Hajj ~ A Discovery (part 2)

Assalam Alaikum dear brothers and sisters,

This post is in continuation of my previous post Hajj – A Discovery (part 1).

Like I mentioned in my previous post, we were blessed to be able to have had performed Al Hajj this year.

It was an enlightening experience, to say the least. In reality, it was a road to self-discovery as much as understanding where I could, possibly stand in this huge universe, in terms of my love for my Allah swt.

Living in Dubai comes with its own set of ‘tiny’ drawbacks. We tend to become rather self-centered or self-absorbed, as you would, in any fast-paced and diverse metropolitan city.  Time is a commodity and we are almost always, utilizing to its best.  Grabbing fragmented moments of joy, as you attempt, in futile, to race against the merciless movement of the clock hands. Sometimes, you need to gain momentum in life. You need to stand still and figure out your place, in your own life and that of those close to you. You need to figure out, just how deep is your relationship with the Creator.  Where are you heading ? And regardless of how high you fly, you will still need to get a grip with reality, for your final abode is deep within the breasts of mother earth.

The days spent in Al Hajj, particularly in Muna (Mina) were an eye-opener. It unveiled  me to an unchartered territory of my own behavior and tolerance.

I resided in Muna (The tent city) with 11 other women under a single concrete tent~ surrounded by hundreds more tents.  It took me a few hours to come out of the shock of being one of the 12 to sleep in a makeshift dormitory !! (Did I mention I had braced myself for a similar situation, if not worse ??)  :)

Most, if not all, were Urdu speaking from Uttar Pradesh( a northern state of India) or Delhi. Mainly three age groups  60+, 40+ and 30+

Allah swt has blessed the Muslim Ummah with two strong traits namely Sabr (Patience) and Shukr (gratefulness) ~ The Hajj is an excellent time for both of these attributes to be tested !

You are in Ahraam, in that situation, as a guest of Allah swt. What an amazing honor !! And what is it that we do when we visit someone special ? We maintain our dignity and put our best foot forward in every possible way.

Years before, we learnt that every action has an equal reaction. You get hurt and you hurt back. But in Hajj, (as it should be in our routine life too), one must maintain his/her dignity and tolerance. One of the most crucial lessons, I learnt is to restrain myself.  It is not easy becoz you have just left the protection of your shell, you are out exposed and you want nothing more than to please Allah swt.

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There will always be people ready to push you in a crowd ~ question remains ~ will you push back ?

  • you are sleeping on an uncomfortable bed,
  • the people around you may not smell the best,
  • they speak loudly to eachother,
  • they may eat snacks (which they bought with them from their home country) which gives out an unusual smell and worse, loud crunchy noises,
  • the introductions seem to take forever, with each one, wanting to discuss, their pregnancy deliveries, their family structure, their photographs, their daily schedule, the stories of their departures from their home country, right up to their experience so far.
  • you realize, people are far more focused towards the meal times than the salaah times.
  • and then their almost NEVER content with the amazing food to be had, in the middle of the desert !!!
  • lack of comfortable and continuous sleep can make you a switched-on walking-talking time bomb !! and yet you keep reminding yourself, the REAL purpose of being here.
  • you realize 5 out of 12 ladies, snore and you have no escape from that relentless drumming of octaves :(
  • you realize, there is always one person, who selfishly wishes the lights to remain switched on, so she may read her dua books ~ late into the night !!
  • and some may also be inconsiderate enough to sit right over your head, and read tahajjud salaat in loud-enough voice !!
  • you realize your personal belongings are gradually becoming a thing, for all to “lend” !!
  • and then there are those clashes in debate sessions about the benefits of a joint family, or that children should be educated in convents, or even the recipe discussions !!!
  • endless amount of door knocks, from the spouces for the ladies in the tent !  All this ~ when one can easily relay the message on the mobile phone.
  • for the ladies in perpetual hijab, it is a quiet a trial. Especially when some ignorant spouces tend to drop their necks in, like ostriches trying to communicate with their obliviously relaxing wives.  Ofcourse, they were better than some of those, who assumed that we were their appointed pigeons, to relay messages when their wives awoke !!!

Women !!!! Shaitaan really has it easy !!! Women make his job pretty convenient.  He just has to play the fiddle around a tune of  ideas of greed, lust, temptation, anger, selfishness and confusion on women and the lives of all the men, next door is played havoc with in just a matter of minutes.

Luckily for me, Allah swt found an exceptional way of keeping me protected from gheebat and unnecessary loose talks.

  • My throat was choked with phlegm and as such, my voice was a mere exhausted coarse whisper. Luckily I had passed the stage of frequent coughs and moved into the sorry stage of  carrying a small plastic bag, and a couple of toilet rolls, for the constant flow of mucus.  Initially, I was embarrassed with my medical condition, not a pleasant sight to see someone spiting into some tissue or blowing one’s nose into a tissue so frequently
  • In addition, inspite of the several over 60 year-olds in the group, I was the only one carrying my loyal folding chair with me !! Naturally it got lent pretty often too :(

All through it, I had to constantly remind myself, to continue making dhikr.  Its difficult to focus on your salaat and your tasbeeh, when so many distractions  surround you. The longer and harder, you focus on your dhikr, the more the reward ~ naturally. But its not as simple as that.

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Gradually, I began to realize, coming from my own tiny world, what a large world existed ~ with people of such varied tastes, needs and aspirations, that Allah swt had to deal with.

I realized from some of the stories, how fortunate we had it in life.

I realized I was grateful for a little over a million (if not easily more) blessings that Allah swt had showered me with.

I also realized that most Indian/Pak muslims are rather fickle minded.

  • They come up with a ridiculous theory about not eating certain foods coz it may cause a cold !!! Eg, Tomato ketchup, yoghurt etc !!! Yes, I am referring to some rather seemingly ‘educated’ people !!
  • When dealing with a medical ailment, we tend to ‘assume’ “kissi ne kuch karwa diya” as in, ‘some one has cast a spell’, sorcery, witchcraft etc, rather than believing that it was genuinely a case of appendicitis !!!!!
  • We have a tendency to turn to all sorts of QUACKS for so-called ‘treatments’ ~ rather than the conventional route of medical doctors inorder to treat our ailments.

I had already mentioned in my previous post about the hygiene habits or rather, the lack of them :)

Consoling myself, that it was for a mere couple of days and that, it was a test of the sorts from the Almighty himself, was helping. But I pondered over this thought for sometime, was the Almighty actually trying to bring this change in me, to be more tolerant and aware of other people’s habits, nature and characteristics ! Was I being prepared for something higher and deeper ? Was I gaining any momentum in my quest for pleasing Allah ?

While I befriended each one of the ladies and bid farewell, after reaching Medina. It occurred to me, that Allah swt enfolds a lesson in each of our tasks.

Some of us, tend to commit to these tasks without so much as batting an eyelid, while some of us learn the lesson “WE WANT TO LEARN” while there are still some, who might truly decipher the code as he meant for us to.

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  1. In any case, I feel, I now find myself more tolerant and aware and slightly more forgiving than I was.
  2. I realized that I was the impatient one ~ they were just driven by their own conveniences
  3. I realized that I was self-centered ~ happy to be couped up in a corner with another English speaking broad minded family. It was my initial comfort zone.
  4. I realized that we tend to place people into virtual pockets and judge them on those basis.
  • The filthy rich women with no class, lapping up all the gold jewelry just to gain some recognition
  • The cultured advocates wife, who kept a firm thumb inspite of a sophisticated language
  • The tag-alongs who were so limp, they really had no decisive opinion of their own
  • The tabligi-jamaat ladies who spoke fluently in English, much to the amazement of the others.
  • And then there was me, imploring Allah swt to bless me with guidance and tolerance to bear them all !

Gradually I realized that each one of them, was fighting their own battle silently. Many silent prayers were being made ~ many silent tears were being shed and many quiet hopes were raised. For that moment in time, we all were in it together ~ each with his own individual issue, his own complex, insecurity, ordeal, trial, suffering. We were all there together, looking after eachother’s needs, our belongings, our luggage, our food and our chappals (slippers )too !!

That feeling of being together, inspite of not having ANYTHING in common except your belief in Allah swt and being at a certain place, performing specific rituals, and making small and big sacrifices just to please the Almighty, is a very unusual but special feeling.  We met as strangers and parted as sisters.

If that’s not self-discovery ~ what else can be !!

May we all discover ‘THAT”  amongst the 1 billion muslims in the world today, that one feeling of “brotherhood/sisterhood” is enough to bind us all together, inshallah. Ameen.

 

 

 

 

 

Hajj – A discovery (part 1)

Assalam Alai kum dear brothers and sisters,

This year, Allah swt blessed us with the privilege of being his guests in Hajj.

Ofcourse, you can view heaps and heaps of sites which will give you details about the entire process of Hajj, what it is, why it is performed, what is it relevance in Islam etc etc.

But what I wanted to share with you today, is beyond the basics and rather personal to me  .. actually, its purely my own take on what I discovered about myself and how I perceive people and situations.

We booked our visa, travel docs and stay through a ‘reliable’ tour operator or source in Delhi -India (I will come back to this source much later in the next part of this post )

My husband, constantly drilled the word “sabr’ into my brains from the time, we contemplated Hajj in our minds, becoz for me, travel and sabr don’t go hand in hand, if anything, I am totally driven by excitement thru out my travels. I like to be organized and I like to be dealt with professionally. Ofcourse, having performed several umrahs over the years, one aspect of the visit to Saudi Arabia, I am very well aware of, is the total lack of organizational and communication skills at the airport. I braced myself for all the potential goof ups, expected !!!

Allah swt has blessed the Muslim with two supreme qualities, namely “SABR” (patience) and “SHUKR” (gratefulness)

And this journey, I was about to embark upon, was going to expose me to just “HOW” patient and grateful we muslims truly are !!

Fast forward to the 3 days in Muna (Mina – The tented city ) where I resided with 11 other ladies in our solid “tented” shelter.  I was offered a crash course on exploring the values which are essential to us Asian muslims, namely FOOD.

Food is the single most crucial criteria around which, every situation is judged and based !

Here are a few ‘Loose conclusions’ !!

  • We are a greedy lot !!
  • We lack order and discipline !!
  • We love to hoard !!
  • Cleanliness is not Godliness for us !!

Please know, that this is a loose conclusion not a stringent opinion.  Let me explain :-

The Prophet saws asked the Muslim to fill 1/3rd of his stomach with food ~ yet, I realized we have trouble with “interpreting” that instruction.

Forming queues for the elaborate buffet was not only an ordeal for some, but they actually preferred to crash into the queue shamelessly, inorder to reach that food  !!

Those who finally made it to the serving station, scoured thru the heavily laden biryani’s, promptly pulling out as many pieces of meat, they could.

I found people, piling 6 – 7 mini samosas and kebabs onto their plates ~ when asked why ? They replied it was for their friends back in the tent !! (oh yes, I did “ASK”)

What was most annoying was, people hanging around and eating their meal at the buffet area, adding chaos to the confusion !!!

We were all muslims, from various regions of the Indian subcontinent and yet, we behaved as though, food is the source of all our comfort !!

There were several fridges stacked with soft drinks, and fizzy drinks and water ~ and yet people couldn’t stop complaining about it not being cold enough !!!!!

I wonder if any of them ever pondered over the fact that WATER is a luxury in the desert ~ and yet when there was free flowing water available, they did nothing but complained.

Another aspect, which I noticed is, that WE ARE HOARDERS !!! Typically true !!

Inspite of hundreds of bottles of water and soft drinks, lined in the fridges ~ people had a tendency to hoard bottles to their tents ~ conveniently forgetting that there were plenty of others who would need it. Have we forgotten that a muslim is considerate and wants for his brother what he wants for himself ??

Why are we living with a weird philosophy of “the brother will take care of himself ??”

There were 4 to 5 ~ Ice cream refrigerators stacked with Ice creams and for the first two days, I watched in amazement, just how much Ice cream could be eaten by people ???? what really ticked me is the unfortunate habit where people couldn’t even close the fridge tightly, which eventually lead to all the cups melting !!! What a wasteful lot we are !!!

I watched as people ate snacks on their beds and without so much as a quick dusting off, sleeping away on the mess alittle later !!!

I watched as people dumped their garbage on “closed litter bins” instead of simply popping them open, and shoving it down !! Litter bins were abundantly scattered at every corner.

Did the Prophet SAWS say, Cleanliness is half of Deen ?

hmmm …. Had trouble finding that cleanliness here. ( I suppose its a cultural thing )

Naturally, I consoled myself, that people from all walks of life, all shades of the sphere were here and it was impossible to expect people to remain “civilized” ~ perhaps that’s when it dawned to me, that long before the western society started bullying the dark skinned man for being uncivilized ~ WE, the muslims were, literally handed the code to an entire civilized form of living, actually on a platter, 1400 years back !!

What did we do with this moral code of conduct ?

Oh yes, we got our children to memorize it, without understanding it.

We read it, without following it.

We conveniently adapted alien culture and mixed it with bits of Islam.

We wrapped it in a beautifully draped silk and left it to attract dust, right on top of the bookshelf !

We did not ponder over the meanings, we did not inculcate ‘His’ teachings, we did not even ‘try’.

Instead, we raise slogans of Takbeer if anyone dared to utter a word of disregard against our beautiful and precious religion. But have we once thought, what our Prophet himself would have thought of us, when we dumped half of our plate with food in the trash bin, pushed people to stand right infront of the buffet and thrown our garbage around on the ground  ???

Allah swt blessed you with the honor of being his guest ~ so were your actions, words, nature in accordance to being a guest ??

Would you behave in such a unacceptable manner in HIS presence too ??

Somewhere in all this, my sabr was being challenged a lot and I had to continuously console myself with that beautiful phrase, innallahma sabreen.

Sabr is in short supply in Hajj. But it is the only quality that shines on a muslims face. Without sabr, it all boils down to being on a journey and not a pilgrimage.

May Allah swt forgive me, my brothers and sisters, who were with me during my hajj for any of our misconduct, mistakes and misdeeds . ameen

We have a long way to go, for from becoming a better muslim, we will surely become better humans and surely, it is not vice versa.

My next post on Hajj ~ the discovery will be next week, inshallah.

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Allah Hafiz

Kuwait-to-boycott-50-companies

A bold move ~ a long awaited move ~ and finally, a wise move.

What remains to be seen, is if this is set for the papers or will it be implemented.

However, a more pressing question of the hour is, will the brothers follow suit ?

http://www.bdsmovement.net/2014/kuwait-to-boycott-50-companies-12770

The government of Kuwait has announced that it will not deal with 50 companies due to their role in illegal Israeli settlements in the occupied Palestinian territory in a move being welcomed by campaigners as a landmark success for the Boycott, Divestment and Sanctions (BDS) movement. The blacklisted companies include some of the top corporate targets of the BDS movement, such as Volvo, Heidelberg Cement, Dexia, Pizzarotti, Alstom as well as Veolia. Veolia was recently excluded from a $750m contract, and “all future contracts,” by Kuwaiti authorities over its role in the illegal Jerusalem Light Rail project and other projects that serve illegal Israeli settlements. The blacklisted companies are expected to be excluded from contracts worth billions of dollars, especially if other Arab countries take similar steps. -

See more at: http://www.bdsmovement.net/2014/kuwait-to-boycott-50-companies-12770#sthash.iBtQ7PWG.dpuf

 

Gaza ~ the world’s largest prison.

Salam Alaikum brothers and sisters.

I have been ‘missing in action’ on this blog and I apologize for that, but who in their rightful mind, could focus on a blog in the midst of the hideous massacre taking place in Gaza !!

This ramadhan was a blessing for us. We were blessed to be in good health, blessed to be together and blessed to be fasting.  Sadly this Ramadhan also bought with it an awful reminder. A reminder of death, a reminder of mass scale destruction of the muslim ummah and a reminder of how we could, can and would perish if we did not remain steadfast in our worship and stand for our brothers and sisters, suffering in different parts of the world.

Also a reminder that, inspite of all the chaos and loss of life in Gaza, the world’s largest democratic government did not reach out to help them, send aid to them, or even condemn the oppressor. It was a reminder that NO HUMAN OR NATION can or will, help the muslim ummah except ofcourse, Allah Almighty, and hence we should not beseech anyone but Allah swt.

I will not repeat here, about the mass-scale destruction of homes, hospitals, schools, industries and even the power station ~ And I will not repeat the images of blown bodies, mutilated heads, pregnant mothers shot in the head, babies dying in the neo natal wards due to lack of medication and electricity.  Those are stories that you already know.

But I will say that I am appalled by the total lack of empathy on the part of the United Nations. I will say, that it leaves me with despair to realize that this organization has failed miserably in saving precious lives, taking immediate and appropriate action in rescuing the old, the women and children ~ the civilians, who had nothing to do with Hamas. This organization has shown us that the reins lie in the hands of the world’s largest bully.

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There are countries, who refuse to call it a genocide while there are countries, where thousands have come out on streets in protest.  South American countries, South Africa, Ireland, Turkey, Afghanistan are some of the amazing countries which were vocal in their decisions to stand against the Zionists.  While what is appalling is the silence by the Muslim world including Pakistan !!

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This genocide is a reminder of how real the holocaust is for the muslims ! It is a reminder of which muslim state, stands by his brother and which muslim state has become so addicted to his lavish lifestyle that he dare not get out of his comfort zone. Politics and power is the price they are NOT ready to pay for.

Another aspect that became crystal clear is the sly role of the “media” ~ while American channels like ABC had even shown blown up Palestinian homes claiming them to be Israeli !! (which they apologized for later ~ when mass damage had already taken place ) ~  BBC in particular has played the most  ‘shocking’ role !! Thousands of English people gathered in protest of BBC’s preposterous role in the entire coverage of the “war on Gaza”

There is a saying that only in trial, we realize who our friends and our foe are. Before the trial ~ all are our friends.

Man proposes his plans and he is arrogant for he believes his plans will succeed but Allah Almighty has his own plans and his plans are righteous and Just. He is the best judge. For all those little children who were drilled with bullet holes and shrapnel, brutally murdered mothers and callously shot grandparents. For all those lifeless babies who couldn’t make it to their first breath in this world ~ to all those fathers who had to silently carry the mutilated bodies and limbs of their precious sons and daughters ~ ALLAH ALMIGHTY is the best judge. So fret not ~ Your loss in this world will be highly rewarded in the next.  Inshallah.

And for the silent muslim spectators ~ you have a lot to answer to Allah Almighty ~ so be prepared.

The only silver lining in the Gaza Massacre was that people all over the world ~ sat up, took notice and reacted in a positive way ~ the learned realized researched the archives of Palestinian history ~ the wise discovered how atrocious Israel’s plans were and scores of Jews, themselves protested against it ! One such remarkable name is Naomi Wolf.  That itself, is a victory of the sorts. What with, having spent millions in keeping a tight grip on the media for decades ~ finally the social media has been able to deliver where the news media failed.

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And as for Israel’s media and economics control: people are now waking up to crimes that are committed by Israel, thanks to the social medias, people like myself are boycotting all Israeli products. It’s slowly showing up in the stock market. The fact is, Israel can try to control people by feeding them wrong propagandas and lies, but a ‘woken up’ mind is more lethal than any of their tactics. It’s time to call a spade a spade!

Predator or Nurturer ?

The animal kingdom never ceases to amaze me and the human kingdom never ceases to disappoint.

Have you viewed this link ? Click on the picture to read how the drama enfolds :-

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Please view this link and let me know your thoughts here.

Many a times, animal behavior is far beyond what human behavior can even comprehend.

Do come back with your views.

Photographer Gets Too Close To A Dangerous Predator, Then Something Amazing Happens
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Photographer Gets Too Close To A Dangerous Predator, Then Something Amazing Happens
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Lower your gaze ~ my brothers.

This picture speaks volumes !!

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  • We all claim to love Allah swt
  • We all claim to pray salaat.
  • We all claim to give Zakaat.
  • We keep saum to please Allah swt in Ramadhan
  • Yet, what we don’t realize is that these are the small tests that Allah swt presents to us.
  • Did we remember what we were taught during our upbringing ?
  • Did we remember our hadith ?
  • Did we even remember what our beloved Prophet did when non-mahram women passed by ?
  • How many passed this test ? How many failed ?
  • Please remember brothers AND sisters, ‘tests’ don’t always come in huge and dire situations ~ mostly they come in small packages to test the imaan.
  • Remember ~ There is zina from the eyes as well.
  • Infact the most complicated situations, almost always arise from the most “innocent of meetings”
  • Lower your gaze, my brothers. It will lead you straight to an unbearable place.
  • May Allah swt protect our beautiful ummah. Ameen.