless drumming of octaves 😦
  • you realize, there is always one person, who selfishly wishes the lights to remain switched on, so she may read her dua books ~ late into the night !!
  • and some may also be inconsiderate enough to sit right over your head, and read tahajjud salaat in loud-enough voice !!
  • you realize your personal belongings are gradually becoming a thing, for all to “lend” !!
  • and then there are those clashes in debate sessions about the benefits of a joint family, or that children should be educated in convents, or even the recipe discussions !!!
  • endless amount of door knocks, from the spouces for the ladies in the tent !  All this ~ when one can easily relay the message on the mobile phone.
  • for the ladies in perpetual hijab, it is a quiet a trial. Especially when some ignorant spouces tend to drop their necks in, like ostriches trying to communicate with their obliviously relaxing wives.  Ofcourse, they were better than some of those, who assumed that we were their appointed pigeons, to relay messages when their wives awoke !!!

Women !!!! Shaitaan really has it easy !!! Women make his job pretty convenient.  He just has to play the fiddle around a tune of  ideas of greed, lust, temptation, anger, selfishness and confusion on women and the lives of all the men, next door is played havoc with in just a matter of minutes.

Luckily for me, Allah swt found an exceptional way of keeping me protected from gheebat and unnecessary loose talks.

  • My throat was choked with phlegm and as such, my voice was a mere exhausted coarse whisper. Luckily I had passed the stage of frequent coughs and moved into the sorry stage of  carrying a small plastic bag, and a couple of toilet rolls, for the constant flow of mucus.  Initially, I was embarrassed with my medical condition, not a pleasant sight to see someone spiting into some tissue or blowing one’s nose into a tissue so frequently
  • In addition, inspite of the several over 60 year-olds in the group, I was the only one carrying my loyal folding chair with me !! Naturally it got lent pretty often too 😦

All through it, I had to constantly remind myself, to continue making dhikr.  Its difficult to focus on your salaat and your tasbeeh, when so many distractions  surround you. The longer and harder, you focus on your dhikr, the more the reward ~ naturally. But its not as simple as that.

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Gradually, I began to realize, coming from my own tiny world, what a large world existed ~ with people of such varied tastes, needs and aspirations, that Allah swt had to deal with.

I realized from some of the stories, how fortunate we had it in life.

I realized I was grateful for a little over a million (if not easily more) blessings that Allah swt had showered me with.

I also realized that most Indian/Pak muslims are rather fickle minded.

  • They come up with a ridiculous theory about not eating certain foods coz it may cause a cold !!! Eg, Tomato ketchup, yoghurt etc !!! Yes, I am referring to some rather seemingly ‘educated’ people !!
  • When dealing with a medical ailment, we tend to ‘assume’ “kissi ne kuch karwa diya” as in, ‘some one has cast a spell’, sorcery, witchcraft etc, rather than believing that it was genuinely a case of appendicitis !!!!!
  • We have a tendency to turn to all sorts of QUACKS for so-called ‘treatments’ ~ rather than the conventional route of medical doctors inorder to treat our ailments.

I had already mentioned in my previous post about the hygiene habits or rather, the lack of them 🙂

Consoling myself, that it was for a mere couple of days and that, it was a test of the sorts from the Almighty himself, was helping. But I pondered over this thought for sometime, was the Almighty actually trying to bring this change in me, to be more tolerant and aware of other people’s habits, nature and characteristics ! Was I being prepared for something higher and deeper ? Was I gaining any momentum in my quest for pleasing Allah ?

While I befriended each one of the ladies and bid farewell, after reaching Medina. It occurred to me, that Allah swt enfolds a lesson in each of our tasks.

Some of us, tend to commit to these tasks without so much as batting an eyelid, while some of us learn the lesson “WE WANT TO LEARN” while there are still some, who might truly decipher the code as he meant for us to.

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  1. In any case, I feel, I now find myself more tolerant and aware and slightly more forgiving than I was.
  2. I realized that I was the impatient one ~ they were just driven by their own conveniences
  3. I realized that I was self-centered ~ happy to be couped up in a corner with another English speaking broad minded family. It was my initial comfort zone.
  4. I realized that we tend to place people into virtual pockets and judge them on those basis.
  • The filthy rich women with no class, lapping up all the gold jewelry just to gain some recognition
  • The cultured advocates wife, who kept a firm thumb inspite of a sophisticated language
  • The tag-alongs who were so limp, they really had no decisive opinion of their own
  • The tabligi-jamaat ladies who spoke fluently in English, much to the amazement of the others.
  • And then there was me, imploring Allah swt to bless me with guidance and tolerance to bear them all !

Gradually I realized that each one of them, was fighting their own battle silently. Many silent prayers were being made ~ many silent tears were being shed and many quiet hopes were raised. For that moment in time, we all were in it together ~ each with his own individual issue, his own complex, insecurity, ordeal, trial, suffering. We were all there together, looking after eachother’s needs, our belongings, our luggage, our food and our chappals (slippers )too !!

That feeling of being together, inspite of not having ANYTHING in common except your belief in Allah swt and being at a certain place, performing specific rituals, and making small and big sacrifices just to please the Almighty, is a very unusual but special feeling.  We met as strangers and parted as sisters.

If that’s not self-discovery ~ what else can be !!

May we all discover ‘THAT”  amongst the 1 billion muslims in the world today, that one feeling of “brotherhood/sisterhood” is enough to bind us all together, inshallah. Ameen.