One Terrible school. Part 1

Hi friends ,

For all those of you’ll who have been following my posts regularly, I know I have been somewhat on and off these past few months. . . . . ! Well all for some valid reasons … If you know me well, you know how I have been struggling hard to get the boys out their present school.

 It has’nt been easy, especially since they have both got grade As and Bs in their mid terms and most unfortunetly flunked their assesment test in another British curriculum school, just weeks later  !!!

Not only is it a set back but it really has me thinking, what exactly are the school’s  standards when compared to others !! I know, it was unreasonable of the other school to take a full year’s  exam when the boys had only completed half the year ! Inspite of getting this to their notice, any concessions made ? None !! Infact they did not even have the courtesy to tell me Sugar’s grades !! Makes me wonder, its probably better this way !!

So here we are, struggling to find a good school for the boys…

The question is,

will I have to move them from an American System to a British curriculum ?

Will I have to move them from an American system To an IB, International Baccalaurete ??  In which case they both would loose one year.  The IB is very stringent about age limit and regardless of student skills or aptitude stick to their age limits.

Mo’s mother is equally distressed. Her son has been called names, harassed, pushed, beaten up, and terribly abused. It has been devastating for that little boy of 10. His mother has seen his self esteem just detoriate.  The only silver lining in all this, is that Sugar has been standing up for Mo. Everytime, Bully G,A,K A have tried to hit Mo, Sugar  has interviened and rescued him. I always thought it was the blind leading the blind with Sugar and Mo, but I have realized something good eventually came out of it. Sugar learned to protect and defend.

Last PE Class he returned with pain in his loins, upon alot of probing, he admitted that during football, he was playing in defence position and bully K, took full advantage of his position and kept hitting the ball on sugar’s wee wee !! All to the amusement of his friends, the “understanding ” coach asked sugar to ” be a man”  and face it out !!  No breaks .. No water .. No time to grieve his pain ….. how comforting !!

Yesterday, He was so happy when I picked him.  Health teacher who teaches them alot about ethics too, had given them a free period in class, the kids played a game about naming what they’d want to be when they grew, and whom they’d marry etc amongst many other things … Sugar was overjoyed to know that his favorite health teacher joked that he’d marry his science teacher, (who also is his favorite teacher). We both laughed and I was so pleased to know that somehow Sugar felt alittle accepted in class this time. It was a shortlived feeling.

When I asked what Sugar had said in the game, he said, “Nah, we were not allowed to play the game. They said Mo, and I were not allowed to play.”

Unbelievable ! This happens with a teacher sitting in the class !! What happened to team spirit if nothing else ?? I could see hurt in Sugar. But he put up a very brave front for me. After the last encounter with the principal, where the principal mistreated Sugar and me,  Sugar avoids telling me things like these. He doesn’t want me to be embarrassed becoz of what happens to him.  Its such a difficult situation. We have complained so many times about Bully K,A1,G,A2 to the principal but in all honesty, it fell on deaf years.  The principal is committed to the parents of these people for obvious reasons.

Being called ‘Hindia” meaning Indian in arabic, is just one of the smallest ways they harass him and kicking him on his wee wee and punching him against the wall are the larger ones.

Why do they bully him ? Well, becoz he wears glasses, gets good grade, is an indian, is on the plump side (which they too are) and most importantly becoz he takes it. What has my son done to deserve this ??? Every teacher is all but praise for him. He eats alone or with Mo. He is always smiling. He doesnt speak without a please, thank you, excuse me ………….. and yet I have made such a huge blunder in letting him stay in this wretched school.      

The teacher who had influenced us into admitting the boys here was actually sacked this January !! She actually went to the ministry with the unethical and irresponsible incidents happening on a regular basis in the school, and they found a way to actually get to her.  And they succeeded. She’s thrown out which is unfortunate. She was a good teacher * not that it matters to the school.

Two months back a student wrote in 7days newspaper, in the letter to editor that the KHDA inspection was really not correct, becoz everything in the schools were just put up for showing a shinning example to the Inspection board and after the inspection things went right back to the usual rotten self. 

If only I too had written and supported that guy.  This school had hired a student counselor and asked him to stay on just till the inspection date was over !!!  I have been putting up sugar’s case all to often and have had alot of sand thrown on my face inspite of having relevant proof … I know the only solution would be to have them move to a better school. which hopefully does not “only” market itself but also delivers.

My ordeal is very much real – shortlisting schools with jumbo size fees is not all so easy. Good education comes at a high price but we are paying a very dear price for having our young children bruised and abused all becoz we made just a few compromises  !!

Just in case, your wondering what bullying :

Bullying is an anti-social behaviour that affects everyone. It is unacceptable and should not be tolerated. It is defined as deliberately hurtful behaviour, repeated over time, where it is difficult for those being bullied to defend themselves. The three main types of bullying are physical (hitting, kicking, theft), verbal (name calling, racist remarks) and indirect (spreading rumours, exclusion from social groups). All children must be encouraged to report bullying. This policy is designed to ensure that a school is alerted to the signs of bullying and act promptly and firmly against it.

I have a long way to go and I am going to continue to support my boys and keep fighting for getting them the respect they so rightly deserve.

Oh and just in case there are any moms out there who are curious to know just what all has happened to my boys all these months …. do write to me and I’ll write back with a full description.

I’m Back.

Hello friends, I’m back.

There are mainly two reasons why we dont update our daily dairies or blog :

  1. Just too lazy to feed it
  2. far too many things happening to keep track of.

Last couple of months have been so hectic. So many great and not so good things happened.

Before I go into all that, I’d like to share with you my new motto : “Life Is Good”

I think inspite of the scores and scores of incidents that happen in our daily lives, one thing we should never forget is to thank the Almighty for the blessings coz Life is Good. Look around you, perhaps look at the news and you’ll find plenty of reasons to be happy with what we have.

No the summer has not been a soul searching period for me, on the contrary, it was a period when I hoped to catch some time off to soul search.

The summer camp was good. I had not expected a great response coz most of the families were out, but considering I got as many children as I wanted, I am happy. We held the class two days a week and the program ended  in a month.

I also held a card making and alter art class for ladies every monday which was fruitful too. Although this was supposed to be for ladies, I didnt mind young- college- going- girls joining too.

As end of August approached, the delimma began, school Admissions !!

We need to have Eman in a special school which can cater to his specific needs.

Bilal and Sawaab are reluctant to go back to DASS for obvious reasons. Inspite of all the sheer nonsense going around Dubai that schools will be flying empty come september, I have still not managed to find a school that has any spaces available !! The good news though is that DASS has taken drastic steps to making very prominent and remarkable improvements. All the new teachers have been taken from the US, only three of the previous teachers remain, they now have a councellor and also a vice principal. Inspite of all this, some of the most notorious student faces are still lingering in there ! 

Inspite of a long and nerve recking wait, we finally got our umrah visa for saudi arabia. we left on 27th Aug and returned on 5th September. 6 days in Mecca and 3 in medina. We had prepared ourselves for some inconveniences but pleasently everything went so smooth. Alhamduallah, It was the most ELATING experience we had, although we were fasting, zam zam on the heads and sheila, made it easy. It is by far not easy to perform umrah in the month of Ramadan, that too fasting, but believe me, it is every bit worth it. I will be making a photobucket album very shortly for all the muslim brothers and sisters to view and perhaps get some information and advice too.

We are back now and still in a state of joy and sadness. Joy because being in the Haram, so close to Baitulallah is probably the best experience we have ever had and sad, because I regret why we did’nt do it earlier.  Inshallah we hope to go back every year in Ramadan.

Dear friends, here I have only placed very very few photos just to give you a glimpse of our journey, please do visit again, coz I will be placing the link of my photobucket album with detailed descriptions.

Our pilgrimage

Our pilgrimage

drenched in zam zam

drenched in zam zam

After the second umrah.

After the second umrah.

lost in pensive thoughts and dua.

lost in pensive thoughts and dua.

the side where hill marva is.

the side where hill marva is.