Faith gives you wings !

This is such an inspirational quote.  I know, so many of you who visit my blog on a regular basis could find some respite in reading this quote if your disillusioned or going thru some trauma (May Allah forbid) ~  I know alot of these quotes sound soothing but it takes REAL FAITH to get you going thru those deliemmas ~ when they do appear.  For me, in my heart, all I believe is that Allah swt is always carrying me.  And I am ALWAYS thanking and praising him for that. To be honest, “Thats” enough for me to believe.

I have had my share of troubles and confusions and even when there was NOT ONE SINGLE SOUL who could guide me, share with me, support me ~ there was Allah swt ALWAYS. Knowing that ~ believing in that ~ made everything so much more “liveable” for me otherwise, I cant imagine what my state would have been then ! 

Everyday, we struggle.  Everyday, we are made to make choices. Everyday, we walk the thin line between haram and halal in small matters and sometimes big ones ~ but truth of the matter is that if you keep Allah swt in the center of all your decisions, you just cant go wrong. Question is “do you before it gets too late ? or Do you when its already too late ?

This world is a wild place and a few wrong steps, a few misplaced trusts can be  “near fatal”.   I know I took the leap knowing very well in my heart that “HE” would teach me how to fly ~ 18 years and counting, I am saying exactly how I felt then and now. Faith gives you wings !

The Quiz

Take the following quiz.

You don’t need a pen, pencil, or paper.

1. Name the five wealthiest people in the world.
2. Name the last five Heisman trophy winners.
3. Name the last five winners of the Miss America contest.
4. Name ten people who have won the Nobel or Pulitzer prize.
5. Name the last half dozen Academy Award winners for Best Actor and Actress.
6. Name the last decade’s worth of World Series Winners.

How did you do?

THE LESSON

NONE of us remembers the headliners of yesterday.

There are no second-rate achievers on the above quiz.
They are the best in their fields.

But the applause dies.
Awards tarnish.
Achievements are forgotten.
Accolades and certificates are buried with their owners.

Now here’s another quiz.

See how you do on this one:

1. List a few teachers who aided your journey through school.
2. Name three friends who have helped you through a difficult time.
3. Name five people who have taught you something worthwhile.
4. Think of a few people who have made you feel appreciated and special.
5. Think of five people you enjoy spending time with.
6. Name a half dozen heroes whose stories have inspired you.

Wasn’t that a lot easier?

The lesson?

The people who make a difference in your life aren’t the ones with the most
credentials, the most money, or the most awards.

They’re the ones who care enough to spend personal time and effort for you.

They are special and let them know that today 🙂

25 Thought provoking Muslim one liners.

Assalam Alai kum Brothers and sisters.  I hope all of you have been safe and in good health, where ever you stay.

My husband, samie send this mail which had these, really thought provoking one liners. Some of them really had me thinking. Infact, retrospecting. Please feel free to use them in your daily lives. Infact, It would be a great idea to use them on plaques etc. However please remember, anything which has Allah’s name should handled with care.

Here they are. Please tell me which you liked the most. ( number wise )

1.   Give Allah what’s right, not what’s left.2.   Man’s way leads to a hopeless end. Allah’s way leads to an endless  hope.

3.   A lot of kneeling will keep you in good standing.

4.   He who kneels before Allah can stand before anyone.

5.   In the sentence of life, the devil may be a comma, but never let him be the full stop.

6.   Don’t put a question mark where Allah puts a full stop.

7.   Are you wrinkled with burden? Come to the mosque for a face lift.

8.   When praying, don’t give Allah instructions, just report for duty.

9.   Don’t wait for six strong men to take you to the mosque.

10. We don’t change Allah’s message. His message changes us.

11. The mosque is prayer-conditioned.

12. When Allah ordains, He sustains.

13. Warning: Exposure to Allah may prevent burning.

14. Plan ahead. It wasn’t raining when Noah(Alaihi salaam) built the ark.

15. Most people want to serve Allah, but only in an advisory position.

16. Suffering from truth decay? Brush up on your Qur’an>an. r>

17. Exercise daily Walk with Allah.

18. Never give the devil a ride. He will always want to drive.

19. Nothing else ruins the truth like stretching it.

20. Compassion is difficult to give away because it keeps coming back.

21. He who angers you, controls you.

22. Worry is the darkroom in which negatives are developed.

23. Give Satan an inch and he will be a ruler.

24. Allah doesn’t call the qualified. He qualifies the called.

25. Read the Qur’an. It will scare the hell out of you.

Lessons from 2010 ~ part 2.

Just a day before we had sam admitted for the operation. Twas Bilal's birthday.11 May 2010

Two days after Sam’s surgery, he was still in the ICU. I needed to stay close to him so I slept for a couple of hours in the common ladies waiting room in the night and kept waiting for the visiting hours the rest of the time. I had not visited the kids the first 5 days. There was a large, safe and clean cafeteria which was 24 hours so really almost all my immediate needs were taken care of.  Needlessto say, I hardly slept. I would be seen prowling constantly infront of the ICU, waiting for visiting hours to begin.

Most of the security guards and cleaners and nurses had come to know me very well by now. And one thing I was asked several times, is how I managed to keep so composed ! I remember, a distant friend of mine called once and tried to console me briefly; becoz she did not know all the details, she almost made me feel, “like its not the end of the world”.

It took a whole lot of patience and maturance to not snap back at her. Perhaps my state of mind and patience was already stretched beyond its capacity and here, I had someone telling me, that it could’nt be all the bad !! I must have been alittle sharp in my tone, although I said nothing offensive. This friend came all the way from Dubai to check up on Sam in the evening while I was in the cafeteria. By the time I returned, She had already seen  Sam.  She came over to me and just broke down in tears.   Human emotions are fragile. I learnt just how very fragile.  I found myself consoling her that evening !!

During those first 2 weeks, my telephone was flooded with calls. Calls from abroad, local calls, dozens of sms’s. At some stage, I almost felt like a telephone operator and at some other times, like telephone voice message. I nearly detested it having to answer the calls and repeat the same updates over and over !  Most of the calls that came from Sam’s friends had a similar feel to it.

It went something like this :

“How did this happen ?

” “Why did’nt he tell us ?”

 “I found out thru so and so ”

“How did you’ll diagnose it ?”

“Why dont you get it done in India?”

“Let me know if you need anything ”

Duh !!! As if !!!!!!! I realized that we should be careful in what we say to a person when he going thru an ordeal especially one which involves health. He sits there feeling “how would you know, you dont have this problem” while we ask all the silly questions and even offer our unwanted advice !!

Nobody really knows whats going thru the mind of a person sinking in his boat except he himself !! so why pretend to have answers. But I suppose its a polite etiquette or ritual to do so !!!

Trying so hard to ease his pain... young sawaab

In all of Sam’s friends, there was only one guy whom he has disclosed his condition to, and also explained in detail about the operation.  Instead of making the effort of being around with us, he calls two days later wanting to know how things were !!! His wife had the audacity to state that 8 months back, when she was in India where her mother was sick, We didnt call on her in India, we just visited her hubby here !!! Thats friendship for you.

I learnt that encouragement, support and compassion does not necessarily come from those whom we know for sure will show it. Many a times, there can be a big disappointment. And many a times, it can come from a totally unexpected corner !! Therefore, its best to pin hopes only from Allah swt. He is the creator, he will create a way. . .

The lesser your expectation, the better chance you’ve got a solid relationship !! In all honesty, I dont believe in what I just said.     How can one not have expectations from someone you speak to virtually everyday ??? Someone whom you share your domestic secrets and office hassels ???

I realized now, that someone going thru trauma, doesnt need our silly superficial talks, he just needs genuine concern and someone who can listen and perhaps understand. Not judge. Never Judge !

I’ve learnt that Health, Wealth and children are a man’s biggest assets and they are also his biggest weakness too. He is most vulnerable when there is a deficiency in either his health or his wealth and if his children are away or hurt.

On the left is samie's surgeon, Dr Ziani and on the right is Dr ousama at Sheikh Khailifa Medical city.

I also learnt that what ever our sickness is, the two extreme way approach is not really the best.

Either we focus on the sickness so much that all our positive energy is drained and we’re completly touchy and depressed all the time.

On the other hand, completly living in denial and trying to carry on with life as though nothing has happened is not going to take us anywhere too.

When a disease strikes, it is a way of the body responding and telling us that something wrong is happening. why ignore and live in denial that alls well. We have to make positive changes to cure our problem.

Earlier I never stopped sam from the quantity he ate, or the amount of his salt intake, or from munching those                in-between snacks or hogging on all those nihari’s and ghee smothered parathas !! How much could our body take ?? Naturally we made changes. How could we not ??

I’ve also learnt that staying in a hospital, no matter how plush and sophisticated it is, can be quiet a sad and lonely experience. There’s a reason why Muslims have a sunnah, which is to visit the sick and that too it states, how and for how long should the visit last and what should be spoken off when visiting.

While we were transfered to the private room from the ICU, a bunch of volunteers had organized an hour program for the long staying patients of the hospital. They got out their guitars and sang lovely songs, some played board games and some card games. It was so refreshing to see the smiles on the elderly patients, who had, by now, gotten so used to staying over long periods of isolation ! 

A visit to the hospital can really make a great difference in the life of the patient and it makes us realize how fortunate we are for being blessed with good health too. we may feel, what good would a single short visit from us do for a patient, what we probably dont realize is how he/she may not have had seen family, friends or relatives for so long and a short talk with them may make them feel “wanted” or “not forgotten”  Try it, you’ll know what I mean.

This post was not supposed to get long, but perhaps I “Have” learnt quite a bit. I really hope, what I have learnt from my experience helps you to make even one single change in your life.

Come back to read the 3rd Part of “lessons from 2010”

Something to smile about .. .. .. ..

Rather than let the doom and gloom bring you down, focus on the positive.  Life’s simple pleasures which we take for granted.  Little things like .. .. .. .. .. .. ..

  • finding forgotten money in a pocket
  • the joy of free refills at a restaurants
  • being able to fix a faulty electronic equipment with a smack.
  • When u stay somewhere with a really good shower
  • When your pet notices your in a bad mood and comes to see you
  • when a friend returns something borrowed so long ago you forgot you owned it
  • when you push the button for the elevator and its already there
  • getting something handwritten in the mail
  • packing a picnic and heading off for some outdoor action without paying a dime
  • when you pull up to red light and the guy infront of you nudges up a bit so you can make a right turn.
  • leaving a comment on someones blog
  • getting a comment 

THE OBSTACLE IN OUR PATH

In ancient times, a king had a boulder placed on a roadway. Then he hid himself and watched to see if anyone would remove the huge rock. Some of the king’s wealthiest merchants and courtiers came by and simply walked around it.

 Many loudly blamed the king for not keeping the roads clear, but none did anything about getting the big stone out of the way. Then a peasant came along carrying a load of vegetables. On approaching the boulder, the peasant laid down his burden and tried to move the stone to the side of the road. After much pushing and straining, he finally succeeded. As the peasant picked up his load of vegetables, he noticed a purse lying in the road where the boulder had been. The purse contained many gold coins and a note from the king indicating that the gold was for the person who removed the boulder from the roadway. The peasant learned what many others never understand.
             Every obstacle presents an opportunity to improve one’s condition.

 

where is the world going ? where is our ummah going ?

a guy is supposed to be wearing his garment above his ankles, the tragedy is that a girl is doing that..

a person who smokes/drinks/dopes is supposed to be the coolest of the group, and the one who stops them form doing so is an orthodox/backward…

a deceiver is considered smart and a honest is considered a fool…

the person who makes fun of others is the stud of the group, and those who keep silent are the sad ones of the group…

going to a movie/disco, one doesnt think of money..however when it comes to charity, a thought of becoming poor crosses our mind…

when we go for drives/walks, we dont think of the distance… however when it comes to going for islamic talks/or for salaah we think its too far..

teasing other’s mothers/sisters is considered a part and parcel of life.. however considered haram/hated when some one does it to their own mothers/sisters…

flirting with other people’s mother/sister is ok.. however when same thing is done by their mother/sister its haram..

we are humble with strangers..and equally arrogant with our loved ones…

revealer of others secrets is considered a well wisher and an eye opener…however considered a betrayer of trust when being on the recieving end…

the less clothes a girl wears the more ‘INN’/rich/famous/modest shes considered…however if she covers herself shes considered backward/immodest…

the more girlfriends, a guy has, the more he becomes a source of admiration and inspiration and is like another nail in his board…

a guy with a goatie/french/shaved is considered a dude however a guy with beard is considered a terrorist..

we sleep in an hour lecture on Islam however we see a 3 hours movie with time passing by…

The Words of Allah , Most High:

” Verily, you will not guide everyone whom you love, but Allah guides whom He wills and He knows best those who Will guided” (Qur’an 28:56)

ponder over some of these statements … you’ll be amazed.

1400 yrs ago predictions in Islam

This has been told 1400yrs ago!!!!
*Camels will no longer be used as a means of transport;
* People will ride on saddles that aren’t saddles (cars?)
* The distance on earth will become short;
* Horses will not be used in wars;
* Muslims will defeat the Byzantines which will end with the conquest of
Constantinople Istanbul);
* The Jews will gather again to live in Bilad Canaan;
* Very tall buildings will be built;
* The disappearance of knowledge and the appearance of ignorance, with
much killing;
* Adultery will become widespread, and the drinking of wine will become
common;
* The number of men will decrease and the number of women will increase
until there are 50 women to be looked after by one man.
* Islam will become worn out like clothes are, until no one will know what
fasting, prayer, charity and rituals are;
* Allah will send a disease to fornicators that will have no cure (Aids?);

* People will begin to believe in the stars and reject AL QADAR (THE
DIVINE DECREE OF DESTINY);
* Men will pass by people’s graves and say: ‘Would that I was in his
place’; (large amount of suicidal deaths?)
* The Euphrates will uncover a mountain of gold for which people will
fight over (the river of Alfurat that lies near Syria );
* Two large groups of people will fight one another, and there will be
many casualties; they will both be following the same religion World War
II?);
* Approximately 30 DAJJALS will appear, each one claiming to be the
messenger of ALLAH;
* Earthquakes will increase; * Time will pass quickly;
* Afflictions will appear;
* Killing will increase;
*Wealth will increase;
* Women will be wearing clothes but not wearing clothes

 
THE PROPHET (saw) SAID: ‘IF MY UMMAH BEARS 15 TRAITS (QUALITIES),
TRIBULATION WILL FOLLOW IT.’ (DAY OF JUDGEMENT) SOMEONE ASKED,’WHAT ARE
THEY O MESSENGER OF ALLAH?’ HE (saw) SAID:
* When any gain is shared out only among the rich, with no benefit to the
poor;
* When a trust becomes a means of making profit;
* When paying ZAKKAT becomes a burden;
* When voices are raised in the mosque;
* When the leader of a people is the worst of them; when people treat a
man with respect because what he may do;
* When much wine is drunk; red wind or the earth swallow them, or to be
transformed into animals.’

 
*’IMRAN IBN HUSAYN SAID: ‘THE PROPHET (AS) SAID, ‘SOME PEOPLE OF THIS
UMMAH WILL BE SWALLOWED BY THE EARTH, TRANSFORMED INTO ANIMALS, AND SOME
WILL BE BOMBARDED WITH STONES’. ONE OF THE MUSLIMS ASKED, WHEN WILL THAT
BE O MESSENGER Of ALLAH?’ HE SAID, ‘WHEN SINGERS AND MUSICAL INSTRUMENTS
WILL BECOME POPULAR, AND MUCH WINE IS DRUNK.” THE GREATER SIGNS OF THE
HOUR The Quran will disappear in one night, even from the people’s hearts,
and no Ayah will be left on earth. (Some groups of old people will be left
who will say: ‘We heard of fathers’ saying ‘LAILLAHA ILLA ALLAH’ so we
repeat it);

 
* The appearance of the MAHDI;

* The appearance of the DAJJAL (Anti Christ); * The appearance of Ya’juj
and Ma’juj (biblical Gog and Magog); 
* Isa (Jesus) will come during the time of Dajjal; 
* The rising of the sun from the west;
* The destruction of the Ka’ba and the recovery of its treasures; 
* The smoke.

Inspirational Quotes.

 

The happiest of people don’t necessarily have the best of everything; they just make the most of everything that comes along their way.” — Anonymous

Never approach a bull from the front, a horse from the rear, or a fool from any direction.

Don’t squat with your spurs on.

Don’t judge people by their relatives.

Behind every successful rancher is a wife who works in town.

When you lose, don’t lose the lesson.

Talk slowly, think quickly.

Remember that silence is sometimes the best answer.

Live a good, honorable life. Then when you get older and think back, you’ll enjoy it a second time.

Don’t interfere with something that ain’t botherin’ you none.

Timing has a lot to do with the outcome of a rain dance.

It’s better to be a has-been that a never-was.

The easiest way to eat crow is while it’s still warm.  The colder it gets, the harder it is to swaller.

If you find yourself in a hole, the first thing to do is stop diggin’.

If it don’t seem like it’s worth the effort, it probably ain’t.

It don’t take a genius to spot a goat in a flock of sheep.

Sometimes you get and sometimes you get got.

The biggest troublemaker you’ll probably ever have to deal with watches you shave his face in the mirror every morning.

Never ask a barber if you need a haircut.

If you get to thinkin’ you’re a person of some influence, try orderin’ somebody else’s dog around.

Don’t worry about bitin’ off more’n you can chew; your mouth is probably a whole lot bigger’n you think.

Always drink upstream from the herd.

Generally, you ain’t learnin’ nothing when your mouth’s a-jawin’.

Tellin’ a man to git lost and makin’ him do it are two entirely different propositions.

If you’re ridin’ ahead of the herd, take a look back every now and then to make sure it’s still there with ya.

Good judgment comes from experience, and a lotta that comes from bad judgment.

When you give a personal lesson in meanness to a critter or to a person, don’t be surprised if they learn their lesson.

When you’re throwin’ your weight around, be ready to have it thrown around by somebody else.

Lettin’ the cat outta the bag is a whole lot easier than puttin’ it back.

Always take a good look at what you’re about to eat. It’s not so important to know what it is, but it’s sure crucial to know what it was.

The quickest way to double your money is to fold it over and put it back into your pocket.

You can’t tell how good a man or a watermelon is ’til they get thumped. (Character shows up best when tested.)

Never miss a good chance to shut up.

If lawyers are disbarred and clergymen are defrocked, shouldn’t it follow that cowboys would be deranged?

Inscription on Mr. Wayne’s headstone:
“Tomorrow is the most important thing in life. Comes into us at midnight very clean. It’s perfect when it arrives and it puts itself in our hands. It hopes we’ve learnt something from yesterday.”

 

 

More wise quotes by wise men/women

Energy and persistence conquer all things. ”
~ Benjamin Franklin

“If I can stop one heart from breaking, I shall not live in vain. ”
~ Emily Dickinson

“Do not follow where the path may lead.  Go instead where there is no path and leave a trail. ”
~ Ralph Waldo Emerson

“Don’t judge each day by the harvest you reap, but by the seeds you plant.”
~Robert Louis Stevenson

“If you’re going through hell, keep going. ”
~ Sir Winston Churchill

“Your talent is God’s gift to you. What you do with it is your gift back to God. ”
~ Leo Buscaglia

“In three words I can sum up everything I’ve learned about life:  It goes on. ”
~ Robert Frost

“No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.”
~ Eleanor Roosevelt

“It is never too late to be what you might have been.”
~ George Eliot

“The future depends on what we do in the present.”
~ Mahatma Gandhi

“To be seventy years young is sometimes far more cheerful and hopeful than to be forty years old.”
~ Oliver Wendell Holmes

“What we think or what we believe is, in the end, of little consequence.  The only thing of consequence is what we do.”   ~ John Ruskin

Oops ! Not my cuppa tea !

Exercise Sayings

Aerobics: a series of strenuous exercises which help convert fats, sugars, and starch into aches, pains and cramps.

Commit to be fit.

Eat right. Stay fit. Die anyway.

Fifty years ago people finished a days work and needed rest. Today they need exercise.

Grandma started walking for her health when she was 60. She’s now 97 and we don’t know where the heck she is!

I get enough exercise just pushing my luck.

I get my exercise from spectator sports!

I get plenty of exercise: jumping to conclusions, pushing my luck, and dodging deadlines!

I had to quit jogging for health reasons: my thighs were rubbing together so much my underpants caught on fire!

I have flabby thighs; but fortunately my stomach covers them.

I have to exercise early in the morning before my brain figures out what I am doing.

I might as well exercise; I’m in a bad mood anyway!

I really don’t think I need buns of steel. I’d be happy with buns of cinnamon. Ellen DeGeneres

I took up jogging to hear heavy breathing again!

If God had intended for us to touch our toes, He’d have put them on our knees.

If it wasn’t for my superior willpower, I might be exercising right now!

If it weren’t for the fact that the TV set and the refrigerator are so far apart, I wouldn’t get any exercise at all!

If you are going to try cross country skiing, start with a small country.

I’m belly building – not body building!

I’m in shape – Round is a shape, isn’t it?

I’m not into working out. My philosophy: No pain, no pain. Carol Liefer

Jog a mile – adds a minute to your life – at 85, spend an additional 5 months in a nursing home at $5,000 per month.

Jogging is good for your heart, but it makes your feet mad!

The advantage of exercising every day is that you die healthier.

The best remedy for a short temper is a long walk. Jacqueline Schiff

The more you sweat in training, the less you bleed in battle.

Whenever, I think about exercise, I lie down ’til the thought passes.

A mother knows . .. …

A MOTHER KNOWS

John invited his mother over for dinner. During the meal, his mother couldn’t help noticing how beautiful John’s roommate Julie was. She had long been suspicious of a relationship between John and his roommate, and this only made her more curious.
Over the course of the evening, while watching the two interact, she started to wonder if there was more between John and the roommate than met the eye.

Reading his mom’s thoughts, John volunteered, “I know what you must be thinking, but I assure you, Julie and I are just roommates.”

About a week later, Julie came to John and said, “Ever since your mother came to dinner, I can’t find the beautiful silver gravy ladle. You don’t suppose she took it, do you?”

John said, “Well, I doubt it, but I’ll write her a letter, just to be sure.”

So he sat down and wrote:

“Dear Mother,
I’m not saying you ‘did’ take a gravy ladle from my house, and I’m not saying you ‘did not’ take a gravy ladle from my house, but the fact remains that one has been missing ever since you were here for dinner.

Love,
John.”
 

Several days later, John received a letter from his mother which read:
“Dear Son,
I’m not saying that you ‘do’ sleep with Julie, and I’m not saying that you ‘do not’ sleep with Julie, but the fact remains that if she was sleeping in her own bed, she would have found the gravy ladle by now.

Love,
Mom.”

Poem for Parents .

Thank You Sincerely

Thanks for the start to the lives that we’ve had.
Thanks for the nights that you went without rest.
So many memories, most happy, some sad;
If you weren’t perfect, you still passed the test,
Holding our hands, holding back all the fears.
Thank you sincerely for all of those years.

So many hours that you worked to provide
Multiplied by all the days that we grew,
When we behaved and the times we defied,
Never a doubt we could still count on you,
Making our laughter and drying our tears.
Thank you sincerely for all of those years.

Thanks for the rules that we wished were not there.
Thanks for the wisdom we sometimes denied.
All the attention and all of the care,
All the forgiveness and all of the pride,
Pointing out faults but then calling out cheers.
Thank you sincerely for all of those years.

For the examples you set every day,
Teaching with actions, those lessons hold tight.
We hardly knew just how much you could say
Simply by doing what you knew was right.
Now that we’re older, the logic appears.
Thank you sincerely for all of those years.

Thank you for love not required to be earned,
Not ever fading as time moves along.
You have to know that the love is returned,
Not always showing, but always so strong.
And you still care as your golden time nears.
Thank you sincerely for all of the years.

Too good to be true .. .. Quotes on Growing old.

I was practically raised by my grandma who I believe just had to be an angel. No not the one with the wings, the one with the soul of angels and definetly not the body. She was short, dark and slightly plump and she had the heart of gold.    

She had such a lot of tolerence and patience in her. She was gifted by the ability to always find the silver lining in the clouds and boy she had had a very very difficult life. She passed away 3 years back after seeing my last born just 5 months before she began her final journey.  Her last moments were peaceful, so unlike all her life.

I often face alot of my own demons of quilt .. I wish I could have done more for her .. I wish I could have spend more time with her .. I wish I could have had her today so that she could see where we were, be happy for me, feel happiness too, bless me and my kids.  She never had happiness but she always tried to find happiness in  everything. That was special about her. She never Quit. She struggled and always smiled. Writing about her today makes me feel she was really too good to be true.

I think the most special part about our relationship was that it was so unconditional. She loved me coz she understood me. She didnt judge me like every one else. She didnt compare me to my siblings, she just loved me purely for who and what “I WAS”  She had unshakable faith in me unlike anyone else. She knew my limitations and she sacrifised so much for me ,, in all those small and tiny deeds which at that time was a big deal for me. 

I know God knows whats Best, but there are times when I reason why did she get just a pea for happiness in all her life inspite of all her kindness and all patience. She never got to enjoy anything and most of all “respect.”

I dont talk about her coz there is so much pain that is consuming me .. She didnt deserve the life she had .. she deserved so much more ..

I Pray that she finds peace in God’s own home.  If only there was a way in which I could reach out to her and tell her that she is still very much a part of my life ,, She is mentioned almost everyday when I say stories to my boys or tell them, “my nano used to do that or my nano used to say that” .. They only have a vivid memory of her and probably as they grow up,  I will keep that memory alive in their minds so that they never forget what a wonderful mother God had given me in my grandma.  To honor her, I have named my card company after her name with mine : Amina & Naush.

This post was originally for some quotes I hadgathered about Getting old, but somehow I got involved in it with my own story, well for the lighter side of this post read on to these really cute quotes on getting old .. dont forget, we’re all getting there … … 

Getting Old

A man has reached middle age when he is cautioned to slow down by his doctor instead of by the police.

Don’t worry about avoiding temptation. As you grow older, it will avoid you.

You’re getting old when “getting lucky” means you find your car in the parking lot.

You’re getting old when you’re sitting in a rocker, and you can’t get it started.

You’re getting old when you don’t care where your spouse goes, just as long as you don’t have to go along.

Middle age is when work is a lot less fun – and fun a lot more work.

Statistics show that at the age of seventy, there are five women to every man. Isn’t that the dog-gonest time for a guy to get those odds?

Middle age is when it takes longer to rest than to get tired. 

By the time a man is wise enough to watch his step, he’s too old to go anywhere.

Middle age is when you have stopped growing at both ends, and have begun to grow in the middle.

Middle age is having a choice of two temptations and choosing the one that will get you home earlier.

You know you’re into middle age when you realize that caution is the only thing you care to exercise.

You’re getting old when you wake up with that morning-after feeling, and you didn’t do anything the night before.

It’s hard to be nostalgic when you can’t remember anything.. .. 

Wisdom and Age have made me believe .. ..

I was in a hurry to grow up, thinking I was already armed with all the knowledge that I needed to defend myself with in life and all the resources I would ever need to get around. I had been reminded so many times that I would need wisdom, which came with age and I would need patience that too came with experiences .. But I prefered to rush into the hurdles of life with the limited Skills I had. Was that enough ? Not a chance .. but we all learn from our mistakes, Iike I learnt from mine. Today I have a different set of beliefs very unlike I had then .. 25 years back.  

I believe .. .. ..

 I believe-that we don’t have to change friends if we understand that friends change.

 I believe-that no matter how good a friend is, they’re going to hurt you every once in a while and you must forgive them for that.

 I believe-that true friendship continues to grow, even over the longest distance. Same goes for true love.

 I believe-that you can do something in an instant that will give you heartache for life.

 I believe-that it’s taking me a long time to become the person I want to be.

 I believe-that you should always leave loved ones with loving words. It may be the last time you see them.

 I believe-that you can keep going long after you can’t.

 I believe-that we are responsible for what we do, no matter how we feel.

 I believe-that either you control your attitude or it controls you.

 I believe-that regardless of how hot and steamy a relationship is at first,the passion fades and there had better be something else to take its place.

 I believe-that heroes are the people who do what has to be done when it needs to be done, regardless of the consequences.

 I believe-that money is a lousy way of keeping score.

 I believe-that my best friend and I can do anything or nothing and have the best time.

 I believe-that sometimes the people you expect to kick you when you’re down,will be the ones to help you get back up.

 I believe-that sometimes when I’m angry I have the right to be angry, but that doesn’t give me the right to be cruel.

 I believe-that just because someone doesn’t love you the way you want them to doesn’t mean they don’t love you with all they have.

 I believe-that maturity has more to do with what types of experiences you’ve had and what you’ve learned from them and less to do with how many birthdays you’ve celebrated.

 I believe-that it isn’t always enough to be forgiven by others. Sometimes you have to learn to forgive yourself.

 I believe-that no matter how bad your heart is broken the world doesn’t stop for your grief.

 I believe-that our background and circumstances may have influenced who we are,but we are responsible for who we become.

 I believe-that just because two people argue, it doesn’t mean they don’t love each other And just because they don’t argue,it doesn’t mean they do.

 I believe-that you shouldn’t be so eager to find out a secret. It could change your life forever.

 I believe-that two people can look at the exact same thing and see something totally different.

 I believe-that your life can be changed in a matter of hours by people who don’t even know you.

 I believe-that even when you think you have no more to give, when a friend cries out to you you will find the strength to help.

 I believe-that credentials on the wall do not make you a decent human being.

 I believe-that the people you care about most in life are taken from you too soon.